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33.33.33

Sorry to anyone i've already bored with this dilemma! This is a bit of a long one :p:

I went on holiday with a friend last week on Wednesday to Barcelona, I was supposed to be coming back on Tuesday (12th). As you can see, i'm not on holiday, i'm at home.

(you can ignore this bit if you like, it's just to give you an idea of the relationship with the friend before you comment!)

The friend I went with, i've known for a very long time but we didn't see each other for a while because she went to a different school for her GCSE years and we lost touch. Through sixth form we went back to socialising a lot and are very much part of the same friendship group.

Recently she really annoyed me, particularly at Reading Festival, so much so that I came home early. That sorted itself out pretty quickly but I was a little bit concerned about us going on holiday together as we often have arguments about stupid things but I thought it'd be fine and I knew I couldn't let her down at the last minute so off we went to Barcelona. I was probably only 50-60% excited about it whereas she was far more into it because she's not really been abroad much before, let alone without her parents or anything.

(i've bolded the main bits so that you can skim if you so wish :p:

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Anyway, we left early Wednesday and I was feeling a bit rough. I had been holding onto a bit of a cold for a while but just thought it was clearing up so I ignored it. This was a mistake, it got slowly worse until Friday morning when I woke up and decided I could stand it any longer. It felt like I had full blown flu, except I was vomitting a lot (sorry for the detail!). I have a few health issues so I didn't want to risk getting any worse so decided I wanted to come home, being ill away from home is rubbish wherever you are, let alone in a hostel with a bunch of people you don't know coming in and out 24/7.

I spoke to my parents on the phone and they agreed that if i wanted to come back, I should. My friend had gone off for the day because I obviously didn't want to go sightseeing at this point. I called her to ask how she'd feel about me coming back, and I said I was going to try and get a flight home that day (Friday). With her semi-consent, I went ahead and got one, I didn't want to risk not being able to get one.

She then appears at the hostel and says she has to come back too, because her father isn't happy with her staying on her own. That's fair enough so we go to get her another flight (she pretty much isn't speaking to me by this point..) which i had to pay for on my card as she didn't bring hers. It was 200 euros. Anyway we had a very awkward long journey home, my dad collected us from the airport and I haven't heard from her since we returned.

If she doesn't ever want to speak to me again, that's fine but I really need that money for my uni rent etc.... She said she was going to pay me back but I can't see it happening because her parents are really weird about money.

I'd like some advice because I don't know whether I should contact her and ask for the money? I understand that she is probably very angry, but i've imagined myself in her shoes and I really think I would have behaved differently. I'd like some more opinions because my parents aren't being terribly helpful....

Reply 1

matchu

2

Try ringing her and telling her you need it as deposit for your halls?

I know it's no spectacular idea but could work...

Awkward situation anyway - she could claim it was your fault she had to come home - but it was her parents decision to not let her stay.

Reply 2

matt@internet

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Call her and tell her you want the money back. If that fails, talk to her parents, never mind the fact that they are weird about money. If that fails, get your parents involved. If that fails contact the police.

Reply 3

33.33.33

OP

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I understand that it was my fault to come back early, I totally recognise that, but my point is that if she had brought her own card with her I wouldn't have paid for her ticket in the first place and there would be no question of me doing so.

Strictly speaking she didn't *have* to come back early, we knew enough people there for her to come back when we were supposed to.

The other problem is that she seems to think I have buckets of cash because I was able to get her ticket too, which is certainly NOT the case, it was out of my uni savings account!

Reply 4

33.33.33

OP

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matt@internet

Call her and tell her you want the money back. If that fails, talk to her parents, never mind the fact that they are weird about money. If that fails, get your parents involved. If that fails contact the police.

Do I have the right to contact the police? If I had to i'd be willing to go halves with her, I just need something back at least.

Her parents are so bloody weird about money that i'm sure they have told her already not to pay me back. My parents said they would understand if she didn't want to pay me back 100% which i guess i do too, even though it is my money that i wouldn't even have had to have parted with if she'd brought her damn card with her!! :mad:

*breathes*

Reply 5

matt@internet

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I think you'd be in the right as, technically, it was a loan as such, wasn't it? So she has to pay you back as otherwise it's theft, I think. I dunno, ask a law student, like Law:Portal.

Reply 6

Mattmoy_2000

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Friends. Large amounts of Borrowed Money. The two should me mutually exclusive. This is why.

Reply 7

scutt

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No need to bring up the police and the law just yet, how about you just call her? Don't even bring up the money as the main point, see how she's doing since the flight back, how her weekend was etc. See if she's up for meeting up this week, is she is, grand, you're friends and money won't be an issue. If not, then bring up the money and how to go about sorting it out (as you need it soon).

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