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Irritation at Girlfriend

My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly six months, and she's going off to uni in a couple of weeks. I'm staying back at home for a gap year, then going to a uni fairly close to hers next september. We agreed ages ago that we'd try to make our relationship work when she goes to uni, but..

She got back from a two-week holiday recently, and we kept in touch very well, missed each other but got through it. So, that's not the problem. The problem is that since she's gotten back, I've been feeling insanely jealous of anything that keeps me from spending time with her. Whether it's her making plans to see relatives, going to bed early because she's tired, or anything else.

I realise that this is entirely irrational, and I need to let her do what she has to before she goes to uni (and generally), but I can't shake this feeling. Little things she does that I have been fine with in the past, have now become annoying.

I'm still very much in love with her, but we haven't really had any rough patches yet in our relationship.. So, I'm not really sure how to deal with this. I've even found myself thinking that I may want to break up with her before she goes, because if it doesn't work now, how could it work when we're far apart?

Sorry about the length.. Comments and advice appreciated, thanks!

Reply 1

lovelee-jublee

My boyfriend and I are in the same situation - I'm off to Uni (not far though, only about half hour away) whilst he'll be at home, except we've been together for 3 years!

Your girlfriend will have a lot of things to do in the run up to Uni, but it sounds like you understand that. Have you talked to her about it? Maybe she doesn't realise just how much you are going to miss her and how you want to make the most of your time left together. I think the only thing you can do is have a chat with her, but the times you do get together really make the most of. Remember, she's not going to the other side of the world, and you'll be able to talk regularly - maybe even get one of those internet phones?

Also, your post has made me realise that as the one going to Uni, I need to make the most of the time with my boyfriend before I go... I often complain I'm tired and want to go to bed early and he gets the hump and I get annoyed, but now I realise he probably just wants to spend more time with me before I go. So thank you for that, and I hope you get on ok with your girlfriend :smile:

Reply 2

lolly83

You need to remember that it's not how much time you spend with her before she goes, but the quality of that time.
Next time she says she's tired, offer her a massage before she nods off. (she'll love you even more for it.)
You run the risk that she picks up on your negativity, then she won't want to spend time with you and you get this vicious circle going.
Bear in mind she's not just leaving you, but all her friends and relatives too.
Let her see them, but work at making the time you do spend together a positve and enjoyable time.