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I have been going out with my boyfriend for a year, and the other day he told me that for around the past 10 years he has masturbated to porn almost every morning. I had a pretty good guess that he would masturbate quite often, but I'd never have thought he watches porn pretty much every day. I find the idea of porn disgusting. I told him how I feel and he said that nearly every man does it and it's harmless. I've been telling myself I shouldn't let it really bother me because I know he loves me but I can't get it out of my head. I can't describe how I feel but I suppose I find it rather disturbing to think that he watches other naked women etc. to masturbate all the time. I am so self-conscious about my body. All the women in porn videos are so perfect and I hate my body. It has taken me so much courage to get as far as we have in a physical way because I'd never even had a boyfriend before him, and now I feel like I will never be good enough and he will compare me to them. Maybe it is silly to feel this way but knowing this really has affected me and I can't seem to change my mindset.
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I completely understand how you feel and, if I was in the situation myself, would feel uncomfortable with the thought of my boyfriend constantly masturbating over women in porn.

Although it's hard to tell whether or not it would be a deal breaker :/

Sorry if that was a useless comment - but I can totally see your viewpoint


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Well clearly he must like your body even if you don't, otherwise he wouldn't be with you.
I, personally wouldn't go out with a guy who watched porn every day although I wouldn't mind if he masturbated every day, since some men are actually addicted to it.
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Honestly I'd be put off by it. I know that porn is supposedly a normal thing these days and everyone watches it but I just find it repulsive. Does nothing for me. And I don't care what anyone says, it has given guys unrealistic expectations of what women are "meant" to look like (just today I was reading comments online about how "saggy" Kate Upton's (natural) boobs are compared to porn stars' boobs :nothing:) and how sex is meant to be.

I wouldn't say it would be a deal-breaker for me, but I do find a guy watching it very regularly a big turn-off.
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If I'd known from the beginning it possibly could have been a deal breaker but, since we've been going out for over a year, I feel I have to try and not let it change things. But it makes me feel sick and it has changed the way I feel about him. I'm also concerned about the effects watching it every day could have on him. Basically knowing this has just messed up my head and I'm not sure what to do.
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da*** nikka give him a bj if he's just about to watch porn and get freaky :--)
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some girls are fine with it, me and my girlfriend sometimes watch porn together and she doesnt really mind if i watch porn, we've been together for more than a year and it really hasnt affected our relationship in any way, but i suppose people are different.
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I'd be fine with it. I watch porn so why would I care?

Your insecurities are not to do with your boyfriend, they're your own issues. Address them, go and see a counsellor. Telling him to stop watching porn won't make you feel any better about your body. Work on your self confidence.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
If I'd known from the beginning it possibly could have been a deal breaker but, since we've been going out for over a year, I feel I have to try and not let it change things. But it makes me feel sick and it has changed the way I feel about him. I'm also concerned about the effects watching it every day could have on him. Basically knowing this has just messed up my head and I'm not sure what to do.
Why? Sorry but I fail to see what the issue is here? Sounds like you're overreacting it's just porn.
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Porn can give ED but get a grip.

Just give him the V and he'll eventually wean himself off it. It's the same way men get your girlfriend to stop masturbating or mothers get their babies to start eating real food and not just milk.
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Why? Sorry but I fail to see what the issue is here? Sounds like you're overreacting it's just porn.
I can't help how I feel. I find the idea of him masturbating by looking at porn sickening. Especially every single day. And it's not healthy, it can really mess up your sex life.
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I can't help how I feel. I find the idea of him masturbating by looking at porn sickening. Especially every single day. And it's not healthy, it can really mess up your sex life.
That's your issue. What exactly is sickening about it?

Only if you prefer it to sex, which I don't think he does from your OP
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It would make my skin crawl tbh.. I find the idea revolting and don't even like my boyfriend of 2 years masturbating. I see it as, that's my job and if I'm good enough then there is no need for these disgusting little habits. So OP I sympathise with you and tbh, it would be a deal breaker for me :/
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It would make my skin crawl tbh.. I find the idea revolting and don't even like my boyfriend of 2 years masturbating. I see it as, that's my job and if I'm good enough then there is no need for these disgusting little habits. So OP I sympathise with you and tbh, it would be a deal breaker for me :/
:lolwut:

That's so controlling
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:lolwut:

That's so controlling
I said I don't like it, not that I stop it..
That may be the way a lot of people see it, and I can understand that, but it was a mutual decision that has in turn made our relationship a lot stronger and our sex life a lot better
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Hello all

I am a guy, and my girlfriend felt the same way. she told me it disgusted her, what basically happened is I stopped watching it for a long long time, we have been together nearly 2 years, if it bothers you that much and if he really does care he would stop. and if he doesnt well there are 2 options you try to be ok with it or KILL HIM IN HIS SLEEP but no really. I was in his position and I can tell you that I love my girlfriend very much. Men may watch it and be turned on by it but they will only love that one person, and he loves you. The point I am trying to get across is that he may watch it but he will care about you and will never compare you to them. he will be happy with you. porn isnt even realistic anyway. sorry for rambling but yeah ask to stop maybe and remember he loves you not them.
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I said I don't like it, not that I stop it..
That may be the way a lot of people see it, and I can understand that, but it was a mutual decision that has in turn made our relationship a lot stronger and our sex life a lot better
Hmm, whatever suits you, but personally I think that's messed up. Why is masturbating disgusting?
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Better grow up and get over it, I'm afraid. If he enjoys it, he would probably just do it without your knowledge. You can't force someone to give up something like that just because you're insecure. If you're insecure that's your problem.
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Hmm, whatever suits you, but personally I think that's messed up
You're entitled to your own opinion and tbh, I can see your point sort of, but it works for us :/
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I can't help how I feel. I find the idea of him masturbating by looking at porn sickening. Especially every single day. And it's not healthy, it can really mess up your sex life.
Would you feel better if he were masturbating while thinking about your friends? Or other people you know? It's kind of unrealistic to think he's going to masturbate over you every day for a year. If he's masturbating over other people (through porn or whatever) then he's getting the sexual variety he needs without feeling like he has to cheat on you too...

And bear in mind that not all porn is as degrading and unrealistic as one 18 year old talking dirty while 3 guys stick it to her at the same time. Some is far more tasteful.
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