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help, im tooo shy

Well I am going out with a guy whom I met on the Internet (started to chat to him about a yr and a half ago! but started going out in march 06) we haven’t met in person yet but are going to very soon. Our relationship is going well even though he lives slightly far, we talk online and on the phone!

The problem comes on the phone, online I can tell him how much I love him but on the phone I begin feeling very very shy in saying I love you. I can say I love you too but my shyness kicks in when trying to say I love you-even though I want too. Well you may have guessed this is my first relationship.

He says its ok and that I can say it when I am ready as I took time saying I love you too. The thing is I feel really bad and guilty because I know he wants to hear it as much as I wish I could bring myself in saying it (without being shy) :redface:

Can anyone suggest anything?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Hey im a shy person too and im a guy. When it comes to me saying to a girl i love you (never got round to doing that yet because i dont have a girl) it would be one of the hardest things for me.

All i do is keep hearing inside is someone saying your a puff and you cant do it and stuff but you just got to fight back and say you can do it - first time is hard. Also pretend hes like your best friend as well (a girl) or someone you can talk on the phone to all day and just say it.

Reply 2

Anonymous #3

you love someone you havent ever met ? omgwtfbbq

Reply 3

matt@internet

I think, technically, unless you've met in person, you can't really be going out, but I may be wrong.

Reply 4

matt@internet

Anonymous

you love someone you havent ever met ? omgwtfbbq

I think it's possible, because apparently a lot of love comes from someones personality, and so provided the personality he puts on the internet is his, she(?) could love him, though it is unlikely in my book.

Reply 5

cutcopy

hands up if you think the OP is probably around 13/14...

*raises hand*

aah, young'uns.

Reply 6

kurupt_07

hand iz up!!!
i bet its either a joke or shes 13

but lehz ignore da question is she actually goin out wiv him

hmmm shyness gt a cure? LOL im quite a shy person ma self!

Reply 7

LadyEnglish

Say it when you're ready, you won't be shy when you mean it. You know how much he wants to hear it so when you do say it you shouldn't be shy because you will know how happy you are going to make him :smile:

I think it's a good situation to be in. You're secure in the knowledge that he loves you and he's not putting pressure on you to say it so the ball's really in your court. You seem to have bagged a nice guy who is willing to wait an respect your feelings. Don't be shy about saying the 'l' word if you really feel it, i can guarantee after you've said it you'll feel so much better and happy :biggrin:

Good luck with everything xxx

Reply 8

toipot2

shes probably 13 and hes probably 35

You have to be careful on the internet :smile:

Reply 9

lilac!!

i have seen many relationship that have worked with people meeting on the internet! and OP when you ever want to ask anything, dont mention you meet on an internet site because the thread goes off point! :smile:

i was like that! lol still am but my advice is say what you mean and quick!
lol it sounds funny but also tell you bf online that you are shy because like you said its very easy!
loosen up and say it, nothing going to happen!! :smile:

Reply 10

Nalced

i know where your coming from.
I use to knew this thai girl nicknames "golf", shy like mad.

It's going to be seriouly hard to break out of it. I say, try to meet with him/her.
and from there you can build up your confidance or you can tell him that you love him/her indirectly.

you need to put effort in it.

Reply 11

Sanity Panda

Love on the internet? Hmmm... Maybe after you've met them.

Reply 12

pikaboo

It's a bad idea to say you love someone before you've even met them.

Reply 13

Sprockette

I don't agree that you can't love someone before you meet them; I'm seeing someone I met on the intetnet now - it probably will be easier once you meet him. Any time I've met someone after talking to them on the phone they seem exactly the same when you meet them - dunno why, I just thought it'd be different meeting in person, but it wasn't. And I'm officially the shyest person EVER!?