Is it okay to go out with a girl whos 16?

Hello,

I been chatting to this girl online for a while now, and we both hit it off.
Unfortunately shes 17.
I am 22 (5 yr diff).

I just wondering if its okay for me to go out with her. Do you think it would create a problem with my or her parents?

Also shes white and im asian (indian). And my parents want me to go out with girls from my own background...

I have an option to meet her and develop a relationship (potentially). But since its early stages, i also have an option to walk away and move on.

Please advise me what i should do, it would be appreciated.

thank you

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

She is 16 now but turning 17 in 1 month.

Reply 2

Champagne-Dahling

10

Well you've already implied that it would be a problem with your parents.

As for hers, who knows? Can't see them being overly keen mind.

Ultimately, 'tis up to you (and her), to decide. If parental views are such an issue for you though, perhaps you should steer clear.

Reply 3

Marie05

1

i think it depends on how much she means to you...is it easy for you to just ignore her and move on..if so, then dont bother starting a relationship!

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

I dont think so, shes turning 17, shes been in previous relationship. Shes starting uni next sept.

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

OK, i know there's no 'rules' to relationships, but a good bit of advice i was given for if i was unsure bout if a girl was too young is - Take your age, half it, and add 7. Any younger and bad luck, she's too young for you. So, 22 halved = 11, + 7 and that's 18, so yup, she's too young bud. go get a gal nearer your age

Reply 6

Marie05

1

Anonymous

OK, i know there's no 'rules' to relationships, but a good bit of advice i was given for if i was unsure bout if a girl was too young is - Take your age, half it, and add 7. Any younger and bad luck, she's too young for you. So, 22 halved = 11, + 7 and that's 18, so yup, she's too young bud. go get a gal nearer your age

haha! maths continues to amaze me! :p:

its uses are just endless!

Reply 7

Invocation

12

If you're American i would stay TF away from her. If your from good ol' England go for it.

Reply 8

Mr.God

7

Too young. Find someone your own age.

Reply 9

silverbolt

19

when i got together with my gf she was 16 i was 22, if your compatible and shes not like most immature 16 year old the go for it.

Reply 10

Neverendingroses

Nothing wrong with it, if she wasnt turning 17 soon though I think yeah there might be. 16 - 22 is kinda young

quit worrying about what your parents think. they arent the ones who have to live with your decisions, only you do. you live your own life

Reply 11

Angelil

19

See, I'm inclined to disagree. Take out the cultural issues (eg. with the OP's parents) and you have almost my exact situation (sorry to anyone who knows this already!).

My partner is also 5 years older than me (we were 18 and 23 when we met) and we also met online. We have now been together for two years after I flew out to Paris to meet him (it was where he was studying at the time)...just to prove it can work.

My other point is that your parents' reaction can surprise you if you approach them correctly - I thought mine would go mad, say no I was absolutely not flying out to Paris to meet some bloke off the internet. To the contrary, having received a letter from my now-partner which detailed what uni course he was doing, how to contact him and his parents if necessary, and more importantly promised that he would taken care of me, they said yes, reasoning that I probably knew him better after all the months of talking than someone I went off with in (say) a nightclub. They even paid for my flight! :redface:

And happily my partner and I are still together, so it was the best decision we ever made :biggrin:

Just give it a go. If it doesn't work then at least you can say you tried.

Reply 12

Bubblebee

15

I disagree with the 'she's vunerable' argument.

You can move out at sixteen, are CAPABLE of making adult decisions. I know I have been thinking for myself for quite a while now, not so sure about other users of TSR.

I think it just depends on her maturity as well as yours. Are you just in it for a quick lay or do you want to go full term?

Anyway, who isn't a bit vunerable sometimes?

Reply 13

shady lane

16

As a 22 year old, I think you've got to be a bit sick if you want to date a 16 year old. Why don't you get a 19 or 20 year old who's has a bit more life experience?

seems pretty weird!

same age diff between me n my bf although i am 18 not 16, i do think 16 is 2 young, but not sure if 17 is :s-smilie:

Reply 16

Happyness

14

Anonymous

Hello,

I been chatting to this girl online for a while now, and we both hit it off.
Unfortunately shes 17.
I am 22 (5 yr diff).

I just wondering if its okay for me to go out with her. Do you think it would create a problem with my or her parents?

Also shes white and im asian (indian). And my parents want me to go out with girls from my own background...

I have an option to meet her and develop a relationship (potentially). But since its early stages, i also have an option to walk away and move on.

Please advise me what i should do, it would be appreciated.

thank you

Im asian. All i can say is just go out. Race dont matter; explain that to your parents.

Reply 17

dirtyprettythings

depends how hot she is hahahahaha no im joking and how old she looks and mature she is ect, you can get 16 year olds that look like 22 and act like 22 that i geuss would be ok, but ones that look and act 16 its a bit werid, you dont even know her either just talking online, mmmmmmmmm its all a bit werid to me

Reply 18

Phonicsdude

19

Anonymous

OK, i know there's no 'rules' to relationships, but a good bit of advice i was given for if i was unsure bout if a girl was too young is - Take your age, half it, and add 7. Any younger and bad luck, she's too young for you. So, 22 halved = 11, + 7 and that's 18, so yup, she's too young bud. go get a gal nearer your age

So a 30 year old can go out with a 22 year old?

This isnt a matter of paedophilia. It doesnt exist. Maybe there is an unfounded social stigma.
The only reason why such relationships rarely occur is that 22 year olds rarely meet 17 year olds in a social context and furthermore they are unlikely to have a similar level of maturity or similar interests.
But this does not mean a 22 year old and a 17 year old cannot be compatible. It is just that they are unlikely to be so.
If what you two have is real you would be foolish to turn it away on the grounds of age.

And religion and race inhibiting love is is just so wrong. I dont believe it can if there is real attraction. In fact your parent's opposition is a good test as to whether you do really have chemistry. If you do then you wont care what your parents think: if you are questioning the relationship on the grounds of what your parents think then there probably isnt enough attraction between you to warrant a serious relationship. Let alone to put up with foolish chants of PAEDO!

Reply 19

Sithius

16

Yes, it is fine.

Is it okay to go out with a girl whos 16?

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