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I've always loved my food, been brought up to finish everything on my plate and appreciated how lucky I am to be able to eat plenty. But I now am 20 and I have body image issues. I'm 5'5 and 9st 3lb so not necessarily fat in fact everyone says im perfectly healthy and fine. I don't think im exactly fat but would like to tone up and be a lot thinner in certain places, its not my weight its my kind of shape. I dont think its very feminine. Everyone tells me its fine and im attractive but I cannot see this.
Ayways I started eating heathily in jan as a new yrs res and i lost weight and have maintained a 'healthy' weight as mentioned above. But now I have cut down on what I eat and dont eat much at all, not enough. I have now started to make myself sick after my evening meal. I don't think this is bad as I don't want to put on weight but detaching myself from the stituation and lookin in on my behaviour, this is eating disorder material and I can't stop.
Ayways I started eating heathily in jan as a new yrs res and i lost weight and have maintained a 'healthy' weight as mentioned above. But now I have cut down on what I eat and dont eat much at all, not enough. I have now started to make myself sick after my evening meal. I don't think this is bad as I don't want to put on weight but detaching myself from the stituation and lookin in on my behaviour, this is eating disorder material and I can't stop.
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make yourself eat a full meal and not throw up, you'll realise that it wont make you fat. the fact that you can look objectively at the situation means that you still have your personality so save yourself before you lose your personality (what eating disorders do). talk to a close friend and they can help you to be honest with yourself about your eating, and will help you not fade away
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I don't think this is bad as I don't want to put on weight but detaching myself from the stituation and lookin in on my behaviour, this is eating disorder material and I can't stop.
It is eating disorder material, and it is really bad. I know how hard it might be for you but you need to stop- stopping as soon as you can is going to be the best thing for you in the long run.
Is there anyone you can talk to about this? A trusted friend or relative? Its incredibly difficult to do these things on your own, and its easy to box yourself off from the world, which is when the situation can get alot worse.
Try and remind yourself that essentially you're a slim, attractive person and that its your own self perception thats bringing you down. Its great that you want to tone up/get fit/whatever but its important to keep everything in perspective.
Essentially its great that you've even posted this- it shows you understand something isnt right and that you're willing to ask for help. I hope you can find some, and I hope you get through it.
Thank you for being so kind, i have no one to talk to about it so I thought id post on here. Just a few words like that are helping me, i cant actually tell anyone else that im doin this.
My sister has bulimia, so I know this is tough on you. The main thing is that you realize yourself that you have a problem. One thing that would probably make yourself feel a whole lot better is taking up a sport if you don't already do any.
I'm really sorry to hear you feel so down about your shape, but honestly, in one form or another, it happens to most people. As a general rule, most people have at least one thing they'd like to change about themselves, and you're probably no different.
Try doing things to make yourself feel more feminine. It sounds such a cliche, I know, but even if you buy yourself a small piece of jewellry you really like, or a pretty top, anything that boosts your happiness and makes you feel more ''girly''.
It sounds like a lot of this is purely in your head though, since everyone else tells you you look great. If you were to post a picture up of yourself here, no-one would see what you see. This is all purely mental.
Hang in there, and hope you start feeling more confident.
I'm really sorry to hear you feel so down about your shape, but honestly, in one form or another, it happens to most people. As a general rule, most people have at least one thing they'd like to change about themselves, and you're probably no different.
Try doing things to make yourself feel more feminine. It sounds such a cliche, I know, but even if you buy yourself a small piece of jewellry you really like, or a pretty top, anything that boosts your happiness and makes you feel more ''girly''.
It sounds like a lot of this is purely in your head though, since everyone else tells you you look great. If you were to post a picture up of yourself here, no-one would see what you see. This is all purely mental.
Hang in there, and hope you start feeling more confident.
This is bad news. The puking will start to rot your teeth, and on top of that, the fact that you're not eating enough means that your muscle mass will start to atrophy and your body will hold onto bodyfat, in effect making you not only really skinny but also with a proportionately high bodyfat percentage.
Work out a decent nutritional plan and exercise regime that you can stick to. I recommend lots of fruit and veg.
Work out a decent nutritional plan and exercise regime that you can stick to. I recommend lots of fruit and veg.
Seriously, I'd see a professional. They can help you. It's great that you realise you have a problem! You sound a perfectly healthy weight and shape. Remember, women are meant to have some flesh on their bones... skeletal *really* isn't feminine. 
Throwing up regularly is bad for you, especially for your teeth. Your body likes food, so feed it! 
Your essential build isn't really something you can change by dieting or anything, e.g. I have a thick waist, but no amount of healthy eating will change that -- it's just my build, so i wear fitted clothes. 
Throwing up regularly is bad for you, especially for your teeth. Your body likes food, so feed it! Your essential build isn't really something you can change by dieting or anything, e.g. I have a thick waist, but no amount of healthy eating will change that -- it's just my build, so i wear fitted clothes. at 5 4 9 stone 3 is fairly large.
count in mind, however, that i've been to counseling for anorexia....
but yes. i would kill myself if i was that weight at that height.
count in mind, however, that i've been to counseling for anorexia....
but yes. i would kill myself if i was that weight at that height.
an honest person.
lol.
lol.
yup.
so as not to get neg repped. i like to protect my gems.
besides, I don't like people to know i'm regularly at the shrink's because i'm not natural enough to want to eat.
the end.
so as not to get neg repped. i like to protect my gems.
besides, I don't like people to know i'm regularly at the shrink's because i'm not natural enough to want to eat.
the end.
if you're anorexic that would be killing yourself.
squigaletta]"....make yourself eat a full meal and not throw up, you'll realise that it wont make you fat.
When you have an eating disorder that is exactly what you can't do. You feel you are going to perish with all that food inside you. No way around it. People then either work out, eat less for a while to compensate or make themselves sick.
To the OP:
Is there any (conscious or unconscious) reason for you wanting to change your shape? Try thinking about that. Is something else not quite right and you have feelings of "if only I were slimmer/ more toned (or whatever) everything would be ok?
Realizing that things aren't normal ist step one. The next step is to seek help. I suggest finding a group, plus maybe confiding in someone and professional help might be good as well. It can't just be turned off, even if people think that "you only have to stop"; try telling an alcoholic this... the nature of an eating disorder is along these lines (addiction).
Leisure17
When you have an eating disorder that is exactly what you can't do. You feel you are going to perish with all that food inside you. No way around it. People then either work out, eat less for a while to compensate or make themselves sick.
i have been there and trust me it works, you get this incredible fear that if you dont throw up you will get fat n die, but if you can make yourself, i used to make myself take my contraceptive pill after a meal so i couldnt purge, then it gets easier and you start to see that you can survive
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