School work Vs social life

I have just started my second year of 6th form and feel that my social life is suffering because of my schoolwork. During year 10 and 11 I used to be in quite a close circle of friends. I started 6th form doing 4 AS levels, however I took up further maths because I am considering taking a degree in mathematics. Since year 10 and 11 my friends have all moved on and hang out with different people (they basically are two groups of friends now). Because of the workload I spent a lot of time studying and had 1 free period a week for the majority of the year. I have tried to spend time with each "group," but I don't feel like I fit in with either anymore. I have also never been very outgoing which doesn't help. I do try to seem my friends out of school when I can however I cannot drive yet and live quite along way away. Really I just feel a bit isolated at the moment and want to try to avoid becoming so obsessed with schoolwork that I lose all of my friends altogether. Any advice?

PS sorry for such a long post, thanks for taking the time to read it.

Reply 1

StateOfConfusion

i was kinda in this situation myself last year-but a lot of my friends did the same so it didnt effect me that much, all i can say is keep up the school work-if you drop a subject just to spend more time with your friends you'll regret it in a few years and if they expect you to do that then they're not being fair on you either.
I think you should talk to one or two of your friends and explain to them how your feeling-im sure they'll reasure you that your not gunna end up loosing their friendship because of your work.

Reply 2

User69701

10

The exact same thing happened to me. I went for the social life and I regret it now. A lot of options have now been closed off to me. I believe you should try to find the right balance.

Reply 3

Jenii

15

It's a really tricky situation- could you drop an AS level that isn't further maths?
Try and stick with the people you really want to be friends with at lunch and stuff and don't hang it with one group over another becasue of any sense of obligation.

Reply 4

kaylaj86

i think you should find a new group of friends who understand your workload and also GO OUT of their way to see you too... y dnt u feel like you fit in anymore are they excluding you?

Reply 5

Sasuke!

14

just work and get the benifits or jsut doss about and get the consequences

Reply 6

toipot2

1

I dont think you have an awful lot too worry about if your social life is suffering due to school work :smile:

If it was the other way round youd be having problems.
Stick to it, youll be grateful to yourself later in life

Reply 7

rachelrainbow32

2

I hate this, i think it is so hard trying to keep up with AS levels and go out at the same time. especially when you have friends at college who have lots and lots of free time. I really struggled with this last year and i was just lucky that my exams went okay but i have said to myself that this year i am not going to leave it down to chance.

Reply 8

username47781

20

Trouble is everyone's social life will suffer when you get alot of course work to do, if you want to do well you have to make that sacrifice, but once it's all done maybe have a big day out or a party, the benefits of finishing your work and doing well can be rewarding.

Reply 9

prince of persia

vincent

just work and get the benifits or jsut doss about and get the consequences

lol umm no, the moment you start labelling social life 'a doss' you effectively cease to have a life. Try to find a balance thats all :wink:

Reply 10

iknowmole

OP

Thanks for all of the advice! :biggrin:

I think I will just have to keep working hard and see my friend when ever I can, hopefully they will understand that my school work is important to me. I think it will be better this way in the long run.

Reply 11

Zafda

8

iknowmole

I have just started my second year of 6th form and feel that my social life is suffering because of my schoolwork. During year 10 and 11 I used to be in quite a close circle of friends. I started 6th form doing 4 AS levels, however I took up further maths because I am considering taking a degree in mathematics. Since year 10 and 11 my friends have all moved on and hang out with different people (they basically are two groups of friends now). Because of the workload I spent a lot of time studying and had 1 free period a week for the majority of the year. I have tried to spend time with each "group," but I don't feel like I fit in with either anymore. I have also never been very outgoing which doesn't help. I do try to seem my friends out of school when I can however I cannot drive yet and live quite along way away. Really I just feel a bit isolated at the moment and want to try to avoid becoming so obsessed with schoolwork that I lose all of my friends altogether. Any advice?

PS sorry for such a long post, thanks for taking the time to read it.

when you lose one friend, you always make 2 new ones.
well thats the saying, and i stick by it.

for defo i'd choose my school work over my social life, because my social life will always be there, education won't. i'm surprised why you haven't made any new friend at your 6th form, i've made heaps more that do the same subjects as me, which helps because we're all in the same boat.

try to 'chill' more with people that do similar subjects as you, it'll be easier to have a comfortable social life with them rather than people you don't fit in with anymore.

Reply 12

Zafda

8

iknowmole

I have just started my second year of 6th form and feel that my social life is suffering because of my schoolwork. During year 10 and 11 I used to be in quite a close circle of friends. I started 6th form doing 4 AS levels, however I took up further maths because I am considering taking a degree in mathematics. Since year 10 and 11 my friends have all moved on and hang out with different people (they basically are two groups of friends now). Because of the workload I spent a lot of time studying and had 1 free period a week for the majority of the year. I have tried to spend time with each "group," but I don't feel like I fit in with either anymore. I have also never been very outgoing which doesn't help. I do try to seem my friends out of school when I can however I cannot drive yet and live quite along way away. Really I just feel a bit isolated at the moment and want to try to avoid becoming so obsessed with schoolwork that I lose all of my friends altogether. Any advice?

PS sorry for such a long post, thanks for taking the time to read it.

when you lose one friend, you always make 2 new ones.
well thats the saying, and i stick by it.

for defo i'd choose my school work over my social life, because my social life will always be there, education won't. i'm surprised why you haven't made any new friend at your 6th form, i've made heaps more that do the same subjects as me, which helps because we're all in the same boat.

try to 'chill' more with people that do similar subjects as you, it'll be easier to have a comfortable social life with them rather than people you don't fit in with anymore.

Reply 13

Zafda

8

iknowmole

I have just started my second year of 6th form and feel that my social life is suffering because of my schoolwork. During year 10 and 11 I used to be in quite a close circle of friends. I started 6th form doing 4 AS levels, however I took up further maths because I am considering taking a degree in mathematics. Since year 10 and 11 my friends have all moved on and hang out with different people (they basically are two groups of friends now). Because of the workload I spent a lot of time studying and had 1 free period a week for the majority of the year. I have tried to spend time with each "group," but I don't feel like I fit in with either anymore. I have also never been very outgoing which doesn't help. I do try to seem my friends out of school when I can however I cannot drive yet and live quite along way away. Really I just feel a bit isolated at the moment and want to try to avoid becoming so obsessed with schoolwork that I lose all of my friends altogether. Any advice?

PS sorry for such a long post, thanks for taking the time to read it.

when you lose one friend, you always make 2 new ones.
well thats the saying, and i stick by it.

for defo i'd choose my school work over my social life, because my social life will always be there, education won't. i'm surprised why you haven't made any new friend at your 6th form, i've made heaps more that do the same subjects as me, which helps because we're all in the same boat.

try to 'chill' more with people that do similar subjects as you, it'll be easier to have a comfortable social life with them rather than people you don't fit in with anymore.

Reply 14

Zafda

8

ok i didn't mean to post that like, 4 times.

Reply 15

john171

11

Call Ghostbusters!!!

Reply 16

beach surf babe

14

A2 is insane in terms of the amount of work you have to do and it gets even crazier come January onwards. It got me down at times but you just have to focus on the fact that once its all done and out the way you'll be able to relax. Trust me, the day you have your last exam you feel great!! :smile:

Don't forget to make some time to relax cos all work and no play....does ya head in! :biggrin:

(BTW: Zafda you can delete your extra posts by going to edit and then selecting delete)

Reply 17

Schmokie Dragon

17

School work is everything if you want to get to a decent uni. Sorry, but thats a fact. I did a "oh, but I still want a social life" and I am now miserable as a result. Its ok up until about 3 months before exams, then you have to really cram to learn the stuff you missed when you were out having fun.

In the end, its only one year of your life, but one that you can't repeat very easily. I would give it all you can (without going mad) and then be able to relax at the end and know you did an amazing job.

Reply 18

person 34

9

I always find it this hard, because when you're around the ages of 15 - 18, you're at one of your most outgoing and social. You get loads of new friends, and you really think, "why would I do work when I could be down at the pub or hanging in the park with mates?" And I always feel there's an element of loyalty towards friends, because I know if I don't see them much, they automtaically asume I don't like them or something, which really pisses me off, but it's hard to say "I have loads of work", cos then I just get grief about being geeky. Sorry that didn't actually answer your question, but it really depends how motivated you are. In your poisition I think you should, concentrate on studies mroe because with taking 5 Alevels you've kinda sacrificed a lot of social life, but you can make this up at uni.

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