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Does anyone masturbate to their female friends?

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Original post by Precious Illusions

I've heard guys say that they masturbate to girls they know because there's a closeness there, ie they don't have a chance with a pornstar but they COULD have a chance with a girl they know irl? :dontknow:

I guess that's partly true. I mean one girl I masturbate to is at my halls and has flirted with me a little. She is also very touchy with her feet!

So do I fancy her then? Tbh, I imagined having wild sex with someone on my course, and I think i would like to ask her out if it didn't ruin the friendship. With the girl at my halls, I wouldn't want her to be my girlfriend though..

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SourJellyBean

Original post by Radio

I consider that to be normal, I know a couple of friends have thought of me while masturbating before and that doesn't bother me.

So you're comfortable being friends with someone who sees you in an obviously non-friendly way?

Reply 42

Anonymous #1

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Cool. Can I ask a girl for FWB?

Reply 43

Le Nombre

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Original post by Abdul-Karim

Female friend = friendzone mate. Nty.

Could be in a relationship, or you could be cracking onto your, and their, hotter mate.

I have female friends I probably would, but not going to put the hours in as there are other girls I can get who I fancy more.

Reply 44

Anonymous #1

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What if the girl had a bf, initiated some flirty touching of the guy's chest and put her feet on him, and suggestively sucked her finger/lollipop at him and the guy then faps to her?

Reply 45

Anonymous #1

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I mean I started to masturbate to this girl and found a pornstar who looks similar to her.

Not unheard of.

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Original post by bluemax

Not unheard of.

She is pretty hot in my defense. And she also touched my lap with her feet one day and suggestively sucked her food at me.

Reply 48

neerajpatel

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If she has been this suggestive to you then you are justified in doing so. She could just be a narcissist though, if she is doing all of that!

Reply 49

Radio

Original post by neerajpatel

Did they tell you? So is it okay to tell other girls you think of them ... erm.. positively shall we say? Haha, I ask because, I imagine my gf and her hot bestie together...sometimes.

Original post by Anonymous

Phew. Is it all right to tell a girl that?!
I erm.. have started fapping to her a few times a week now.

A couple of them have but to be fair it's because we have the kind of friendship where we tell each other these kinds of things. I'm not sure how I'd react if someone I only spoke to on occasions suddenly blurted it out in public. I think I'd still be cool about it but I've never been in that situation to know for sure.

Original post by kkboyk

I find it truly weird. I've never met or heard of a guy actually masturbating of their female friends.

Admittedly I'm not sure I'd want to know all the details haha but it's nice to know I'm not the sexual equivalent of a tree to them.

Original post by SourJellyBean

So you're comfortable being friends with someone who sees you in an obviously non-friendly way?

I'd prefer to know how they think of me so I can adjust my behaviour accordingly (either make a move or try not to "tease" them if I don't feel the same way) than have it making things awkward.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 50

Profesh

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While fantasies are intrinsically harmless, and can help to manage fixations which might otherwise disrupt normal social functioning, the increasingly prurient manner in which you apparently choose to exorcise your preoccupation with this girl suggests that your 'friendship' may not be as genuine as she thinks it is, and moreover that your own perception of her may become distorted as a result of this pervasive (and as yet, unrequited) lust.

So yes: 'friends-with-benefits' is probably a subject best broached sooner rather than later.

(edited 9 years ago)

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frozen_fire

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Original post by Radio

A couple of them have but to be fair it's because we have the kind of friendship where we tell each other these kinds of things. I'm not sure how I'd react if someone I only spoke to on occasions suddenly blurted it out in public. I think I'd still be cool about it but I've never been in that situation to know for sure.

Admittedly I'm not sure I'd want to know all the details haha but it's nice to know I'm not the sexual equivalent of a tree to them.
I'd prefer to know how they think of me so I can adjust my behaviour accordingly (either make a move or try not to "tease" them if I don't feel the same way) than have it making things awkward.

I wish I could have so easily talked about this sort of thing with my best friend. I used to fantasise about her every night but she wasn't interested in that way. In the end it started getting unhealthy though so we cut off the contact but the thoughts still enter my mind at times. I reckon those guys would if given the opportunity, take things further with you.

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kkboyk

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Original post by Radio

A couple of them have but to be fair it's because we have the kind of friendship where we tell each other these kinds of things. I'm not sure how I'd react if someone I only spoke to on occasions suddenly blurted it out in public. I think I'd still be cool about it but I've never been in that situation to know for sure.

Admittedly I'm not sure I'd want to know all the details haha but it's nice to know I'm not the sexual equivalent of a tree to them.
I'd prefer to know how they think of me so I can adjust my behaviour accordingly (either make a move or try not to "tease" them if I don't feel the same way) than have it making things awkward.

If me or my friends said they masturbate over any female members in our social group that we are close to, they would feel a bit disgusted. You must be really nice in real life.

Didn't you feel weird knowing it?

Reply 53

Radio

Original post by kkboyk

If me or my friends said they masturbate over any female members in our social group that we are close to, they would feel a bit disgusted. You must be really nice in real life.

Didn't you feel weird knowing it?

Tbh it didn't really surprise me, the people who've admitted it to me are the people I've kinda drifted between being friends and being more than friends with. We've never gotten together but they've all been people I've had a strong chemistry with that, for one reason or another, I've not taken the next step with. It's a natural part of life though and if I were to admit to one of my friends that I'd fantasised about them, I would hope for an equally understanding viewpoint.

Original post by frozen_fire

I wish I could have so easily talked about this sort of thing with my best friend. I used to fantasise about her every night but she wasn't interested in that way. In the end it started getting unhealthy though so we cut off the contact but the thoughts still enter my mind at times. I reckon those guys would if given the opportunity, take things further with you.

I think that's why they don't mind me knowing, they're guys that I get on so well with and they've admitted to me that they like me and do want to date me (this is over the course of about 5 years, I don't have a line of guys waiting at my door haha). We stay friends and don't let it affect our friendship so I don't think it's that big a revelation that they've thought of me in that way too.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 54

Zarek

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So, I guess it is sort of a complement if someone does this over you. But it is also a bit of a liberty, particularly if she wouldn't dream of doing it with you in a million years.

And do girls think in the same way?? A female acquaintance once quipped that when she saw a hot guy her clit twitched like a rabbits nose. You could have knocked me over with a feather...

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 55

username927016

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I think it's more common than some people might think, different to fapping over a pornstar/celebrity for example as you have more of a connection with the girl. Obviously don't tell them about it though.

Reply 56

UWS

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I'm sure people do but I've never done this. Just too awkward for my liking. I do have hot female friends that I'd like to bone but why fantasise when you can have the real deal :sexface: