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I Really Dont Know How to Deal with This.....

The thing is I have this girl thats my friend and that I kind of like and the thing is lately she's had hardly any time to see me lol cause she's had to work cause she badly needs the money for rent and stuff. The thing is I really wanted to get know her cause she only recently came down to where I live and I've been friends with her for quite a while but haven't seen much of her since now. I've sort of seen a bit of her here and there and she has came to my house the last few days but the last couple of days she has been soo busy and hasn't been able to see me and she's basically said she wont be able to see me for a month or so, it kinda pisses me off and I really dont like it. It is soo frustrating cause I really wanted to get to know her better and be better friends with her but its just not working out. Also she seems to have more time for other people then me cause she did this all nighter at this party before my birthday but then pisses around and then wont stay longer at my house on my birthday then 8 or 9 cause apparently she had to go to the job centre the next day, even though she had to do go to the job centre the day on my birthday but that didn't stop her going on an all nighter the night before and then being l8 for my birthday. Maybe Im being paranoid but it seems she neglects me and takes me for granted and doesn't make as much of an effort with me as I do with her or as she does for other people, it is just soo annoying and I ended up accusing her the other night of having more time for other ppl then me and she seemed confused and thought it was stupid but there you go. I just feel sooo pissed off about the situation and Im soo frustrated and Im scared Im going to get soo pissed off I'll end up being really horrible to her 1 day and ruining things with her. Its just not fair.

I could really use some advice on this, Does it sound like she doesn't really want to hang out with me or am I just being paranoid, how would u suggest I deal with this? any advice and wisdom would be gr8 :smile:

Reply 1

Janina1986

as you said, she seems very busy. and if you are only mates then she is probably trying to split her time evenly between you and her other friends. However, maybe she thinks you fancy her and she just doesn't feel the same for you and therefore tries to stay away from you a bit

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Maybe she thinks you're being obsessed with her. Relax and let her be for a while. Don't go after her for a while and if she values your friendship she'll make a move herself. Though i must say any chances of a relationship looks very remote from what u've said.

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

to be honest it sounds like u dont mean as much to her as she does to u or it cud be she just doesntr realise that she is upseetting u or she is bored of ya

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Just to bring in a "something similar happened to me" pov:

A girl I rather fancied did the same with me. I would go out of my way to spend time with her but she would just treat me in a cavalier manner. Broke my heart everytime that happened. Like, she would say she's busy the whole weekend with school work and I'd later find out from our common friends that she went to a movie with some others who weren't even as close friends as me.

I gave up on her. Still cared a lot, but didn't want to put up with all that. Now we're friends again but I have some reservations from her. I think she regrets but it was all for the best.

Any friend of mine who'd rather spend time with an average jack or jane, is not worth my time.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Thanx for the advice guys, thanx very much I've been think alongside the same lines....I think what Im definetly going to do is after she's been to my place 2morrow (she's got some stuff she needs to pick up from me btw) is not talk or phone her at all and leave her to make the first move to contact me, see if she does really want to be friends, at least I'll know either way.

What do u think?

Reply 6

General Mullet

That's a good way to go about it, don't be nasty to her or anything just hold back on contacting her.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

by the way, I have thought about having a talk and asking her about it, and maybe asking her if I've done anything wrong or if I bore her. I have asked her whether I bore her before but she's just said no lol and she does find me quite interesting but she is still kinda getting to know me though.

What do you think about talking to her about it?