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Okay, this is a rather trivial problem but it's playing on my mind so I thought I'd get other people's points of views on how to deal with the situation. 
Basically I'm moving in with my boyfriend & three friends (two of which are also a couple). I'm in my second year at Uni, the couple are in their 3rd & my boyfriend and the other one are getting jobs as they graduated last year.
The problem we're faced with is rooms. The house we are moving into has 3 rooms. One is large and at the back, the other is medium & then there is a downstairs room which is medium. One of the guys is moving in for only 6 months & so is having the downstairs room as it will be more convinient in the long run. This left us with an ordeal over who was getting the big room! We all went up for the weekend two weeks ago & the couple got there before us, leaving some stuff in the big room, so we did the same. My boyfriend then rang them and said we should discuss who is having what room & after much delay, we all decided to pull strings. The outcome being that we got the big room, yay! Anyway, the girl is dissapointed but perfectly fine, yet her boyfriend is pulling a strop and is really peed off. He had a house last year with other people and had the big room then& it seems a case of if he doesn't get what he wants, he sulks. The girl is now laying the guilt trip on me big time!
I know this may seem like a petty problem but I'm now feeling really bad about having the room. In the long term it would make a lot more sense for us to have the big room (for various reasons) & I shouldn't feel bad because at the end of the day we won fair and square. Still, I can't help but feel this will cause problems! What do you suggest I do?
Basically I'm moving in with my boyfriend & three friends (two of which are also a couple). I'm in my second year at Uni, the couple are in their 3rd & my boyfriend and the other one are getting jobs as they graduated last year.
The problem we're faced with is rooms. The house we are moving into has 3 rooms. One is large and at the back, the other is medium & then there is a downstairs room which is medium. One of the guys is moving in for only 6 months & so is having the downstairs room as it will be more convinient in the long run. This left us with an ordeal over who was getting the big room! We all went up for the weekend two weeks ago & the couple got there before us, leaving some stuff in the big room, so we did the same. My boyfriend then rang them and said we should discuss who is having what room & after much delay, we all decided to pull strings. The outcome being that we got the big room, yay! Anyway, the girl is dissapointed but perfectly fine, yet her boyfriend is pulling a strop and is really peed off. He had a house last year with other people and had the big room then& it seems a case of if he doesn't get what he wants, he sulks. The girl is now laying the guilt trip on me big time!
I know this may seem like a petty problem but I'm now feeling really bad about having the room. In the long term it would make a lot more sense for us to have the big room (for various reasons) & I shouldn't feel bad because at the end of the day we won fair and square. Still, I can't help but feel this will cause problems! What do you suggest I do?
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Good idea. Problem is, none of us wants the bottom room. We'd all want the room upstairs. 
Absolutly- he is! 
What a prat! If you've done it fairly then he should accept that not everything always goes exactly his way. I'm pretty stubborn and if I were you I'd stand my ground because it's been done fair and square and his girlfriend doesn't have a right to guilt-trip you because you agreed to draw straws. What's the point in drawing straws if they get the room anyway? How old is this guy? He sounds a little bit childish 
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xxAlso, don't feel bad about having the room, your flat mates wouldn't!
Thanks, thats made me feel a bit better.
I know we won fair and square, I just think they were probably pretty adament that they were getting the room whereas we thought we probably wouldn't. I'm stubborn but not stubborn enough to be really peed off if I lost.... at the end of the day someone has to win & they didn't this time.
I know we won fair and square, I just think they were probably pretty adament that they were getting the room whereas we thought we probably wouldn't. I'm stubborn but not stubborn enough to be really peed off if I lost.... at the end of the day someone has to win & they didn't this time.
No. They are both classed as 'large rooms'. When I say the room is smaller, it isn't much smaller, it jsut doesn't have as nice furniture or wallpaper.
If you all agreed to draw straws then that's fine, you won fair and square. but I'm from the school of, first one there gets baggsies. They beat you to the big room, so I think you should have just put up with it. However, you agreed to draw straws and you two won, so stand your ground.
what issues mean you NEED the big room!?
i had a similar thing... because i found the house and sorted everything out 2 of the 5 of us decided i should get the biggest room.... since the other 2 werent there because they couldnt be bothered to get out of bed to come to sign the forms!
then when i got back the other 2 were giving it all "she's only getting that room coz she has a bf! its not really fair!"
i think its totally unfair they said that because its NOT just because i have a boyfriend its because i did a lot of phoning around and stuff to get the house and they cudnt even be bothered to get up half the time to viewings and stuff so i SHOULD be rewarded really i think!
i had a similar thing... because i found the house and sorted everything out 2 of the 5 of us decided i should get the biggest room.... since the other 2 werent there because they couldnt be bothered to get out of bed to come to sign the forms!
then when i got back the other 2 were giving it all "she's only getting that room coz she has a bf! its not really fair!"
i think its totally unfair they said that because its NOT just because i have a boyfriend its because i did a lot of phoning around and stuff to get the house and they cudnt even be bothered to get up half the time to viewings and stuff so i SHOULD be rewarded really i think!
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what issues mean you NEED the big room!?
i had a similar thing... because i found the house and sorted everything out 2 of the 5 of us decided i should get the biggest room.... since the other 2 werent there because they couldnt be bothered to get out of bed to come to sign the forms!
then when i got back the other 2 were giving it all "she's only getting that room coz she has a bf! its not really fair!"
i think its totally unfair they said that because its NOT just because i have a boyfriend its because i did a lot of phoning around and stuff to get the house and they cudnt even be bothered to get up half the time to viewings and stuff so i SHOULD be rewarded really i think!
i had a similar thing... because i found the house and sorted everything out 2 of the 5 of us decided i should get the biggest room.... since the other 2 werent there because they couldnt be bothered to get out of bed to come to sign the forms!
then when i got back the other 2 were giving it all "she's only getting that room coz she has a bf! its not really fair!"
i think its totally unfair they said that because its NOT just because i have a boyfriend its because i did a lot of phoning around and stuff to get the house and they cudnt even be bothered to get up half the time to viewings and stuff so i SHOULD be rewarded really i think!
It was me and my boyfriend who found the house and went to view it. The other lad couldn't be bothered & the first time he saw the house was last week. The bigger room is on the back and is more quiet & considering he will be working full time, it makes more sense. At the end of the day, we all decided to draw straws irrelevant of who deserved it more & we won.
Heh you have some quite immature friends, and they're meant to be older than you as well! Goodness me...
Keep your big room. You won fair and square. He wants to sulk? Let him sulk. Make a joke out of it when he sulks, laugh - not at him but just laugh it off. At the end of the day, he's ruining his days in the house for himself - why should you let him ruin your year too? If you give him the room, he'll never learn. For goodness' sake how old is he? 13!?
Keep your big room. You won fair and square. He wants to sulk? Let him sulk. Make a joke out of it when he sulks, laugh - not at him but just laugh it off. At the end of the day, he's ruining his days in the house for himself - why should you let him ruin your year too? If you give him the room, he'll never learn. For goodness' sake how old is he? 13!?
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It was me and my boyfriend who found the house and went to view it. The other lad couldn't be bothered & the first time he saw the house was last week. The bigger room is on the back and is more quiet & considering he will be working full time, it makes more sense. At the end of the day, we all decided to draw straws irrelevant of who deserved it more & we won.
well in that case ur in the same boat as me, since u took all the effort AND won fair and square i'd say to the girlfriend next time she moans that YOU were the 1 who went and found the house and you were the 1 who went to view it and it was her bf who cudnt be bothered! so since he wasnt bothered about the house in the FIRST place how can he b bothered about a bedroom!?!!!
lol
it proper annoys me that my horrible flatmates dont think im deserving of the bigger room i mean im STILL running round after them! sorting out this and that! i am the 1 who has to go at 9am on the moving in day to sort out the inventory and sign to say everything is fine!
dont see any of them offering to come with me!
He'll get over it. Just be nice to him: cook him dinner, buy him a present or something. Eventually he'll accept you got the big room and he didnt
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No. They are both classed as 'large rooms'. When I say the room is smaller, it isn't much smaller, it jsut doesn't have as nice furniture or wallpaper.
You could trade furniture with them so you get the bigger room and they get the nicer furniture?
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