How to turn someone down?

How do I reject someone nicely when they ask to go for a drink etc.?

It's getting really tiring this happening on FB with guys all the time, but I never want to use the 'I'm seeing someone' card because it just presume that they are interested? (As a drink could be innocent..)

Also would it be weird to change FB to 'in a relationship' just to put people off? I currently don't even have it as single but it still happens.
Just seems like just replying occasionally to guys must mean I am interested, I just don't even want to reply to anyone anymore now - it makes me feel like a b*tch saying no all the time.

Reply 1

NiallMall

have you tried one word answers and being less responsive, maybe they will take the hint?

Reply 2

Midlander

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Original post by Anonymous

How do I reject someone nicely when they ask to go for a drink etc.?

It's getting really tiring this happening on FB with guys all the time, but I never want to use the 'I'm seeing someone' card because it just presume that they are interested? (As a drink could be innocent..)

Also would it be weird to change FB to 'in a relationship' just to put people off? I currently don't even have it as single but it still happens.
Just seems like just replying occasionally to guys must mean I am interested, I just don't even want to reply to anyone anymore now - it makes me feel like a b*tch saying no all the time.

Have you considered the wild 'I'm not interested, sorry'?

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Reply 3

Octohedral

16

Polite honesty is the best policy. Always.

Unless they are crazy or obsessive.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

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Original post by NiallMall

have you tried one word answers and being less responsive, maybe they will take the hint?

Most of my conversations with guys who are getting a bit creepy go like that lol. They rarely get the hint.
One guy I did have to outright reject with my friends' help even then insisted that I might stop seeing them so I may as well...

Original post by Midlander

Have you considered the wild 'I'm not interested, sorry'?

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That just sounds so unexplanatory to me :O
But no it did not cross my mind... I had the 'I don't drink' or 'I can't, I'm an escort' or something...

Reply 5

User1032692

5

reply firstly. Nothing worse than going silent and not answering a question.
Politely decline. say something honest but sensitive 'i am sleeping with ur bro'

Reply 6

Midlander

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Original post by Anonymous

Most of my conversations with guys who are getting a bit creepy go like that lol. They rarely get the hint.
One guy I did have to outright reject with my friends' help even then insisted that I might stop seeing them so I may as well...

That just sounds so unexplanatory to me :O
But no it did not cross my mind... I had the 'I don't drink' or 'I can't, I'm an escort' or something...

You want to tell a guy you're not interested, but haven't considered just telling him that? A guy asking you out won't really care about the reason for being turned down.

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