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Very Helpless

I had a because with my step dad recently, but he came out "not guilty". Now he doesn't have bail anymore and is allowed to come into the house. The house is council property so it's under my mum and his name. He says that tomorrow he'll apply to come back into the house, and that he will kick us out. My mum hasn't divorced from him yet but started the legal proceedings in order to divorce.

Is it possible for him to move back into the house? There is no way that me, my mum and him could live together, we will probably end up killing each other. There's no way that me and my mum could move out either because we've got no where else to go. They will probably have to put us into a hostel but that's not really a good place for two women to go.

Any ideas or anything I can do to stop him from coming into the house? Can I put a bail order on him again?
Reply 1
Several words are absent from the first paragraph that completely remove any context from your problem.
Reply 2
Could you redo your first line?

I had a because with my step dad recently,
Reply 3
My best guess is that there's nothing you can do to stop him coming back into the house, but equally there's nothing he can do (legally) to force you to move out.
Reply 4
"I had a court case with my step dad recently"
Reply 5
If your mothers name is o the house, he can not leagally kick you her out. Legally if you are under 16, you have to stay with parents, so it'll will be hard to kick either of you out. If you are over 16, you're mother does get a say. There is nothing much you can do to stop him. Filing another order will be grounds enogh for him to seek legal advice on you. It could end up as a lawsuit or a restraining order.
Reply 6
I remember the op as being assaulted or something by the step dad - hope the case went well for you? Not too sure, but if he's name is not on there he can't come in. Change the locks after all the c*ap you have been through.
well tell the police is a good idea i guess, cos then maybe they can do something. or atleast they are awear of the situation if anything goes wrong

sorry i wasnt alot more help
Reply 8
Yeah well he came out not guilty afterall, I couldn't believe it. It was mainly because the defence side was pretty good and the prosecution didn't do much. The defence even persuaded the other side not to show good evidence which would have definetly convinced the jury that he was guilty.

Anyway I am 18 years but there is NO WAY that we could all live together. My mum is divorcing from him, so how can it be possible for two people like that to live together?? I thought that women in this country had more rights than men, so the house should be the woman's??

Why would he seek legal advice on me?
Reply 9

appeal.
Reply 10
I don't think an appeal is such a good idea, because the police was telling me that another girl around the same age as me had a court case against someone, he was found not guilty two times. I don't think I could go through all that sress for a second time and him ending up not guilty again.
Anyway I am 18 years but there is NO WAY that we could all live together. My mum is divorcing from him, so how can it be possible for two people like that to live together?? I thought that women in this country had more rights than men, so the house should be the woman's??

No, women and men have equal rights, as it should be. If you change the locks on your house (would cost quite a bit, but be worth it), and make sure that you don't leave any windows open, then there's nothing he can do to get in, is there?
Reply 12
The locks are changed. He can probably get in if he gets a solicitor or something can't he?
If he has his name on the house then he can come in. Women do have an extortinate amount of rights when it comes to divorce. Now it is up to 50% of all future earnings as well as well as 50/50 split of all credit plus child support - and most of the time will not get to see theor child. Debit usually stays with the man.

If you do fear for your safety I would advise going to a hostel which is specifically meant for this. It's better that you are safe. You can always win the house through a legal battle.
Reply 14
Desperate situation. You need professional advice. Have you tried legal aid, citizens advice bureau etc? Make sure all the relevant bodies are aware of situation, impending divorce etc. Is there a womens refuge near you? Find out now so you have somewhere in mind if the worst happens. You will at least be safe there until something more permanent can be sorted out.
Good luck.
Reply 15
Speak to the council, explain the situation and see if they can allocate him to different accomodation or at least be prepared to accomodate you should you have to leave, even if it's only for a night or two?? If it is there housing, they are the only ones who can really solve the housing issue

All the best :redface: