Advice on this girl i like

Well here goes, i was at an cuzns 18th party and i saw this really pretty girl there. turns out shes an distant cuzn. Anyways i also found out shes going to the same university as me. I wanted to go over and talk to her but me being shy, it never happened. Well i managed to get her msn address and have been talking on msn (just getting to know her like before uni starts so ill feel a little less shy talking to her). She seems a really nice person and has an ace personality as well as luks. I dont know if shes attracted to me but ive gave some hints that i like her. She sed shes quite shy as well and that shes a girl whos never done anything wrong really e.g. never smoked, drinked and is seems too kind lol. Well its her religion not too drink and mine too lol but ok ive done it a few times. I dont think shes been in a real relationship before either.

Anyways the plan is, i dont want to really go up to and ask her out n she saying no, itll be a little uncomfortable for me anyways talking to her like i have been on msn. My plan was just make some hints and get to know her better. One idea i did have was like one night to hug her good night and then give her a kiss on the cheek and run lol but do you think she would find that disturbing and would ruin our friendship etc. How would you go about it. This is quite difficult of me as well as ive never felt this strongly about a girl before but i dont think she likes me. However, if she says no, well ive still got 4 years to try i guess.

If you were a girl and a guy huged you then gave you a kiss on the cheek and ran off wot would you do or how would you feel about it?

Reply 1

Shreerac1

10

Hey, does she know that you are distant cousins? If not it would probably be a good idea that you tell her. If you got together and it emerged that you knew you were related, but you didn't tell her, she might take it weirdly.

Reply 2

toipot2

1

*cough*inbreeding*cough*

Reply 3

Mangaroo

12

if she sees you as family i dont think she'll pay much notice to it, and then freak out a bit if you ran off..

Reply 4

Phonicsdude

19

You are going to fail and your worldview needs to change so drastically that Im not even going to bother. Good luck though.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Naa she knows where related. I think most of you are thinkin like shes my first or second cuzn which i think is not right. Naa, when i say distant i mean distant not blood or anything. We've never even spoke to each other personally as well so you can say its like 2 random people meeting each other.

So if run off, would it make me look stupid then?

Reply 6

Mangaroo

12

err yeah..lol??

Reply 7

Shreerac1

10

Anonymous

Naa she knows where related. I think most of you are thinkin like shes my first or second cuzn which i think is not right. Naa, when i say distant i mean distant not blood or anything. We've never even spoke to each other personally as well so you can say its like 2 random people meeting each other.

So if run off, would it make me look stupid then?

Are you about 6? If so you probably didn't look stupid, as thats the kind of behaviour people expect of young children.

Reply 8

Phonicsdude

19

Don't run. Offer her your cheek, smile and point to it.
When she goes to kiss it turn your face so she kisses your lips and SERIOUSLY have a go at her for taking things too quickly. Then storm off if you have to.

Then she will probably be yours. hah. I love that one.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Hey thats a good one lol i might try that except i wont have a go at her, ill just laugh so she takes it as a joke and not kicks me in a certain area.

I think your right people, that is probably a childish thing to do. At least if you ask for kiss on the cheeks, and she says no well you know you wont look stupid if you had done it and ran away then she never really takes you seriously from then on.

Reply 10

veniceROOTs

Anyways the plan is, i dont want to really go up to and ask her out n she saying no, itll be a little uncomfortable for me anyways talking to her like i have been on msn. My plan was just make some hints and get to know her better. One idea i did have was like one night to hug her good night and then give her a kiss on the cheek and run lol but do you think she would find that disturbing and would ruin our friendship etc. How would you go about it. This is quite difficult of me as well as ive never felt this strongly about a girl before but i dont think she likes me. However, if she says no, well ive still got 4 years to try i guess.

If you were a girl and a guy huged you then gave you a kiss on the cheek and ran off wot would you do or how would you feel about it?

JUST ASK HER! PLEASE!!! i think i might be weirded out if my guy friend randomly kissed me and ran.
there's this guy i know, who is also a somewhat distant cousin and i feel the same way about him that you feel about this girl. i mean, exactly!!! i just wish he would ask me out. i would definitely want that instead of him kissing me randomly. because as much as i wish otherwise, life isn't like it is in the movies and in the movies it might be really romantic to kiss, but i think in real life it might turn out to be a very awkward moment, especially after the fact. and you don't want to loose her as a friend or anything.

so just ask her!!! :smile:

Reply 11

wirbelsturm

2

OMG dont know what to say. blumin eck, erm follow the sane advice above, crap its complicated!

Reply 12

The Program

3

I think you should just ask her out for coffee or something and talk in person, get to know her more than just on msn, people can act differently on msn, then you should re-think it through, then i guess everything gets less weird, once you both feel secure then you should take the next step and kiss her. Good Luck.

Reply 13

Mr.God

7

Have you considered kicking her in the shin and pulling her hair? I hear that's the other way that 6 year olds show their affection for somebody, kissing and running being the other one.

Reply 14

Phonicsdude

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Anonymous

Hey thats a good one lol i might try that except i wont have a go at her, ill just laugh so she takes it as a joke and not kicks me in a certain area.

Then it makes you come across as a perv! You have to tell her off, if only with an "ah ah ah! naughty!"

Anyway. It is a tought thing to do, so no matter if you can't. 99% of blokes wouldnt be able to.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

This is complicated. Ok so ive got rid of the kiss and run approach. I quite like what "The Program" says about asking her for some coffee, tell her i like her and at least i know where i will stand. If she says no, well i wont give up.

I dont know if its like this with other guys or even girls for that matter but i always feel that if im attracted to a girl i always think she doesnt like me.

Reply 16

Shreerac1

10

Anonymous

This is complicated. Ok so ive got rid of the kiss and run approach. I quite like what "The Program" says about asking her for some coffee, tell her i like her and at least i know where i will stand. If she says no, well i wont give up.

I dont know if its like this with other guys or even girls for that matter but i always feel that if im attracted to a girl i always think she doesnt like me.

If she says no and you keep pestering her things are gonna go downhill pretty rapidly.

Reply 17

Zafda

8

wow.
this story is like marmite, you either love it or you hate the idea of it.

has she told you if she likes anyone?
ask her if theres anyone else she likes.. because if there is, then don't bother going in 'for the kill' - it may just be better to stay friends.

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

Well i asked her on msn once wether she has been out wiv anyone before? She replied not really but ill tell u more at university.

Ill probly ask her if she likes anyone at university i guess and see what happens.