I guess I just need to let it all out.

Just got off the phone to my "boyfriend".

Basically I leave for uni next Thursday and for the whole of this week he has been away Surfing in Cornwall which for one reason or another was a trip I didn't go on... so I have been pacing about the house and wandering about shops on my own for the last few days. I have had precious few text messages from him although there has only been one night where we didn't speak on the phone.

Now however he has just told me that he is coming home early tomoro to spend the morning with me, I already made plans to see an old friend of mine for lunch which he knew about but denied. I said I would cancell casue I'd rather see him but he said don't bother because he is gonna give his ex a driving lesson instead.

**** me, do I have a right to be pissed off that after a week of being away he'd rather see her than me?

Also this weekend he is going to a festival which I sold my ticket to becuase he told me he wasnt going. So another few days without him. Then it will be monday and only four more days till I go.

I'm so ****ed off. Pretty much crying so hard I can't see the moniter (thank the lord for typing lessons eh?)

I just wanted to rant and hear your opinions on this.

Go ahead give me your best....

Reply 1

username47781

20

We told you before, if he loved you he would be more devoted to you but sorry he's using you, he clearly still likes his ex.

Reply 2

Bean__x

3

You seem too dependent on your boyfriend...Why couldn't you go to the festival without him? Why did you go shopping alone? And...you definitely shouldn't put boyfriends before friends, I learnt that the hard way!
To me you seem to be depending on him a lot more, he's been out of order but only because you've let him and let it get to you. Next time he cancels something just say, ok sure i'll go out with *insert name here* etc...
Of course you shouldn't stand for him letting you down but you shouldn't put so much of your time on him, I think. Maybe he feels pressured?

Reply 3

Bubblebee

OP

15

I sold my ticket because it was supposed to be the last weekend of 'us'...and I needed the money.

My two best friends left the island some months ago and although I have seen a few 'friends' I was mostly ostrasized from my group when I broke up with my ex for Jamie.

Reply 4

Shreerac1

10

Bubblebee

he has been away Surfing in Cornwall

Wahaaay

surf comes first

Reply 5

Bubblebee

OP

15

Shreerac1

Wahaaay

surf comes first

Truly a kindred spirit.... I believe I will die being away from the sea while at uni!

Reply 6

xChellex

You need to talk to him about it.
Tell him how you feel and see what he says. I was in a similar situation before, and I wish I had talked about it with him a lot sooner. The longer you leave it, the more you both ignore the situation and the more neglected the relationship becomes.
He may not be aware that there is a situation, and if he's aware of it, you need to discuss both your thoughts and feelings about it.

:hugs:

You can only do so much. If he can't understand that you should be a priotiy over giving his ex a driving lesson, then it could be time to let him go. You are jsutified in being upset about this, your boyfriend is not giving you your due attention. You need to find out if this is accidental, or if there is an issue he's avoiding.

Reply 7

matt@internet

12

Bubblebee

I sold my ticket because it was supposed to be the last weekend of 'us'...and I needed the money.

My two best friends left the island some months ago and although I have seen a few 'friends' I was mostly ostrasized from my group when I broke up with my ex for Jamie.

Jamie's been back down to Cornwall so soon? Sorry, thinking of someone else. Anyway, aaawww, poor you :frown:

. In fact, group hug everyone, for Bubblebee ;grouphugs; .

Reply 8

Kingers

* cough bunny, BUNNY BOILER!

dont be such a moaning minnie

your boyfriend has a life too

give me neg rep, i dont care, at least im being honest.

bloody hell how are you ever going to cope at university

Reply 9

matt@internet

12

What does bunny boiler mean?

Reply 10

Ella_belle

1

Its from Fatal Attraction - this guy's stalker actually does boil his daughter's pet rabbit in a saucepan.

Kingers, stop being such an idiot. She has a right to want to see her boyfriend, especially just before she goes off to uni, and he clearly doesn't appreciate that she was willing to cancel her own plans just to see him. Which is a perfectly good reason to be upset.

Bubblebee, talk to your boyfriend and see what he says. He's probably just being a bit oblivious.

Reply 11

Bubblebee

OP

15

matt@internet

Jamie's been back down to Cornwall so soon? Sorry, thinking of someone else. Anyway, aaawww, poor you :frown:

. In fact, group hug everyone, for Bubblebee ;grouphugs; .

Matt, you're brill.... and a storming hottie :love:

wanna go to a festival?

errr, as to the other guy, I'm not a bunny boiler, however you are an idiot.

Reply 12

rosetinted

2

The guy sounds like he's investing a lot less effort and interest in this relationship than you are. There are several clear examples in your message of him chosing not to be with you. Now that in itself is not always a bad thing. It is healthy for couples to have time apart and you don't want to be too dependant on him. However I think this is beyond normal having time to yourself and into the whole pushing you away territory.

I think going off to uni and having him out of your life will be the best thing for you. The guy is pissing you around and getting away will give you a more objective view of things.

Reply 13

username47781

20

Bear in mind this guy has cheated on you with his ex at least 3 times
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=274116

Reply 14

tbm

13

You could do so much better Bubblebee!

I would leave him to it with his ex, if he cant see that you should be more important than she is then you are better off without him!

Make a clean break and go off to uni, you'll soon make loads of new friends and forget about him!

I know you probably love him but he shouldnt be making you feel like this, if he genuinely cared then he would put you first.

Reply 15

Squelchy

I think you're more than entitled enough to be pissed off about this.

I also think you're incomprehensibly foolish to take back a guy who's cheated on you 3 times.

Reply 16

Dragon24

17

Carl1982

Bear in mind this guy has cheated on you with his ex at least 3 times
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=274116

You always remember when someone has posted a problem before! Lol. I think that's a good idea to put the link though, reminds the op of their concerns.

Reply 17

theflcgal

Bubblebee

Just got off the phone to my "boyfriend".

Basically I leave for uni next Thursday and for the whole of this week he has been away Surfing in Cornwall which for one reason or another was a trip I didn't go on... so I have been pacing about the house and wandering about shops on my own for the last few days. I have had precious few text messages from him although there has only been one night where we didn't speak on the phone.

Now however he has just told me that he is coming home early tomoro to spend the morning with me, I already made plans to see an old friend of mine for lunch which he knew about but denied. I said I would cancell casue I'd rather see him but he said don't bother because he is gonna give his ex a driving lesson instead.

**** me, do I have a right to be pissed off that after a week of being away he'd rather see her than me?

Also this weekend he is going to a festival which I sold my ticket to becuase he told me he wasnt going. So another few days without him. Then it will be monday and only four more days till I go.

I'm so ****ed off. Pretty much crying so hard I can't see the moniter (thank the lord for typing lessons eh?)

I just wanted to rant and hear your opinions on this.

Go ahead give me your best....

i think it sounds like hes a bit jealous that you'd agreed to meet an old friend and is punishing you by seeing his ex. if hes cheated on you with her already then dump him! he sounds like a right loser! you deserve way way better than this. you're just off to uni, about to meet loads of new people. its only worth having a relationship with a guy whos not at ur uni if hes a really really special guy. this guy does not sound like that. theres no way he should be seeing his ex after he'd already cheated on you with her! if it had been me, id have told him that after he'd cheated on me with her, if he ever saw her or had anything to do with her again, he was dumped. thats fair enough - its his fault if he cheated with her!! thats awful. you deserve soo much better. dump him and move on. and if hes cheated on you, are you really gona be able to trust him while you're at uni?!!

Reply 18

username47781

20

Angel83

You always remember when someone has posted a problem before! Lol. I think that's a good idea to put the link though, reminds the op of their concerns.

Exactly i mean i don't wanna sound like i was rubbing it in, i was just showing how uncaring this guy really is, it seems obvious he is still cheating on her, basically this guy is so not worth it.

Reply 19

Dragon24

17

Any decent guy would give up the remaining time to spend with you, I just can't understand why people cheat if they 'love' that person.

I guess I just need to let it all out.

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