I’ve grown up in this relationship after I found out my bf cheated on me.

The guy “won” my heart by telling me he could give up his future career, his family and friends here just to be with me, as I was his whole world. We had a very good time and he said I was his sole mate and best friend.


During Easter, I thought I might be pregnant, meanwhile, this girl came into our relationship. She was also my uni friend, I thought she was very nice and encouraged my bf and her to be friends. My bf said she looked very similar to me, but I was much more beautiful.


He started bringing up her name a lot, actually, he’d already been texting and hanging out with her (one on one) often, he hid it from me and told me he didn’t really speak to her.


Then one night my bf and I were texting about our uni work and he suddenly stopped replying and disappeared. He’d told me he was in library so I went to see him as I was there as well. But he wasn’t there. So I called him, he was very nervous on the phone and lied to me he was by himself, but he was actually with her.


Later I found all this out, this was the most heart broken thing at that period. And finally he told me it was not that he was lying/hiding, it was that he could do whatever he wanted without telling me.


He was also distant to me at that period, he didn’t even care I might be pregnant, he said it was too painful to see me.


Actually, I knew his interests on me has declined since we slept together, he told me the honey moon was over and we had to get back to normal life, not that affectionate. And he started to got angry at me over small things (he sometimes apologized afterwards though). Meanwhile, he still liked talking to different girls, my uni friend told me she’d seen him initiated conversation with girls a lot after lectures.


But I kept silent about these things. I helped him with uni work, cooked and sewed for him, watched football with him, never hesitated to lend him money when he needed, I tried my best to make him happy. But, as he said, spending too much time with me made him feel bored, and it would be interesting to find happiness with other people ( this is really what he said).


To be honest, at first, I hated him and the girl so much that I would like everyone to know what happened. But one day I saw a picture of a friend of mine, let’s call her J (I just picked up a random letter, no specific meaning), with her bf B (same, just a random letter). B had a girlfriend when I started dating J and eventually he broke up with his ex and get into a relationship with J. Although I knew what J and his bf had done was wrong and would have caused B’s ex gf so much pain, but simply because she was my friend so I didn’t hate her and still I wished them all the best, with sympathy towards B’s ex of course.


I’ve understood that you see things differently from different angles, if I can open up my mind, I’ll understand that that girl probably really likes my bf and can’t help but wants his company even though she knows it would hurt me, and my bf, who doesn’t have a sense of responsibility and empathy, has just grown up to be the person that life has taught him to be. In the end, they’re just different people, I would never want to be like them, but there’s no need to hate.


And yes, I broke up with him, and wished happy. And, he hates me now, for he said he feels like being thrown away, and said it’s very rude for me not to reply his texts. He also says he’s done nothing wrong. I don’t even want to argue with him, but it’s poor for someone to think like that, for no one could have ever done nothing wrong, we just learn from our mistakes to be better.


Yes, this is a rather heart breaking experience for me, but I’ve learned how to be a better girlfriend and how to choose the person I date, and luckily I learned it in a young age.

The guy “won” my heart by telling me he could give up his future career, his family and friends here just to be with me, as I was his whole world. We had a very good time and he said I was his sole mate and best friend.


During Easter, I thought I might be pregnant, meanwhile, this girl came into our relationship. She was also my uni friend, I thought she was very nice and encouraged my bf and her to be friends. My bf said she looked very similar to me, but I was much more beautiful.


He started bringing up her name a lot, actually, he’d already been texting and hanging out with her (one on one) often, he hid it from me and told me he didn’t really speak to her.


Then one night my bf and I were texting about our uni work and he suddenly stopped replying and disappeared. He’d told me he was in library so I went to see him as I was there as well. But he wasn’t there. So I called him, he was very nervous on the phone and lied to me he was by himself, but he was actually with her.


Later I found all this out, this was the most heart broken thing at that period. And finally he told me it was not that he was lying/hiding, it was that he could do whatever he wanted without telling me.


He was also distant to me at that period, he didn’t even care I might be pregnant, he said it was too painful to see me.


Actually, I knew his interests on me has declined since we slept together, he told me the honey moon was over and we had to get back to normal life, not that affectionate. And he started to got angry at me over small things (he sometimes apologized afterwards though). Meanwhile, he still liked talking to different girls, my uni friend told me she’d seen him initiated conversation with girls a lot after lectures.


But I kept silent about these things. I helped him with uni work, cooked and sewed for him, watched football with him, never hesitated to lend him money when he needed, I tried my best to make him happy. But, as he said, spending too much time with me made him feel bored, and it would be interesting to find happiness with other people ( this is really what he said).


To be honest, at first, I hated him and the girl so much that I would like everyone to know what happened. But one day I saw a picture of a friend of mine, let’s call her J (I just picked up a random letter, no specific meaning), with her bf B (same, just a random letter). B had a girlfriend when he started dating J and eventually he broke up with his ex and get into a relationship with J. Although I knew what J and his bf had done was wrong and would have caused B’s ex gf so much pain, but simply because she was my friend so I didn’t hate her and still I wished them all the best, with sympathy towards B’s ex of course.


I’ve understood that you see things differently from different angles, if I can open up my mind, I’ll understand that that girl probably really likes my bf and can’t help but wants his company even though she knows it would hurt me, and my bf, who doesn’t have a sense of responsibility and empathy, has just grown up to be the person that life has taught him to be. In the end, they’re just different people, I would never want to be like them, but there’s no need to hate.


And yes, I broke up with him, and wished him happy. And, he hates me now, for he said he feels like being thrown away, and said it’s very rude for me not to reply his texts. He also says he’s done nothing wrong. I don’t even want to argue with him, but it’s poor for someone to think like that, for no one could have ever done nothing wrong, we just learn from our mistakes to be better.


Yes, this is a rather heart breaking experience for me, but I’ve learned how to be a better girlfriend and how to choose the person I date, and luckily I learned it in a young age.

The guy “won” my heart by telling me he could give up his future career, his family and friends here just to be with me, as I was his whole world. We had a very good time and he said I was his sole mate and best friend.


During Easter, I thought I might be pregnant, meanwhile, this girl came into our relationship. She was also my uni friend, I thought she was very nice and encouraged my bf and her to be friends. My bf said she looked very similar to me, but I was much more beautiful.


He started bringing up her name a lot, actually, he’d already been texting and hanging out with her (one on one) often, he hid it from me and told me he didn’t really speak to her.


Then one night my bf and I were texting about our uni work and he suddenly stopped replying and disappeared. He’d told me he was in library so I went to see him as I was there as well. But he wasn’t there. So I called him, he was very nervous on the phone and lied to me he was by himself, but he was actually with her.


Later I found all this out, this was the most heart broken thing at that period. And finally he told me it was not that he was lying/hiding, it was that he could do whatever he wanted without telling me.


He was also distant to me at that period, he didn’t even care I might be pregnant, he said it was too painful to see me.


Actually, I knew his interests on me has declined since we slept together, he told me the honey moon was over and we had to get back to normal life, not that affectionate. And he started to got angry at me over small things (he sometimes apologized afterwards though). Meanwhile, he still liked talking to different girls, my uni friend told me she’d seen him initiated conversation with girls a lot after lectures.


But I kept silent about these things. I helped him with uni work, cooked and sewed for him, watched football with him, never hesitated to lend him money when he needed, I tried my best to make him happy. But, as he said, spending too much time with me made him feel bored, and it would be interesting to find happiness with other people ( this is really what he said).


To be honest, at first, I hated him and the girl so much that I would like everyone to know what happened. But one day I saw a picture of a friend of mine, let’s call her J (I just picked up a random letter, no specific meaning), with her bf B (same, just a random letter). B had a girlfriend when he started dating J and eventually he broke up with his ex and get into a relationship with J. Although I knew what J and his bf had done was wrong and would have caused B’s ex gf so much pain, but simply because she was my friend so I didn’t hate her and still I wished them all the best, with sympathy towards B’s ex of course.


I’ve understood that you see things differently from different angles, if I can open up my mind, I’ll understand that that girl probably really likes my bf and can’t help but wants his company even though she knows it would hurt me, and my bf, who doesn’t have a sense of responsibility and empathy, has just grown up to be the person that life has taught him to be. In the end, they’re just different people, I would never want to be like them, but there’s no need to hate.


And yes, I broke up with him, and wished him happy. And, he hates me now, for he said he feels like being thrown away, and said it’s very rude for me not to reply his texts. He also says he’s done nothing wrong. I don’t even want to argue with him, but it’s poor for someone to think like that, for no one could have ever done nothing wrong, we just learn from our mistakes to be better.


Yes, this is a rather heart breaking experience for me, but I’ve learned how to be a better girlfriend and how to choose the person I date, and luckily I learned it in a young age.