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am i bi?

i think i am sometimes sexually attracted to guys around my age, not guys too much younger or older then me. and i have had homosexual experience before. however at the same time im attracted to girls (though its harder to find girls that i fancy but again it might be that generally the girls living around me are not that hot lol). am i bisexual (or gay)? the point is i cant accpet myself being bi or gay. this idea just totally digusts me. its kinda ironic to say that im homophobic and my religion prohibits me from being sexually attracted to the same sex (at least thats my interpretation from my religion and please dont try to dissuade me from what i believe). perhaps im indeed a bi but i hate to admit it. so can someone tell me objectively whether im or not? plus what's my way out?! i despise myself!!!

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Reply 1
Dude, you know when you're straight, because you don't want to give it to other men, and you certainly don't go around experimenting with homosexuality. You just know that women are for you, and men do nothing for you. So at the very least you're bi.

My suggestion would be that religion or otherwise, you realise that there's nothing morally wrong with being attracted to who yoou're attracted to. You did nothing to choose it, you simply ARE attracted to men, and there's nothing wrong with that. Any sexual or romantic activities you may engage in with men are going on between consenting adults, so there's nothing morally wrong to be found there either.
If you feel that level of disgust about who you're attracted to (yes, I would think from what you say that you are bisexual) just remember, you decide what you do about it. You can just go with girls, even if you feel attracted to men. As a Christian, although you don't say what religion you are, I would say that if you feel that God doesn't look well on being gay or bi, look on it as a test, He tests people all the time. Resisting will make you feel better about keeping to your religion, but I'm afraid you can't hide who you are from yourself. You have to deal with who you are, you can't supress it, but you don't have to do anything about it.
I'm bi and for my own reasons I've decided only to have hetro relationships.
It can be done, it's not to difficult when I'm in a relationship as i'm faithful so no temptaion female or male worries me.
When I'm single it's harder, but it is possible. It's a waste of energy hating yourself though, if your going to deal with it effectively you have to acknowledge and accept that this is part of you, you are bi, that doesn't make you a disgusting person.
How you choose to deal with it may do.
These kinda threads are stupid sorry.

You can't ask anyone if you are bi or gay, only you know, if you find yourself attracted to guys and not girls then you're gay if both then bi, its not rocket science.


You say its against you're beliefs and you dont accept it but you had a experience before?

Come on wheres the sense....
There's nothing wrong with it, I found out this year I'm a bit bi-curious but that's about it. What's more important is the truth, in that you know what orientation you are, and that your close friends are in the know.
hey to the OP what religion are you?
You remind me of Mr Garrison. A blatant homosexual who hates gay people. I dont know if thats true but the possibility of it existing in reality makes me want to burst out laughing :biggrin:
Reply 8
I'm noooooooooot gaaaaaaaaaaaay!
How old are you? If you're still young, you might be be going through adolescent bicuriosity which SOME people get (not most like l've heard claimed on here). Keep dating girls and you might wonder when you're 25 what it was that attracted you to men.
Reply 10
contractador
You remind me of Mr Garrison. A blatant homosexual who hates gay people. I dont know if thats true but the possibility of it existing in reality makes me want to burst out laughing :biggrin:


QFT!
Thats the harshest most honest thing ive heard all day. Big up the truth man!
I think it's time to take up the bat for the opposite team for a few 'home runs'...
Makky_Legend
I think it's time to take up the bat for the opposite team for a few 'home runs'...

What?! What the hell does that mean. you are trying to be funny but end up getting confused with yourself (a lot like the topic starter)
Reply 13
Anonymous
How old are you? If you're still young, you might be be going through adolescent bicuriosity which SOME people get (not most like l've heard claimed on here). Keep dating girls and you might wonder when you're 25 what it was that attracted you to men.


im 19
Reply 14
what does bi-curious mean exactly? always kinda wondered that..
Reply 15
I think I shall name my bike urious





Sorry
Reply 16
Bi-curious basically means you know which sex you're attracted to but you wouldn't mind experimenting with the other sex.
Bi-curious is a sissy's way of saying they are bisexual.
If you're confused the worst thing you can do is try and make a decision about which sexuality group you fall into. There's no need to make an urgent choice about whether you'd call yourself bisexual or not; try and understand the way you feel first.

If you do find you are seriously attracted towards men and your religion frowns upon that, that's the fault of the denial of individual liberty that your religion entails. If you feel compelled to believe in such a religion, you've brought the pain of feeling like you are sinful upon yourself.
Anonymous
i think i am sometimes sexually attracted to guys around my age, not guys too much younger or older then me. and i have had homosexual experience before. however at the same time im attracted to girls (though its harder to find girls that i fancy but again it might be that generally the girls living around me are not that hot lol). am i bisexual (or gay)? the point is i cant accpet myself being bi or gay. this idea just totally digusts me. its kinda ironic to say that im homophobic and my religion prohibits me from being sexually attracted to the same sex (at least thats my interpretation from my religion and please dont try to dissuade me from what i believe). perhaps im indeed a bi but i hate to admit it. so can someone tell me objectively whether im or not? plus what's my way out?! i despise myself!!!


Hey mate, this is just my take, but why don't you talk to a close friend or family member, preferably from your age group? Not only are you dealing with sexuality, but you seem to have trouble facing yourself, your faith, and what you might be.

True friends are around for times like this, and I hope everything turns out well for you.

Now in response to your questions. It seems you are bi-sexual, but we must address a few points. First, are you truly attracted to other guys in a sexual way? Second what was the nature of your homosexual experience, if you don't mind my asking or your disclosing? It might make the difference as to whether you are going through, or have been through, a bi-curious phase or whether you are fully bi-sexual.