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What's wrong with me :S

Hey, i was wondering if anyone has anyone ever felt like this?

- Get pi$$ed off really easy.
- Get angry over past events, and you can feel your hands go all weird like pins and needles.
- Mood swings, like really bad :frown:

it's as bad as having a moodswing every other hour!
- Feeling of being depressed, sometimes sucidal when other stress builds up on me when i'm already really sad due to a bad mood swing or something.
- Really weird sleep patterns! Like sometimes i sleep in the day because i'm happier at night so i don't have to deal with the irregular sadness in the day.
- When i go out "chilling" with mates, i feel ok but as soon as i get home i feel bad as something would remind me of a past event whilst out so i would get all depressed again.

I know i should probably go to a doctor but i really don't wanna and i'm comfortable on this site though i'm using anon lol. I just feel ashammed of feeling like this because it is really "normal"

PS: The past event was breaking up with my ex girlfriend and it probably ended in the worse possible way like one min she was there all loved up with me and the next she was with another guy. We was engaged aswell so it's really depressing. It's weird now, i feel better just typing this out :confused:

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& i do talk to close friends about my ex-girlfriend but none of them have been in this position before and they end up making me feel worse. 1 girl helps me quite a bit but she likes me and she is really pretty and stuff too, so i'm not sure if i should give it a try, i'm meant to be meeting her today but like an idiot i'm gonna get out of it because i feel kinda depressed and i don't want her going off me if i'm not lively. Sry for such a long post, maybe someone else here has felt similiar or know how i can sort myself out. Thanks :smile:

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

ooops, i'm really bad at writing long posts and make grammar mistakes and stuff... i mean't it isn't really normal. Just incase someone is like wtf :p:

Reply 2

in_vogue

Hi,
Yes, have experienced that before myself. It's interesting how all your ''symptoms'' seem more or less to be linked to your fiancee leaving you. The best thing you can do is go and get counselling. A lot of people won't because they think they're unjustified in doing so, but it's simply not true. Talking to a 3rd party who does not necessarily know much about you and is impartial will help you to express feelings you might not have had the opportunity to, and a professional will also help you work through issues and move on.
The main thing is being able to let go and move on, as you obviously still feel very angry about the whole thing which is understandable!

Hope this helped :smile:

Reply 3

joaney

Although you say you dont want to visit your doctor it might be a good idea as it sounds as if you are suffering from depression. Wanting to sleep at inappropriate times and mood swings are classic symptoms and are probably connected to your bad experience with your ex. A doctor would simply prescribe you a mild anti-depressant like prozac which would help lift your mood for a short while until you start to feel better. These drugs are not addictive and your doctor would monitor your progress. If this isnt for you then your best course of action is to talk over your feelings with an independent counsellor, if you are at college there should be someone available to speak to, if not why not give the samaritans a ring. As for starting a new relationship, simply take things slowly. If this new girl knows what you have been through and is still interested then she sounds okay and will be understanding.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Thanks for the replies, i found both very helpful :smile:

nice1. The thing is, i'm really shy and i'm gonna find it hard to go see a doc and tell him about my problems and the way i feel, same thing with a counceller too. Maybe i could give the samaritans a go but is there anyway i can help myself rather than rely on others. It's just i've been let down alot and i know third parties are there to help me but it would be great if i can get through this bymyself because then if bad stuff happens in the future then i wont have to go and depend on someone else. I think i hit the limit to talking to friends lol, anymore out of me is gonna pi$$ em off so that's that bit messed. It's like, there is 1 close mate, i can probably rant to her probably 1 more time before she gets annoyed. Good job tsr is here otherwise that 1 rant left would of been gone lol.

I was thinking maybe a holiday during reading week of uni, how did you get through it Flememeningo? I just don't wanna be this angry guy who gets annoyed for no reason, though i never show my anger it still messes me up because i can't release it and then i get more pissed off. Alcohol helps but i'm not gonna be stupid and only go out drinking with friends twice a month because i don't wanna become dependent.

Thanks

Reply 5

sidi

Hi,
You seem to regard asking for help as a weakness. Don't! It's the best option. We all need a little help from time to time. And you'll be the perfect person to reciprocate and help someone else in good time.

Reply 6

username47781

Well i would get very angry easily when i was back at school, but that was the issue it was because i hated school.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Carl1982

Well i would get very angry easily when i was back at school, but that was the issue it was because i hated school.

The thing with that is, you can see your cure, like school would finnish and you would see the light at the end of the tunnel and now you are out of school [assuming you are] do you feel better now and if so then maybe i can think like this. The problem with me is, it's people who screwed me over and backstabbed me that got me feeling like this. It happened in school with many racist chavs but i would always think that i can take this for a few years and then i'll be free and it worked, me and my friends never had to take that bad stuff ever again. I guess it's the same now but i really want to enjoy uni and seeing my ex every week is gonna get me down especially seeing her with her new bf. I guess i am gonna need to push myself and try going to a third party because even talking on here is helping me and i can't come back on here all the time i'm depressed. Another thing, i always check out my facebook every day or other day and my ex is on that and even looking at that gets me down. I'm gonna have to let go but the question is how, will it end in me keep talking to a third party for a huge part of the following year or can i find another solution.

It's just when i'm on my own my mood goes up and down and i'm the kind of guy who likes alot of time to himself. Maybe i can just switch and go out everyday rather than 3-4 times a week :s-smilie:

This whole situation just reminds of me Tony in the sopranos lol, and didn't he pay thousands talking to a "shrink", i hope uni is free.

Reply 8

username47781

Yeah i am at uni now once i was out of school things started to become so much better, like you at school i was backstabbed so many times, best thing you can do is just ignore your ex, it's her loss and best thing is not to let her see you upset.

With Uni there is so many opportunities to meet new friends join clubs etc the chances are you won't see too much of your ex.

Reply 9

in_vogue

The thing is, if you go to see a counsellor, or a psychologist, or a GP or whatever, they're not going to sit down with you and go ''Right, now let's sort this out.'' It'll be more like they'll ask open-ended questions, and before you know it, it'll be all pouring out, you'll be expressing yourself freely, and probably not as well as you could have done with friends.
I think it's important to be very aware of where you anger comes from. Another poster mentioned his came from school. Yours obviously comes from past relationships, notably your ex-fiancee.
What I did was I went camping on my own for a weekend. Try and get away from absolutely everyone for a small amount of time, even if it's just an afternoon. I found it very soothing to be surrounded by nature (no hippy jokes please :p:

) and although it sounds like a cliche, whether you're in a forest, by the sea, or up a mountain on your own, you begin to realize that there is actually more to the world, and to life, than you and your problems. What I mean is, what feels like something that will never end actually WILL. People have come before you and will come after you, and your time here is limited. So you might as well seize the moment and take every opportunity to live life to the full.

Concerning your fiancee, I think she dealt you a very low blow. You should try and get rid of things that remind you of her. Do you still have photos of her lying around in your room? You dont have to destroy them, but put them away until you're happy with yourself and can look at them again. I don't know how facebook works (I've myspace myself!), but there must be a way of cutting the ties between yours and your exes? But despite the low blow, remember that even LOWER blows have been dealt to other people. A woman in my family was left with a kid under 2 and pregnant with another one, by her husband, who left her for an 18 year old. So although things look tough, remember that other people have gone through it and come out the other side. You mention other people have treated you like **** and you say yourself they were racists. Obviously it's totally normal for you to feel angry about that, but just remember that you're past that now, you've moved on and you're starting anew.

I think something that is over-looked in today's world (god, I sound about 80!) is solitude. I'm not saying become a social hermit. But there is a lot of pressure to have a whole gang of mates you can go on the pull with, or hang around with, which is great. But at the end of the day, the only person who is ALWAYS going to be physically and emotionally there when things get tough is yourself. If you spend a bit of time alone away from people's questions and opinions, you might feel more attuned to what you really think.

Finally, find something to take your mind off your ex. Easier said than done, I know, but really the fastest way to heal a broken heart is to take your mind off it. Do you have any hobbies? Go for a walk or running or something, I know that helped me. Because you seem to have so much anger, try taking up a sport. Or if you already do some sport, practice more.

Hope that helped, I know it's not easy. Bear in mind that any opinions on this board come from personal experience and that we're not professionals. So the only thing I can do is offer support :smile:

Reply 10

devilgirl999

it is most definately depression. i (stupidly) eventually went to the doctor on the day before christmas eve (3 years ago) and within 2 weeks of taking my medication i felt so much better.

Reply 11

JamieInPompey

Yeah I get the same symptoms but I don't like to go to the doctor about it just because I am thinking he will dismiss it as teenage angst or something :s I know I probably should sort it out, but I am thinking it might sort itself out when I get away from ex-gf and crappy friends

Reply 12

NJA

Is life just a playground ?

That's what life is for many people . . . an enclosed time,
with mood-swings, social climbing and sliding, and a merry-go-round to give you the sensations of busyness.

Then maybe you can show children the way to play.

But if there's another life, don't you want to know ?

You may have heard rumours of a heavenly father,
perfect love and knowing the truth instead of opinion
. . . are these true ? . . . people called "seers" and
"prophets" have put these ideas about, and Jesus
Christ says that you must be born again to see the
truth for yourself.

What do you see ?

* * * * *

Seems to me we have a spiritual need which philosophy, emotions/feelings & material things can't satisfy so moods, depression, or ego-centricism are the result.

Reply 13

LadyEnglish

You probably feel angry at the recollection of breaking up with your girlfriend because it was unresolved, you probably never got a good reason why it happened and so you're constantly wondering why it happened. The only way you can resolve your troubles is to talk to her in a friendly manner and just ask why she wanted to break up; you need closure.The best thing to do is to come to terms with the key word: past. Don't let it interfere with the here and now. Troubling subconscious memories can damage sleep patterns, make you grouchy and thus lead to sleep patterns. They're always there, and their effects on your day to day life are almost similar to parapraxia. These mood swings are almost 'slips' of the subconscious, bringing to mind the anger you felt when you broke up with your girlfriend. If you can't get over something troubling you you'll never be at ease. Sort out the aspects of the split that trouble you and feel you're whole persona be free of worry :biggrin: