They're all leaving me...

I just realised that all my friends are off to uni this week. I'm so gutted. I'm having a year out and I really dont know what im gona do. My friends mean so much and it seems like they're all moving really far away. It's hit me so hard cos my greatest fear is being alone and I really will be. I know we're going to drift apart and I hate that thought because they're the best friends I've ever had.

Has anyone else been through this??

I just dont know what to do, cause everyone at my work is either old or hates me, so i've not much chance of making friends there.

Am i destined to spend a year locked up at home til i go to uni???

Reply 1

poltroon

If you don't know what you're going to do, then why are you having a year out?

Reply 2

abc101

17

Aww, poor you, I can understand you being sad about your friends. You need to sort something out to do in your gap year - it won't look good that you've spent it dossing. Maybe do some voluntary work, or get a new job? As for your friends, make sure you keep in touch by text, phone, email, myspace, whatever, regularly and don't let yourselves drift apart. Every so often - every couple of months or so - arrange to meet up with them, if they come home or you go to see them at their uni. As for having friends while your own are away, perhaps you could join an evening class or local sports type thing? Anything where you'll meet new people. Good luck!

Reply 3

sunscreen

7

i failed a year at college because basically i cudnt be bothered... so all my friends went a year ahead of me! it's ok... well it was a bit poo at first but if u get a job or intend to do something in ur gap year you'll meet new friends and u'll meet new friends at uni whether u went with them or not!

Reply 4

Figaro123

Ditto Boo - you need to do something useful otherwise taking a gap year will be severely detrimental to your application. Also, you might hopefully meet some new people who will become your friends while your other ones are away.

Reply 5

Mangaroo

12

same position, except my friends suck so im pretty happy about it all

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Well im resitting A levels and im working full time, so that's giving me something to do and tbh, im not going to have much time on my hands with all that. Im just all down about it, cause it all feels like they're moving on and im not

Reply 7

*jayjay*

yeh i have a close friend whos in your position. were all off to uni while she has another year left in college as she is doing a 3 year course in hair. she thinks we will leave her behind and gets upset wen we tlk about movin out which wont be true as we have arranged to come home to see her and she comin up to stay with us :smile:

Reply 8

LinziP123

Yeah i'm in the same position - i am working, but i'm really really gonna miss going out at the weekends and things like shopping! :frown:

Reply 9

sunscreen

7

Anonymous

Well im resitting A levels and im working full time, so that's giving me something to do and tbh, im not going to have much time on my hands with all that. Im just all down about it, cause it all feels like they're moving on and im not

some people, like myself, just arent ment to move on straight away... im soooo glad i failed AS first time because i wasnt ready to move out! and it wouldve made me getting into uni proper horrible coz i'd be at home and that! now i've got my own flat, a boyfriend, loads of new friends aswell as the old ones! it'll all sort itself out! you may make some good friends this year that you wouldnt have met if you went to uni!

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

I'm the same, Im taking a year out and all my mates are off to univeristy cept a few who I wouldnt call close mates.

Still I havent seen them for nearly the whole holidays as Ive been working full time and going to the gym every other day.

The only way I am dealing with it, is filling up my days with stuff to accomplish, so next year will be twice as good.
Im going the gym and getting alot more muscular and am making nearly £1,000 a month from work.

Of couse I will drive up to all there dorms and stay over with every single one of em atleast once a month....

Reply 11

redshoes4

i'm in the same position as you! except my best friends are all going away on gap years so its not even like i can visit them or keep in contact easily. i am going away but not for ages and they are all mainly off in a few weeks. i am really dreading it as i pretty much spend all my time with them and also will really miss those conversations that you can only have with close friends. i have started full time work and there are a few ppl who i get on with at work but its just not the same. i guess i'll just try and get to know them better but am already counting the days untill i go away!

Reply 12

tigger1430

7

It was weird in my school as years tended to mingle especially the two sixth form years, so it was good. But it meant that pretty much all of my friends were in upper sixth form when I was in lower and so they all left to go to university before me, and yes it was hard and I dossed because I had no motivation but I am now at uni and they are leaving! It's just the way life goes and I suppose you have to make the most of it.

Reply 13

lemonlolly

Good news, I was in this exact position this time last year and survived :smile:

Work pretty much sucked to start with, but once I got used to it and we got some new people in it worked out ok. Now I get on with most of the people there.

Yes you probably will miss your friends, they wouldn't be friends if you didn't, but it's not the last time you'll see them. You can go visit them at uni (which will also give you a sneak peek at uni life) and meet up when they're on holiday.

Just think of all those clubs you never had the time to join before, and go make new friends there :smile:

Reply 14

DarkLight18

My position is the reverse, I'm the only one going uni because my friends are a bunch of dumass's :p:

, but hey least there be here when I come back at christmas etc. Although I am slightly concerned that the group will drift apart.

Reply 15

Ron Stoppable

14

Anonymous

I just realised that all my friends are off to uni this week.

Arribarriba - an'dle arriba!

Keep very busy by filling-up and sticking to your weekly schedule. Work, play and invest in your future.

Reply 16

Zafda

8

Anonymous

I just realised that all my friends are off to uni this week. I'm so gutted. I'm having a year out and I really dont know what im gona do. My friends mean so much and it seems like they're all moving really far away. It's hit me so hard cos my greatest fear is being alone and I really will be. I know we're going to drift apart and I hate that thought because they're the best friends I've ever had.

Has anyone else been through this??

I just dont know what to do, cause everyone at my work is either old or hates me, so i've not much chance of making friends there.

Am i destined to spend a year locked up at home til i go to uni???

what are you doing in your year out?
and has it occured to you that you make new friends..?

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

easier said than done, cos the most logical place to start making new friends is work. but as i said before, everyone at work hates me. but im sure it'l work out ok :s

They're all leaving me...

Related discussions

Articles for you