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My boyfriend and I just recently split up and I still wanted to be friends but he didn't at first. Then after some drama i spent a bit of time with him and we both admitted we still love each other b ut it just isn't working at the moment. He is a uni student so he went back home and later on that day (sat). I met up with a mate (a guy) for a few drinks. I didnt see anything wrong with it. I dont fancy him, I didnt want to do anything with him but he offered to take me out so I thought why not. Then his guy started talking about being bf and gf etc which was def no what I want. I was thinking about my ex the whole time I was out. When the convo started to get funny after a while I pretended I had drank too much, felt ill and wanted to go home...
... I spoke to my ex today and he asked what I got up to and I told him, and he got pissed off and rekons Im up to something with this guy and that everything I said about loving hiim was crap when it wasnt. I told him he wouldn't have had a problem if the mate was a female. And he said a female wouldnt travel to come and have drinks with me! (I dont know about you but I'd travel to go and have a drink with a friend)...
... The reason we broke up was because I think he was being a pretty crap boyfriend, he never took me out or anything, when he did have money he'd rather spend it on trainers and weed and didnt see anything wrong with that. Im not saying I want him to shower me with gifts, but at least get his priorities right and buy food etc first. And he should take me out now and again. I've paid to take us out enough time so its only fair. And what he did the day we broke up just took the piss in my books...
... Is it not possible to meet a guy as a friend? And is it so unbelieveable that I didnt fancy or want this guy so I didnt do anything with him? What is his problem? Now he says he's gonna take girls out etc (which in his books prob means shag them too) I'd like to still be friends with him but I dont know if I should bother if he's going to be silly like this...
... I also think is I was still going out with him when I start uni he wouldnt like the friends I make as most of them would be guys. I dont really get on with most girls and Im on a male dominated course and I dont live in halls...
... Any views would be appreciated...
... I spoke to my ex today and he asked what I got up to and I told him, and he got pissed off and rekons Im up to something with this guy and that everything I said about loving hiim was crap when it wasnt. I told him he wouldn't have had a problem if the mate was a female. And he said a female wouldnt travel to come and have drinks with me! (I dont know about you but I'd travel to go and have a drink with a friend)...
... The reason we broke up was because I think he was being a pretty crap boyfriend, he never took me out or anything, when he did have money he'd rather spend it on trainers and weed and didnt see anything wrong with that. Im not saying I want him to shower me with gifts, but at least get his priorities right and buy food etc first. And he should take me out now and again. I've paid to take us out enough time so its only fair. And what he did the day we broke up just took the piss in my books...
... Is it not possible to meet a guy as a friend? And is it so unbelieveable that I didnt fancy or want this guy so I didnt do anything with him? What is his problem? Now he says he's gonna take girls out etc (which in his books prob means shag them too) I'd like to still be friends with him but I dont know if I should bother if he's going to be silly like this...
... I also think is I was still going out with him when I start uni he wouldnt like the friends I make as most of them would be guys. I dont really get on with most girls and Im on a male dominated course and I dont live in halls...
... Any views would be appreciated...
Yes it is possible to have guys as friends if your a gal.
To be honest sounds your ex is being immature about you meeting another guy and you clearly have no intention of taking it any further than friends.
I wouldn't bother being friends with your ex, he seems a waste of time who never treate you right anyway, many guys would treat you with better respect.
I wouldn't bother being friends with your ex, he seems a waste of time who never treate you right anyway, many guys would treat you with better respect.
matt@internet
Yes it is possible to have guys as friends if your a gal.
That's what I think and know, I have other guy mates and thats all I see them as. I tried to explain it to him, not that I should have to justify myself we're not even together anymore, but he being totally paranoid.
Carl1982
To be honest sounds your ex is being immature about you meeting another guy and you clearly have no intention of taking it any further than friends.
I wouldn't bother being friends with your ex, he seems a waste of time who never treate you right anyway, many guys would treat you with better respect.
I wouldn't bother being friends with your ex, he seems a waste of time who never treate you right anyway, many guys would treat you with better respect.
Yeah I guess you are right.. love is blind as they say
Carl1982
To be honest sounds your ex is being immature about you meeting another guy and you clearly have no intention of taking it any further than friends.
I wouldn't bother being friends with your ex, he seems a waste of time who never treate you right anyway, many guys would treat you with better respect.
I wouldn't bother being friends with your ex, he seems a waste of time who never treate you right anyway, many guys would treat you with better respect.
I toally agree..
He is being very immature and you can do so much better and have nicer friends than this.Guys and Girls can be friends im also like you and prefer guy friends than girls,He's being very petty by saying this,Also saying he will start taking other girls out is just hurtfull,and no need for it!
There are plenty more fish in the sea and they will treat you a whole lot better.The only thing i can suggest which is pretty harsh is too cut all contact with this guy its the only thing that works to help both get over the relationship.Then maybe with time when your both over the relationship then maybe be friends but as i said i wouldnt bother wasting my time you can have much better friends than him,just remember its his loss and not yours.
goodluck. xx
Thanks for the advice, it's true, we should just totally stop speaking for now and maybe talk again in the future when we have both got over it.
XchazzyX
I toally agree..
He is being very immature and you can do so much better and have nicer friends than this.Guys and Girls can be friends im also like you and prefer guy friends than girls,He's being very petty by saying this,Also saying he will start taking other girls out is just hurtfull,and no need for it!
There are plenty more fish in the sea and they will treat you a whole lot better.The only thing i can suggest which is pretty harsh is too cut all contact with this guy its the only thing that works to help both get over the relationship.Then maybe with time when your both over the relationship then maybe be friends but as i said i wouldnt bother wasting my time you can have much better friends than him,just remember its his loss and not yours.
goodluck. xx
He is being very immature and you can do so much better and have nicer friends than this.Guys and Girls can be friends im also like you and prefer guy friends than girls,He's being very petty by saying this,Also saying he will start taking other girls out is just hurtfull,and no need for it!
There are plenty more fish in the sea and they will treat you a whole lot better.The only thing i can suggest which is pretty harsh is too cut all contact with this guy its the only thing that works to help both get over the relationship.Then maybe with time when your both over the relationship then maybe be friends but as i said i wouldnt bother wasting my time you can have much better friends than him,just remember its his loss and not yours.
goodluck. xx
He's being weird about it.
However I can enlighten you as to the dynamics of this situation with my immense understanding of the human psyche. As a male, he is capable of recognising that the other guy's intentions were more than just friendship. Women are more likely to view going out with a guy as a completely innocent engagement (perhaps naively), whilst men, being privy to the inner workings of the male mind, would be more suspicious of his intentions.
You didn't do anything wrong and can't be blamed but I understand his reaction. From his point of view you were probably being a bit irresponsible to go out with another guy immediately after your talk. As it happens he turned out to be right about the guy but you were not to know this at the time.
As a male though I have to admit it can be frustrating to see girls act so naively. Though it should be perfectly normal to be able to go out with a guy friend like you would with a girl friend, there is often other motives involved. If you still love eachother than I suggest you take time to cool off, and if he really likes you then he'll be willing to make the effort to correct the problems with your relationship the first time round.
However I can enlighten you as to the dynamics of this situation with my immense understanding of the human psyche. As a male, he is capable of recognising that the other guy's intentions were more than just friendship. Women are more likely to view going out with a guy as a completely innocent engagement (perhaps naively), whilst men, being privy to the inner workings of the male mind, would be more suspicious of his intentions.
You didn't do anything wrong and can't be blamed but I understand his reaction. From his point of view you were probably being a bit irresponsible to go out with another guy immediately after your talk. As it happens he turned out to be right about the guy but you were not to know this at the time.
As a male though I have to admit it can be frustrating to see girls act so naively. Though it should be perfectly normal to be able to go out with a guy friend like you would with a girl friend, there is often other motives involved. If you still love eachother than I suggest you take time to cool off, and if he really likes you then he'll be willing to make the effort to correct the problems with your relationship the first time round.
I never though of it from that point of view, he is insulting though as he believes that i would do something with his guy. Iv'e met him before and last time he was perfecty fine.
Laika
He's being weird about it.
However I can enlighten you as to the dynamics of this situation with my immense understanding of the human psyche. As a male, he is capable of recognising that the other guy's intentions were more than just friendship. Women are more likely to view going out with a guy as a completely innocent engagement (perhaps naively), whilst men, being privy to the inner workings of the male mind, would be more suspicious of his intentions.
You didn't do anything wrong and can't be blamed but I understand his reaction. From his point of view you were probably being a bit irresponsible to go out with another guy immediately after your talk. As it happens he turned out to be right about the guy but you were not to know this at the time.
As a male though I have to admit it can be frustrating to see girls act so naively. Though it should be perfectly normal to be able to go out with a guy friend like you would with a girl friend, there is often other motives involved. If you still love eachother than I suggest you take time to cool off, and if he really likes you then he'll be willing to make the effort to correct the problems with your relationship the first time round.
However I can enlighten you as to the dynamics of this situation with my immense understanding of the human psyche. As a male, he is capable of recognising that the other guy's intentions were more than just friendship. Women are more likely to view going out with a guy as a completely innocent engagement (perhaps naively), whilst men, being privy to the inner workings of the male mind, would be more suspicious of his intentions.
You didn't do anything wrong and can't be blamed but I understand his reaction. From his point of view you were probably being a bit irresponsible to go out with another guy immediately after your talk. As it happens he turned out to be right about the guy but you were not to know this at the time.
As a male though I have to admit it can be frustrating to see girls act so naively. Though it should be perfectly normal to be able to go out with a guy friend like you would with a girl friend, there is often other motives involved. If you still love eachother than I suggest you take time to cool off, and if he really likes you then he'll be willing to make the effort to correct the problems with your relationship the first time round.
why do i feel down when i am quite obviously better off without him as a bf or a friend?
Laika
He's being weird about it.
However I can enlighten you as to the dynamics of this situation with my immense understanding of the human psyche. As a male, he is capable of recognising that the other guy's intentions were more than just friendship. Women are more likely to view going out with a guy as a completely innocent engagement (perhaps naively), whilst men, being privy to the inner workings of the male mind, would be more suspicious of his intentions.
You didn't do anything wrong and can't be blamed but I understand his reaction. From his point of view you were probably being a bit irresponsible to go out with another guy immediately after your talk. As it happens he turned out to be right about the guy but you were not to know this at the time.
As a male though I have to admit it can be frustrating to see girls act so naively. Though it should be perfectly normal to be able to go out with a guy friend like you would with a girl friend, there is often other motives involved. If you still love eachother than I suggest you take time to cool off, and if he really likes you then he'll be willing to make the effort to correct the problems with your relationship the first time round.
However I can enlighten you as to the dynamics of this situation with my immense understanding of the human psyche. As a male, he is capable of recognising that the other guy's intentions were more than just friendship. Women are more likely to view going out with a guy as a completely innocent engagement (perhaps naively), whilst men, being privy to the inner workings of the male mind, would be more suspicious of his intentions.
You didn't do anything wrong and can't be blamed but I understand his reaction. From his point of view you were probably being a bit irresponsible to go out with another guy immediately after your talk. As it happens he turned out to be right about the guy but you were not to know this at the time.
As a male though I have to admit it can be frustrating to see girls act so naively. Though it should be perfectly normal to be able to go out with a guy friend like you would with a girl friend, there is often other motives involved. If you still love eachother than I suggest you take time to cool off, and if he really likes you then he'll be willing to make the effort to correct the problems with your relationship the first time round.
Couldnt agree more buddy, u took the words out of my mouth.
He may have appeared to have been acting like a jerk about it to you, but it's only probably because he has feelings about you and I could understand him getting a bit jealous.
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