Should I go to university if I am feeling like this?Watch
Sometimes completely lose interest in everything
Other reasons also...
You might want to consider taking a gap year, just try to seek help with what you're struggling with, and then consider university next year..
there isn't really any way to tell
But just to be sure, take a gap year and talk to someone to deal with the depression and anxiety first.
Also quick question: Was the anxiety and depression present before summer holidays? Or did it develop more recently?
also, I will add that although it's been difficult, since I moved over 200 miles from home to my uni, it's been the best couple of years of my life so far. Sometimes you need to take a leap and have a bit of faith in yourself and hope that you can have a bright future. Everyone is different though, just make sure you know what you want for yourself
I'd probably suggest taking a gap year, if you think that you can't handle uni right now. It's not for everyone.
I'm not saying you wouldn't get those with uni, but being out of the education system for a bit can do some people the world of good. Doing all your education in on 16/17 year chunk is not for everyone. The freedom and independence I got from taking those 3 years out did wonder for my confidence, enabled me to deal with and sort out most of my issues,, it meant I was more able to see the bigger picture, and when i started uni I was all the better for it. I also learned a lot about myself and ended up doing a slightly different course than I originally applied for, and was able to make the decision not to go into halls but into a small student house because I knew better what was right for me and what would suit me.
If you're doubting your ability or readiness for uni now, then you can always deferr your place a year, spend a year out focusing on yourself, self experience and learning to be more independent etc, and you'll be able to start university fresh, after a good break from education
Your disabilities are only obstacles you create for yourself. Yes life is bad, but it can get worse but is more likely to get better there is only so low you can go before it's impossible to have anything bad happen to you, look at the bright side you have a home and family who support you and you could get extra time for stuff based upon some of the things you may have.
now time for my favourite "quoteto combat depression that never works"
The world won't stop while you ask questions, so while you think about the past the world moves to the future.
Basically, even if everything is bad there is always a tomorrow and you can't stop that so just get used to it and soon you will find out who you are truly.
If it was less bad, and you engage with the university, you may enjoy university and your depression may improve. Your self-esteem may improve if you went to societies and met people, for example.
Of course, you need to be able to cope with the demands of the course. Talk to your trusted family and friends, they know you better than I do. You could also talk to your doctor, but doctors tend to be biased towards encouraging people to do stuff.
If you have these problems and have not yet seen a GP about them, please do so. They will assess you and begin treatment. It is important to find a GP you click with and don't feel like you are intimidated be them (which can be hard with social problems I know, but for me out of seven GPs there is one/two who I prefer to use).
Your health is the most important thing next to family (imo). You might think throwing yourself into a situation that forces you to act might develop you as a person. I have a few things I want to tell you from my experience on this.
I have been to university twice and dropped out in the second semester of first year because I exhausted dealing with depression on top of university life. I thought throwing myself to see if I could "swim" instead of sink might work. I also moved into accommodation with 11 others and it was awful. I reclused into my room and only ate when everyone else was out the kitchen. I just didn't want to talk to anyone because I was dealing with so much and would probably just burst and have an emotional breakdown lol.
If you already have reservations about going to uni, and that doesnt mean you can never go, then I think it would be best as I said to seek help just like you have sought help from this forum.
The fact that you have made the first step of admitting you have some problems is a huge step. Don't ignore them, deal with them now and you will have a better time at uni in the future.
I was mildly depressed in 6th form and my issues got worse at uni - I developed really bad anxiety that just kept getting worse - but I think that probably would have happened to me regardless of where I was. I reached my lowest point in 2nd year at exam time, when I felt like I was having a breakdown, and it affected my marks. Thankfully I was having counselling and not long after exams ended things started to improve for me. It's been long and difficult, but a year later and I finally feel like I can control my anxiety & depression and although it'll take a lot of hard work I can still get a first in my degree. I don't think I would have been able to find the courage to face up to my issues if I'd stayed at home as it would have been harder for me to access the kind of help and support that I did get at uni.
I (somehow) managed to stick with my degree whilst I was feeling at my worst and turn myself around and get better, but not everyone is able to do that. There's no shame in dropping out because you don't feel like you can cope. I had a friend who dropped out in January of first year due to depression triggered by a bad break-up and his mum being seriously ill; he took a year out, came back and dropped out again as he realised that uni wasn't for him. At the end of the day, your health is a priority and if going to university makes that worse then it would be worth dropping out to try and get better and give it a better shot later on. I would say give it a try now though as the change might be what you need, and if you feel like you're struggling too much, then drop out - you can always try again later.