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being rejected or rejecting someone?

which is the hardest to take...you telling someone that you dont feel anything for them (rejecting them) or them saying that they dont feel anything for you (them rejecting you)?

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Reply 1

Clarence

Being rejected. Obviously. But then i'm quite mean.

Reply 2

Electric

Being rejected is worse as your feelings aren't mirrored, rejecting is not as bad as there is probably feelings of guilt which are soon forgot about.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Being rejected, definitely.

I've done both and there's really no comparison. Being rejected hurt much much more than rejecting someone. But to put things in perspective, I rejected someone I barely knew. And the once I was rejected, the girl took it very badly and seemed almost as affected as me.

Reply 4

username47781

Being rejected is far worse i think.

Reply 5

parag

Rejection aint fun :frown:

Reply 6

Shreerac1

Having to reject someone is soo bad.

Reply 7

fairycakes

being rejected, cos it's not in ure power, u can't do anything really to stop it.

Reply 8

turkish_delight

this thread is stupid
obviously it is way worse being rejected

Reply 9

lolly83

being rejected rocks your confidence.

Reply 10

RogueTrader

definetely rejecting. I dont know what being rejected feels like :wink:

Reply 11

ForumFreak

If you've been rejected you feel self pity. When you reject someone you can feel really guilty. I think guilt is a much worse feeling than self pity, personally.

Reply 12

john171

I'd rather be rejected than reject someone. I don't enjoy feeling guilty.

Reply 13

sexysax

Neither are enjoyable, but the worst is probably being rejected.

Reply 14

slk999

being rejected. although if you reject someone you often feel you have a guilty consience.

Reply 15

Zafda

angelj

which is the hardest to take...you telling someone that you dont feel anything for them (rejecting them) or them saying that they dont feel anything for you (them rejecting you)?

common but yeah, i don't like the feeling of being rejected, it makes you feel pretty crap because you start questioning yourself and then soon realise its them, not you.

Reply 16

ForumFreak

Maybe it depends on how much self esteem you have. If you have low self esteem then rejection is so much worse than rejecting someone. If you have good self esteem then being rejected isn't nearly as bad.

Reply 17

myrtille

I've (fortunately) never had to reject anyone, so can't really judge. And only been rejected once, and the guy in question changed his mind and asked me out 6 weeks later :p:

But I think rejection is worse, most of the time. But if you were good friends, it could be worse to reject someone. If you care about them a lot so don't want to hurt them, but have no other choice.

Reply 18

Mr.God

The only times I have been rejected by a girl I actually gave a crap about I have only had myself and my stupid actions to blame (or other factors which were nothing to do with me). To be honest it hurt, but it didn't bruise my ego because if I were in their position then I would've acted in the same way.

I've had to reject girls I really care about which I found really difficult and awful to do, but when you don't fancy someone, you don't fancy them, you know?