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Who pays for what with friends
this question may seem silly... but here it goes.. when you go out with your friends do you pay for your own stuff or not? thing is im going to uni and i always feel when i go out with someone i have to pay... does anyone else feel like this? im male btw... is it different for boys and girls as to who pays for what if your friends.
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With me and my friends we'll either buy rounds of drinks while we're out or if we're at a meal we'll each pay for what we've eaten. We work for our money so we dont want to pay for everyone else when it's not necessary. Pay for what you have and it's perfectly fair. Sure, it can look a bit petty at times tryign to work it out but I'd much rather pay for what I've had than end up paying double that.
Reply 2
When going out for a meal i would recommened asking everyone if your are going to split the bill equally, or just pay for what you have eaten before you order.
I once went for a chinese and only ate a fivers worth of food and drank water because i knew i couldnt afford anymore, but some ate and drink nearly 40 quids worth of stuff! Then somenone said that we were going to split the bill and it all blew up into some arguement.
Your always going to get someone whos tight and wont repay that drink you bought them, but you soon learn who will and whos after what they can get out of you.
Dont feel obliged to pay for things just because your a guy
I once went for a chinese and only ate a fivers worth of food and drank water because i knew i couldnt afford anymore, but some ate and drink nearly 40 quids worth of stuff! Then somenone said that we were going to split the bill and it all blew up into some arguement.
Your always going to get someone whos tight and wont repay that drink you bought them, but you soon learn who will and whos after what they can get out of you.
Dont feel obliged to pay for things just because your a guy
Reply 3
When I go out for meals with my friends we always pay for what we ate/drank. Its not fair to expect people to pay for food or drink (particularly wine and stuff) if they didnt eat it.
When 'out' out we generally buy a round each or just pay for our own.....none of the guys i go out with tend to feel obliged to pay, and trust me, no one minds
i think it'd be a bit unreasonable to be honest....
When 'out' out we generally buy a round each or just pay for our own.....none of the guys i go out with tend to feel obliged to pay, and trust me, no one minds
i think it'd be a bit unreasonable to be honest....Reply 4
Hmm if you're off to uni, I wouldn't worry, nobody is going to want to spend much money cos you'll all be poor students, so I'm sure everybody will pay for their own, or agree to split equally.
Don't feel obliged to pay cos you're a guy- my guy friends never do that, and when I'm out with all or some of my friends together, we never split it equally, we pay for what we've had. Because it can be an a*se to work out though, we try and order separately as opposed to all together.
Don't feel obliged to pay cos you're a guy- my guy friends never do that, and when I'm out with all or some of my friends together, we never split it equally, we pay for what we've had. Because it can be an a*se to work out though, we try and order separately as opposed to all together.
Reply 8
Generally we split it down the middle, unless there's a specific thing (like a bottle of wine) that someone had but everyone else didn't.
It's silly that your friends expect you to pay for them, and I'm sure no one will when you get to uni.
It's silly that your friends expect you to pay for them, and I'm sure no one will when you get to uni.
When out for meals, we just pay for what we had - that all started off as they all had bottles of wine at £15 between them and i don't drink!! With my friends who i've known for years, we just pay for things randomly, like cinder's example! But at Uni just took it in turns for rounds - as everyone always had the same drinks was never a problem
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I find it quite irritating if I go out with friends for dinner and we split the bill. I'm vegetarian and don't really drink alcohol so my meals are invariably cheaper; they have meat and always have wine with their meal. I know they'd rather split the bill for obvious reasons, but although it's a bit more complicated to work out I'd rather pay for myself. I think that's what people expect when you're a poor student, anyway. I sympathise with you, it can be a bit awkward but it changes in different situations...like if you're at the bar with one of your friends, offer to buy their drink and so on.
Reply 11
Drinks: everyone buys rounds if you're in a pub. In a club just get your own or ask a couple of mates if they want a drink too - no point obviously trying to track everyone down on the dancefloor to ask what they want...
Meal: depends who I'm with. If I'm out with my 'grown-up friends' (people from hockey in their 20s/30s) then we usually just split it equally. With friends my age we usually end up all paying our own - there's always a couple of people who are feeling cash-strapped and have only had a starter, half of us are vegetarians, and a few of my friends don't drink, so other people cover wine.
Make sure you add the tip on before you split it though, or everyone claims they've paid their share but half the people have actually forgotten the tip, and a few people end up having to chip in.
Just the kind of etiquette question I'm a bit worried about though - stuff like who you're supposed to tip and things.
Meal: depends who I'm with. If I'm out with my 'grown-up friends' (people from hockey in their 20s/30s) then we usually just split it equally. With friends my age we usually end up all paying our own - there's always a couple of people who are feeling cash-strapped and have only had a starter, half of us are vegetarians, and a few of my friends don't drink, so other people cover wine.
Make sure you add the tip on before you split it though, or everyone claims they've paid their share but half the people have actually forgotten the tip, and a few people end up having to chip in.
Just the kind of etiquette question I'm a bit worried about though - stuff like who you're supposed to tip and things.
We tend to split everything pretty much equally. But at the same time, with good friends, none of us really mind if we end up paying a bit more on one occasion, or buy a friend the odd drink.
But yesterday was a bit weird, cos a group of us went to the pub, and one of our friends tried to pay for EVERYTHING. I mean, he spent about 8 hours in various different pubs, with the number of people he was with varying between 3 and 12 people. And he got annoyed if anyone tried to buy themself a drink. I managed to get myself a couple of drinks and paid for a drink for my boyfriend at the same time. But he still must have bought me quite a few drinks, and also we all shared chips and onion rings, which he paid for.
I feel quite bad about this in a way, because in total, he must have spent over £100 pounds, I reckon. But at the same time, he WANTS to spend his money that way, I think everyone there offered to pay for their own drinks on several occasions, and he clearly has money to waste. So how guilty should I feel really?
But yesterday was a bit weird, cos a group of us went to the pub, and one of our friends tried to pay for EVERYTHING. I mean, he spent about 8 hours in various different pubs, with the number of people he was with varying between 3 and 12 people. And he got annoyed if anyone tried to buy themself a drink. I managed to get myself a couple of drinks and paid for a drink for my boyfriend at the same time. But he still must have bought me quite a few drinks, and also we all shared chips and onion rings, which he paid for.
I feel quite bad about this in a way, because in total, he must have spent over £100 pounds, I reckon. But at the same time, he WANTS to spend his money that way, I think everyone there offered to pay for their own drinks on several occasions, and he clearly has money to waste. So how guilty should I feel really?
Reply 13
It doesn't get easier to work this out, esp for a guy, trust me. I'm a post-grad and when I go out with my female friends, I often feel compelled to pay for things.
It also doesn't help that generally I have more money than my friends, given that my parents are generous towards me and I also have a very good part-time job and so I usually end up paying for more (esp when they have no money, which is most of the time, as they are all on very tight budgets).
Although it's not just with girls, when my best-mate is around (and that's not a lot because he goes to uni in another city) and has no money (again, poor student... so that often is the case), if I don't pay, we don't actually do anything, we just hang around chatting, doing the same old thing over and over and over... that can only be good for so long, then you want to do things... hence, need money. So I end up paying.
It also doesn't help that generally I have more money than my friends, given that my parents are generous towards me and I also have a very good part-time job and so I usually end up paying for more (esp when they have no money, which is most of the time, as they are all on very tight budgets).
Although it's not just with girls, when my best-mate is around (and that's not a lot because he goes to uni in another city) and has no money (again, poor student... so that often is the case), if I don't pay, we don't actually do anything, we just hang around chatting, doing the same old thing over and over and over... that can only be good for so long, then you want to do things... hence, need money. So I end up paying.
Since i have taken a year out and now i am going to uni i got a pretty good full time job. It pays me well and when i go out i want to have a bit of fun but loads of my friends are always poor so i end up paying quite a lot of the time. I don't really mind really i am sure some of my friend’s prob owe me a couple of hundred quid but then i can afford that at the moment.
I do think it is a bit tight to count up what you have ate as i have always generally spilt the bill but then again if somebody has no money i don't mind paying for them so they can eat or drink what they want and next time they do the same for me.
I do think it is a bit tight to count up what you have ate as i have always generally spilt the bill but then again if somebody has no money i don't mind paying for them so they can eat or drink what they want and next time they do the same for me.
Reply 15
at pub, normally buy rounds, occasionally will pay for people, but everyone does it for each other so its no big deal.
when we go for meals, we tend to just split it equaly as no one can be fussed to work it out.
however, you do QUICKLY learn who the tight friends are.
and to be honest, its really really offputting.
one of my friends is quite close with this rly tight guy, and the tight guy like, makes him pay for all meals and stuff, and uses rubbish excuses to get out of it.
my friend visited him during the holiday once, and the tight guy tried to make my friend pay for absolutely everythng, just cos he was staying at his house (his parents house)
its pretty lame.
so, in conclusion: buy ppl drinks who will buy drinks back for you, dont fork out for tight people, and dont feel obliged topay for girls. the only girl i am obliged to pay for is my GF
when we go for meals, we tend to just split it equaly as no one can be fussed to work it out.
however, you do QUICKLY learn who the tight friends are.
and to be honest, its really really offputting.
one of my friends is quite close with this rly tight guy, and the tight guy like, makes him pay for all meals and stuff, and uses rubbish excuses to get out of it.
my friend visited him during the holiday once, and the tight guy tried to make my friend pay for absolutely everythng, just cos he was staying at his house (his parents house)
its pretty lame.
so, in conclusion: buy ppl drinks who will buy drinks back for you, dont fork out for tight people, and dont feel obliged topay for girls. the only girl i am obliged to pay for is my GF
Reply 16
You shouldn't feel like you have to pay for your girl mates to be honest! I would be really offended if my lad mates tried to pay for my food, most decent girls would want to pay their own way. Only time it might be different is with a girlfriend or a date, but even then I would still offer to pay half.
On the whole drinks in a bar thing just buy rounds, or if you meet someone offer to buy them a drink. I'm a girl and if lads ever buy me a drink when I'm out, as in someone i've just met, I go get the next drinks!
On the whole drinks in a bar thing just buy rounds, or if you meet someone offer to buy them a drink. I'm a girl and if lads ever buy me a drink when I'm out, as in someone i've just met, I go get the next drinks!
Reply 17
When we go out for meals we usually split it because it gets complicated.
When we go out for drinks we usually just buy our own ones.
When we go out for drinks we usually just buy our own ones.
Reply 18
Each pay for your own otherwise it might get complicated owing money or whatever. It's just easier 
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xxxReply 19
I just generally pay for what I've had, although if we end up with a complicated bill we'll split it equally.
Of course, when it comes to little things like buying snacks, I'm always up for trying to con friends into buying them for me.
Of course, when it comes to little things like buying snacks, I'm always up for trying to con friends into buying them for me.
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