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girlfriends dad is sexually harassing me...
now this has been going on for a few months and i avent talked about it with anyone other then my closest friend.
im seeing this girl who is really pretty and smart, and things are going well. she is quite close to her family, and lives with them. about 7 weeks she invited me over to meet her family. they seemed like ok people. her dad asked me to come over the pub,and I thought great, im bonding with the family. but while in the pub, after a few pints, he started touching me, and saying things.
i thought that it was a joke, but he continued for about twenty-thrity minutes, till a mate of his walked over to our table. AT that moment i was ****ting myself, and wanted to get away. when i was alone with my gf, i told her about it, but not as seriously as i would have liked, and she laughed about it and forgot, and since that day i avent been over to her house.
however ive been receiving phone calls and messages from his dad, saying very explicit things to me. just last week, he cam over to my house to drop off my gf. she, without asking me, invited him in, and it all seemed fine till she went to the WC, and while i was in the kitchen, he came up and began rubbing himself against me. i violently pushed him away, but the man was just groping me and touching me. i felt so embarrassed, and still do.
after that incident, told my gf what happened but she blamed me saying that i didnt understand his sense of humour and that he was joking.
i dont know what to do.
im seeing this girl who is really pretty and smart, and things are going well. she is quite close to her family, and lives with them. about 7 weeks she invited me over to meet her family. they seemed like ok people. her dad asked me to come over the pub,and I thought great, im bonding with the family. but while in the pub, after a few pints, he started touching me, and saying things.
i thought that it was a joke, but he continued for about twenty-thrity minutes, till a mate of his walked over to our table. AT that moment i was ****ting myself, and wanted to get away. when i was alone with my gf, i told her about it, but not as seriously as i would have liked, and she laughed about it and forgot, and since that day i avent been over to her house.
however ive been receiving phone calls and messages from his dad, saying very explicit things to me. just last week, he cam over to my house to drop off my gf. she, without asking me, invited him in, and it all seemed fine till she went to the WC, and while i was in the kitchen, he came up and began rubbing himself against me. i violently pushed him away, but the man was just groping me and touching me. i felt so embarrassed, and still do.
after that incident, told my gf what happened but she blamed me saying that i didnt understand his sense of humour and that he was joking.
i dont know what to do.
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step 1. Buy dictophone
step 2. place dictophone in pocket and accept his next offer to go down the pub.
step 3. press record on the dictophone.
step 4. wait for inappropriate commetns to be made
step 5. floor him
step 6. explain everything to your girldfriend and play her the recording so that she can see that your actions were justified.
step 2. place dictophone in pocket and accept his next offer to go down the pub.
step 3. press record on the dictophone.
step 4. wait for inappropriate commetns to be made
step 5. floor him
step 6. explain everything to your girldfriend and play her the recording so that she can see that your actions were justified.
Forget having to justify yourself, just deck the ****er.
gonna turn out very well for the dad with a broken nose 
Maybe if you speak to your girlfriend again if it continues and say that you don't think you will be able to be around her father because of how serious it is then mayb she'l take you more seriously and realise that it isn't 'just his sense of humour'. N I'd say you need to be really firm with this bloke. If he knos he is getting away with it then he won't stop.
walk away. no girl, no matter how amazing she is worth all that trouble
My goodness, how old are you??
This is very complicated , not only because you want to save the relationship with this girl but also because for her family will always come first but ALSO because it will be hard for her to accept her dad has homosexual tendencies if she has seen no other proof.
Hmm…my goodness, well I suggest that you no longer go over to her house and sit down and tell her seriously, but with tact that this really has been happening….then maybe after judging her reaction say that that’s a reason you don’t want him cming over to yours
So difficult to do, not only because it will be v.hard to hear about her parents sexual thoughts and advances, but also because you have to get her to believe you AND not ruin the relationship ..im at a loss for possible wording but think that telling her is the best way….
anyone got advice on wording?
p.s don’t ‘deck’ him, and I think anyone talking about decking him here is overestimating their bravery in this situation
xxxxx
This is very complicated , not only because you want to save the relationship with this girl but also because for her family will always come first but ALSO because it will be hard for her to accept her dad has homosexual tendencies if she has seen no other proof.
Hmm…my goodness, well I suggest that you no longer go over to her house and sit down and tell her seriously, but with tact that this really has been happening….then maybe after judging her reaction say that that’s a reason you don’t want him cming over to yours
So difficult to do, not only because it will be v.hard to hear about her parents sexual thoughts and advances, but also because you have to get her to believe you AND not ruin the relationship ..im at a loss for possible wording but think that telling her is the best way….
anyone got advice on wording?
p.s don’t ‘deck’ him, and I think anyone talking about decking him here is overestimating their bravery in this situation
xxxxx
Just to add - just because you're a bloke doesn't mean you have to hit the man. I don't consider violence as a solution - a defence perhaps, but by no means a solution. Regardless of gender, I'd give the same advice. Tell someone about this, and your girlfriend, and soon. Otherwise things could escalate and get very nasty. I can understand you're trying to save your relationship, but if you dont tell anyone, you could end up losing more than just your girlfriend. It will be hard for her to hear, but there is still a chance shell stay with you.
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