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someone at college who hates me

i was hoping someone could help me out.
in my college, there's someone who is good friends with my friends but hates me. since we met he has never liked me (even though i've done nothing wrong to him and we share a lot of interests), and generally ignores me when i speak to him. if me and my friends are talking to each other about something, he will instantly change the subject because he doesn't want to talk to or about me.
Recently, his friend, him and i sit near each other in a lesson where we aren't allowed to move. if i need to ask him something, he will not give me a proper answer. Also, when he is talking about things i'm interested in and try to join in, he will make it clear he doesn't want to talk to me. :mad:

Reply 1

Tennessee

Have you ever asked him directly, or your friends why he doesn't like you?? Because you should really find out, and address the issue directly with him. His behaviour is very strange and rude...

Reply 2

Captain Haddock

Ask him what the hell his problem is

Reply 3

hippieglitter

That's horrible, i'm not gonna suggest talking to him as some people might as he obviously is not incilned to talk to you. I would talk to your other friends avbout this ask them if they have noticed his behavious towards you and what their opinion on it and what they think you should do, as your friend they should be helpful and understand the way you feel if not find some new friends.

Reply 4

tbm

He sounds very immature to me. Perhaps its jealousy, maybe he doesnt like the fact that you are also friends with this other mate.

Ask him what his problem is, and say you cant understand why he is treating you like this.

If he still refuses to be civil then I would just leave it at that- dont bother wasting your time on him, Im sure you have better things to do!

Reply 5

lilac!!

welcome to the world!! :smile:

in life there lots of people like that, i known a lot of them myself, my only advice is to ignor him, i mean if he doesnt want to talk to you then lets face it ho doesnt and is probably not going to. Therefore stop asking him questions in the lesson and ask you teacher or someone, who knows maybe he has got a very bad impression of you, just be yourself when your with him and if he doesnt want to include you in a conversation then thats it hes doesnt, i would not push in to either and you keep wanting to talk tp him makes you sound clingly.
dont worry it happens, people are like that some ou like and other you dont and same goes for him, some he likes and some he doesnt, and you just come under his doesnt list, i wouldnt worry about it much :smile:

Reply 6

Bubblebee

fancies you....?

Reply 7

MissHero

What a prat. As long as you are sure it's not because of something you've said/done, it is his problem. Don't worry about it.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

thanks

Reply 9

username39618

I think you're in there...

Reply 10

Mattmoy_2000

I'm guessing you're about 17-18. The guy's being a childish dick, just ask him what his problem with you is. If he's just a a dick to you and not to anyone else, he might have some reason, whereas if he's just antisocial then it's probably not worth the hassle.
woot! swearing!

Reply 11

Mr_Pedantic

i've had a similar problem with someone at uni, i asked her why and she just said she doesn't have to like me. Our mutual friends noticed it too and didn't understand what her problem was either.

Reply 12

Mr.God

He sounds like an alpha male of sorts. He doesn't mind making these overt displays of aggression towards you because you're submissive: you roll over and take it, so he does it even more without fear of repurcussions. If you were to be aggressive in response, to challenge him and let him know his behaviour isn't OK and to assert some masculinity yourself, you would probably find he wouldn't bully you anywhere near as much.