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Guy likes me but i don't feel anything for him.

Advice PLEASE from anyone who's bee in this situation, we recently had some building work done on our house and 1 of the builders, (who is scrummy), became quite attached to me, he's a really nice guy and everything but I just don't fancy him,my friends all think I'm nuts because his family are loaded and his parents are really nice and all that, but I don't think it's fair to see somebody if you don't fancy them , not in that way anyway.

Don't want to hurt him but things are getting a bit stressy around here atm.

Any help much appreciated :frown:

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Haven't been in the situation my self because I'm a guy. If you aren't attracted to him then there is no obligation for you to go out with him. It would be unfair on him and yourself if you did. Most girls fob guys off with lame excuses, hopefully you can tell him that you just aren't attracted to him.

Reply 2

Montrose

17

Just be honest with him and say you don't feel that way about him - sometimes masculine pride prevents men from actually saying this, but we appreciate people being honest. There is nothing worse than someone giving you what is clearly a lie when explaining why they cannot go out with you.

Reply 3

User69701

10

You shouldn't really pursue any kind of romantic relationship wihit this guy. If it ws me I would rather you said straight out that you didn't see me that way.

Reply 4

Captain Haddock

18

tell him it aint gonna happen

Reply 5

icedout

1

Rich builder?

Reply 6

Mr.God

7

Just stay out of his way if you can.

Reply 7

friendsfreak88

JayB124

You shouldn't really pursue any kind of romantic relationship wihit this guy. If it ws me I would rather you said straight out that you didn't see me that way.

Yeah it is definitely better to be honest, although try not to be brutal. Otherwise he will be more disappointed as time goes on. It is hard to do but the best in the long run (for both you and him).

Reply 8

username47781

20

Honesty is the best way.

Reply 9

*sazzy*

I know how this feels hun, and it can be so awkward!

But as others have said being honest really is the best way to go. At least then you'll both know where you stand. Otherwise he might not get the hint (guys arent the best at that!) and get his hopes up for something that's never going to happen. And that then causes more problems!

Just try to be as nice as possible when you tell him, but still make sure that you get your point across, otherwise it might not help at all!

gd luck! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Reply 10

theflcgal

Connemara

Advice PLEASE from anyone who's bee in this situation, we recently had some building work done on our house and 1 of the builders, (who is scrummy), became quite attached to me, he's a really nice guy and everything but I just don't fancy him,my friends all think I'm nuts because his family are loaded and his parents are really nice and all that, but I don't think it's fair to see somebody if you don't fancy them , not in that way anyway.

Don't want to hurt him but things are getting a bit stressy around here atm.

Any help much appreciated :frown:

yeah im in that situation right now with a guy whos gona be going to the same uni as me. just tell him you dont fancy him. what are your other options? its the least cruel thing to do. that way you're not leading him on and wasting his time etc. you friends think you're nuts cos hes rich? thats not a good reason to go out with someone! and his parents are really the issue in your relationship. just tell him you're not interested (in a nice way). if he still pesters you then you'll have to be a little harsher for his own good.

Reply 11

theflcgal

oops i meant his parents are NOT the issue

Reply 12

Zafda

8

Connemara

Advice PLEASE from anyone who's bee in this situation, we recently had some building work done on our house and 1 of the builders, (who is scrummy), became quite attached to me, he's a really nice guy and everything but I just don't fancy him,my friends all think I'm nuts because his family are loaded and his parents are really nice and all that, but I don't think it's fair to see somebody if you don't fancy them , not in that way anyway.

Don't want to hurt him but things are getting a bit stressy around here atm.

Any help much appreciated :frown:

let him know you have eyes for someone else?
or in a conversation make it obv that you're not looking for a relationship.

don't bring it up like, hey i don't fancy you.. because he'll think you're :-/ for saying that out of the blue, but say if he does ask you if you like anyone.. just say yeah (even if its a lie), coz he'll back off.

i'm sure you could introduce him to someone else who he may be attracted to? i don't know.

Reply 13

MaryKay

OP

8

Thanks very much for the advice everybody, I'm going to do the right thing,anyways i'm off to Uni in 2 weeks time so Hopefully that will give me the courage to say something!!!!

Btw his family company are specialist builders they renovate listed buildings etc and are seriously minted, but I can't go out with somebody just because they have loads of cash. Anyways I think it's best to be honest :frown:

Guy likes me but i don't feel anything for him.

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