First 'Date'

First up, I'm gonna apologise for anon posting here - just that I don't want the person I'm writing about to see this! Ok, basically here's my situation:

I've fancied this girl now for aaaages, and I found out the other day that she feels the same way (apparantly), and when we're back at uni, I'm planning on organising a day/night out for us both. We've been friends for a while, but I was just wondering where you think is the best place to go/what to do?

I've heard a few suggestions, but all been pretty bad! Cinema seems really unsociable to me 'cos you're not actually talking to the other person and dinner seems all too formal at this stage! What do you people think? ANY help appreciated.

THANK YOU ALL!
One confused boy :smile:

Reply 1

username47781

20

Maybe a restaurant for a nice dinner together, maybe just for a drink together.

Reply 2

bedbug

14

It really depends what you're both into and what there is to do in your area. If you're near any fun attractions (think theme park, Brighton pier, etc) you could go for a wander round there in the day and just have fun. You don't have to be in a romantic setting to enjoy each other's company. I'd keep it quite cool and not try to make it too romantic in case it makes things feel a bit awkward. If you keep things pretty natural and how you're used to them being then the focus can be more on getting to know each other as more than friends than the actual setting.

Not sure if that made sense but I tried..

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Ok, how about this (directed at girls, mainly), how would you feel if a guy took you out just to, for example ice skating or something during the day and drinks in the evening? What do you think?

Reply 4

bedbug

14

I'd say that would be great - something that isn't too intense and that's fun. But that's just my personal preference, I'm not one for overblown romantic gestures.

Reply 5

m.a.y.a

take her ice skating and then get a bite to eat after, and then the following evening you could arrange a drink.

or you could go bowling but to me that's more of a group thing

Reply 6

Squelchy

m.a.y.a

or you could go bowling but to me that's more of a group thing

I was just about to suggest bowling. You're doing something "busy," you're free to talk, the competition adds electricity to the atmosphere and lets you flirt more easily, bowling is the way to go.

Reply 7

khil

15

Yeh, the ice-skating thing sounds good. If she can't skate, then in a way, all the better for you - excuses to hold her hand, save her from a fall lol. We were out ice-skating with friends once, me and my bf, and I almost fell cus I can't skate and bf kinda held onto me and kinda swung me back up-right and into his arms, which I found kinda sweet :biggrin:

Dunno if you wanna be that full-on with a first date though lol.

Yeh, go out for lunch, take her shopping and buy her a little present, or ice-skating, as you've said, then drinks at night or maybe a casual dinner at like Pizza Hut or something. Not too formal, but not as cheap as McDonalds.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Thank you all!! Now just need to pluck up the courage and ask her... :s-smilie:

Reply 9

username47781

20

Just got for it :biggrin:

if you don't ask you won't know, what you got to lose :biggrin:

Reply 10

Starsailor

1

Ice skating's a laugh and there's a lot of contact so =]. I think I went there for a first date too. Go for it.

I remember falling spectucularly with my legs and arms flailing about everywhere , trying to get back up quickly and regain some dignity but slipping again. :redface:

It wasn't pleasant at the time but it did make for a nice little talkpoint over dinner later. :smile:

Reply 11

Sweyn Forkbeard

19

Don't go bowling - some girls will probably hate that, especially if you get at all competitive.

Reply 12

unfinished sympathy

15

Will

Don't go bowling - some girls will probably hate that, especially if you get at all competitive.

i hate bowling cos i get bored cos im a crap bowler :p:

i need the wall thingies up :p:

Reply 13

yellowdots

2

yeah, fun, relaxed activities like bowling and ice skating are a good way to go as they're not too formal and you can flirt alot, ie. as was previously mentionned, helping her ice skate if she cant...
And if things go well, ask her if she wants to go for a drink or something after that.
Good luck!! - now go ask her! :smile:

Reply 14

Quintanium

Ice skating and a drink sounds like a great time. Heck, even I wanna go out with you even if I'm not interested. :redface:

Good luck!

Reply 15

Squelchy

Will

Don't go bowling - some girls will probably hate that, especially if you get at all competitive.

Most girls love bowling.

As for the competitive thing, that depends entirely how he plays it. He can still be competitive, but in a light hearted and fun way. As long as the atmosphere is fun and electric then it will be good.

Even better, he could play it to his advantage and pretend to be competitive, but actually let her win, so there's the element of tension and the unexpected throughout the whole date.

Reply 16

rosetinted

2

Not bowling! I'd say do something like ice skating or paintballing. Running around will release endorphins which make people feel happier. So that guarantees she enjoys herself!

Reply 17

Squelchy

You'd suggest paintballing over bowling?!?

On a first date it's probably not a great idea to ensure his date gets sweaty, muddy and bruised all over, unless she's up for it.

Reply 18

rosetinted

2

Yeah I'd hate for someone to take me bowling! It's boring and you have to wear smelly rented shoes. Give me running around and having a laugh any day. It really depends on the girl...I'm an outdoor sort of person so bruises don't phase me, I already have tons from my job. Anyway I didn't suggest rugby tackling her during paintballing! Although...interesting ice breaker..lol.

Obviously the best thing to do is find out what she thinks is fun and then do it.

Reply 19

Squelchy

Have you ever been paintballing? You get a huge bruise when you get smacked by a paintball.

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