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Confused...
ok, so basically a year ago my boyfriend and i broke up after six months together...and for a long time afterwards he made my life miserable including making me belive he wanted to get back together with me and then telling me he didn't. he then lied to me about girls he'd ben with but for some reason i always forgave him.
anyways, he went to uni last september and cos my best friend for my entire life was going to the same uni so i introduced them. for a few months everything was great and in april i saw them for a big group dinner and he told me that he loved me and that i was the best thing that happened to him. however less than six weeks later i doscovered he and my best friend had been dating for a month, she told me over msn after lying to my face about having no feelings for him and refused to apoligise for hurting my feelings...he however did apoligise and for some reason i forgave him cos i was still in love with him and unable to let him go.
My friend however i didnt speak to for four months but from what i heard the relationship was non-monogmous but eventually about a month ago she called me up and begged me to meet her where i eventualluy fogave her.
now this kind of caused a problem from me cos the previous week id gone out for dinner with this ex and then for a walk in the park where he kept hugging me and while against a tree brought his lips towards mine, when i said no cos iu was kijnd of involved wioth someone else he instead started caressing my breast and running his hands down my back under my shirt...now i'm really cinfused and dont know whether to tell my newly made up friend about his behaviour towards me...what should i do?
anyways, he went to uni last september and cos my best friend for my entire life was going to the same uni so i introduced them. for a few months everything was great and in april i saw them for a big group dinner and he told me that he loved me and that i was the best thing that happened to him. however less than six weeks later i doscovered he and my best friend had been dating for a month, she told me over msn after lying to my face about having no feelings for him and refused to apoligise for hurting my feelings...he however did apoligise and for some reason i forgave him cos i was still in love with him and unable to let him go.
My friend however i didnt speak to for four months but from what i heard the relationship was non-monogmous but eventually about a month ago she called me up and begged me to meet her where i eventualluy fogave her.
now this kind of caused a problem from me cos the previous week id gone out for dinner with this ex and then for a walk in the park where he kept hugging me and while against a tree brought his lips towards mine, when i said no cos iu was kijnd of involved wioth someone else he instead started caressing my breast and running his hands down my back under my shirt...now i'm really cinfused and dont know whether to tell my newly made up friend about his behaviour towards me...what should i do?
Reply 2
i'm sorry, but i think he sounds like a total loser, and you can do much better than someone who messes you about and lies to you!
if u get back with him, or do anything with him, what's going to stop him doing it again?
sorry hun.
xxxx
if u get back with him, or do anything with him, what's going to stop him doing it again?
sorry hun.
xxxx
Reply 3
yeah they are...dunno for how much longer though they plan to stya together but they organised to live together from september before they were togethger...i get the feeling she has real feelings for him and hed just using her!
i really wanna tell her because i dont want him to hurt her like he hurt me, i wanna be honest with her but i'm scared she's gonna see me as the jealous ex and i'm gonna fall out with her all over again!
i really wanna tell her because i dont want him to hurt her like he hurt me, i wanna be honest with her but i'm scared she's gonna see me as the jealous ex and i'm gonna fall out with her all over again!
Ellsbells3032
yeah they are...dunno for how much longer though they plan to stya together but they organised to live together from september before they were togethger...i get the feeling she has real feelings for him and hed just using her!
i really wanna tell her because i dont want him to hurt her like he hurt me, i wanna be honest with her but i'm scared she's gonna see me as the jealous ex and i'm gonna fall out with her all over again!
i really wanna tell her because i dont want him to hurt her like he hurt me, i wanna be honest with her but i'm scared she's gonna see me as the jealous ex and i'm gonna fall out with her all over again!
if she's any sort of friend she'll see past the fact that you and him were attatched and will see you have her best interests at heart...
sorry if uv already said (i get mixed up reading all these threads) but what type of feelings do you hold for this guy still if any?
Reply 5
i don't wanna get back together with him...i think i'm always gonna have so,mething for him cos he was my first kiss and first love but i have a new guy sort of in my life who treats me so much better than my ex ever did! i just don't wanna lie to ym friend
Reply 6
sorry, i didn't read ure original post properly!
hmm, do u have a mutual friend that u both trust u could tell, so she could hear it from her? or is she not gonna believe anyone?
hmm, do u have a mutual friend that u both trust u could tell, so she could hear it from her? or is she not gonna believe anyone?
Reply 7
we have alot of mutual friends, we're family friends and have known eachother our entire lives but i also dont wanna put a friend in the middleof it! i told a couple of my friends and they told me to lave it and not put myself in the position he vcould take advantage of me again cos things are finally civil between the three of us and i should stir the pot!
Reply 8
hmm, well maybe u should just let her find out for herself, he sounds like a total ****hole, i'm sure it won't be long til he messes up for her to see?
but u seem to really want to do something, would u just be able to leave it?
but u seem to really want to do something, would u just be able to leave it?
Reply 9
yeah, think i'm gonna have to...i mean she knew how he treated me after we split up and still got with him but i just feel so guilt ridden!
Reply 10
Ellsbells3032
ok, so basically a year ago my boyfriend and i broke up after six months together...and for a long time afterwards he made my life miserable including making me belive he wanted to get back together with me and then telling me he didn't. he then lied to me about girls he'd ben with but for some reason i always forgave him.
anyways, he went to uni last september and cos my best friend for my entire life was going to the same uni so i introduced them. for a few months everything was great and in april i saw them for a big group dinner and he told me that he loved me and that i was the best thing that happened to him. however less than six weeks later i doscovered he and my best friend had been dating for a month, she told me over msn after lying to my face about having no feelings for him and refused to apoligise for hurting my feelings...he however did apoligise and for some reason i forgave him cos i was still in love with him and unable to let him go.
My friend however i didnt speak to for four months but from what i heard the relationship was non-monogmous but eventually about a month ago she called me up and begged me to meet her where i eventualluy fogave her.
now this kind of caused a problem from me cos the previous week id gone out for dinner with this ex and then for a walk in the park where he kept hugging me and while against a tree brought his lips towards mine, when i said no cos iu was kijnd of involved wioth someone else he instead started caressing my breast and running his hands down my back under my shirt...now i'm really cinfused and dont know whether to tell my newly made up friend about his behaviour towards me...what should i do?
anyways, he went to uni last september and cos my best friend for my entire life was going to the same uni so i introduced them. for a few months everything was great and in april i saw them for a big group dinner and he told me that he loved me and that i was the best thing that happened to him. however less than six weeks later i doscovered he and my best friend had been dating for a month, she told me over msn after lying to my face about having no feelings for him and refused to apoligise for hurting my feelings...he however did apoligise and for some reason i forgave him cos i was still in love with him and unable to let him go.
My friend however i didnt speak to for four months but from what i heard the relationship was non-monogmous but eventually about a month ago she called me up and begged me to meet her where i eventualluy fogave her.
now this kind of caused a problem from me cos the previous week id gone out for dinner with this ex and then for a walk in the park where he kept hugging me and while against a tree brought his lips towards mine, when i said no cos iu was kijnd of involved wioth someone else he instead started caressing my breast and running his hands down my back under my shirt...now i'm really cinfused and dont know whether to tell my newly made up friend about his behaviour towards me...what should i do?
hes a complete jerk! yes warn your friend before she gets hurt, but dont make her feel like you're telling her to end things too much or she'll think you're just jealous. i advice both of you to keep away from him and find someone who deserves you.
Reply 11
This guy to put it mildly is an utter b***ard and a manipulative jerk, you don't need him, you deserve better.
Ellsbells3032
i don't wanna get back together with him...i think i'm always gonna have so,mething for him cos he was my first kiss and first love but i have a new guy sort of in my life who treats me so much better than my ex ever did! i just don't wanna lie to ym friend
your not lying to her, just holding back information. My advice is tell her (no **** sherlock) - but then again me and my best mate have an agreement on this sort of thing so i suppose its easy for me to say.
Reply 13
but when she got together with hinm i told her "lying by omission is still lying!" so i'd be a little hypocritical...though i'm still not sure how much in really want her in my life anyways...
Reply 14
ok, so update...theyve now become official and comepltely racked with guilt i tell her about him trying to kiss and fondle me etc less than two months ago...anyways saw a photo of her taken the next day of her sitting on his lap and smiling...shes insane right..? she is actually insane!!!
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