Socialising

Hi, sorry don't really know where to put this.

I was wondering - do such things as social skills classes exist? Like, to teach you to become more confident and better with people. Don't really know how to explain it - I'm not weird or anything lol and I have friends it's just I'm not very good at making new friends, talking to people I don't know so well, or just...yeah. Was wondering if there was some kind of expert lol I could see to help me? Lol now I sound weird :frown:

hehe

Any help appreciated xxx

Reply 1

wirbelsturm

2

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Hi, sorry don't really know where to put this.

I was wondering - do such things as social skills classes exist? Like, to teach you to become more confident and better with people.

Its not weird, the answer is yes, such classes do exist. If your going to uni there might be some sessions there, just go and see the student councillers. Apart from that there a usually a few leaflets nocking about at health centres and such. Dont worry about it many people get like that sometimes.

Reply 2

Squelchy

I've never understood how people have problems socialising. OK, there's not much you can do if you try to talk to people and they knock you back, but surely you can force yourself to talk to people in the first place?

Reply 3

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OP

11

yeah I can talk to them but if i don't know them so well i am kind of...not relaxed and confident, kind of uncomfortable and thinking they don't wana talk to me, even if they started talking to me in the first place.

Also people misinterpret me. Lol, so if i'm sitting there people will often ask what's wrong or why i just gave them a dogey look when i'm absolutely fine and did nothing lol. actually that's not much to do with it lol but hey, it doesn't help.

I just wana be able to talk normally to people, because as i am now, it looks like i don't wana talk to them and so they're not gunna wana talk to me and i'm not gunna make friends.

it sounds so weird but i am normal hehe!

and no i'm not at uni. will look it up on the internet and ask my mum.

Reply 4

username47781

20

I think really you just got to be yourself, i think though especially if your going to uni you will have a much better chance to meet new people.

Reply 5

halfoflessthan50p

12

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Hi, sorry don't really know where to put this.

I was wondering - do such things as social skills classes exist? Like, to teach you to become more confident and better with people. Don't really know how to explain it - I'm not weird or anything lol and I have friends it's just I'm not very good at making new friends, talking to people I don't know so well, or just...yeah. Was wondering if there was some kind of expert lol I could see to help me? Lol now I sound weird :frown:

hehe

Any help appreciated xxx

Thats a reaaaly good question actually! I've never seen an advert for social skills classes. But theres so so many people who have problems with it (how many people do you know who are perfectly happy with their social skills?) People just have to work it out themselves usually. You could make a killing teaching social skills i reckon

ange im sure theres plenty of books (can anyone recommend anything?), you could try that. Or if you've got a close friend whos confident and good at talking you could ask them to help you with it.

Its a personal thing though; something you can solve yourself if youre willing to try. I think most people with low self-confidence work it by the end of high school or somewhere in uni (basically its about learning not to care)

anyway good luck hun :wink:

Reply 6

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OP

11

im not going to uni for another year hehe. but being myself is being so quiet and lacking in self confidence. it sucks.

Reply 7

Bubblebee

15

Socialising for Dummies? I bet you £10 it exists

Reply 8

username47781

20

Takes time to build confidence, once you go to uni though you will find it is much easier.

Reply 9

El Scotto

15

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Hi, sorry don't really know where to put this.

I was wondering - do such things as social skills classes exist? Like, to teach you to become more confident and better with people. Don't really know how to explain it - I'm not weird or anything lol and I have friends it's just I'm not very good at making new friends, talking to people I don't know so well, or just...yeah. Was wondering if there was some kind of expert lol I could see to help me? Lol now I sound weird :frown:

hehe

Any help appreciated xxx

go get yourself a job somewhere where you have to be friendly to people you dont know. Probably a locals bar would be good for you... as you'd have quiet times and be forced to chat to random strangers.

Reply 10

LadyEnglish

2

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Hi, sorry don't really know where to put this.

I was wondering - do such things as social skills classes exist? Like, to teach you to become more confident and better with people. Don't really know how to explain it - I'm not weird or anything lol and I have friends it's just I'm not very good at making new friends, talking to people I don't know so well, or just...yeah. Was wondering if there was some kind of expert lol I could see to help me? Lol now I sound weird :frown:

hehe

Any help appreciated xxx

Take drama. Improves confidence, improvisation - talking on the spot with no knowledge of what about, and just generally helps you talk in front of people. Just go to an evening class, it'll help :smile:

Good luck with everything xxx

Reply 11

prince of persia

go out n drink some alcohol

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