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Is trying to look pretty, being vain?

When girls are in the age of 18 to 22, they try to look more beautiful (i.e. rebonding / dying / highlighting of hair, make-ups, putting on perfumes, wearing clothes that exposed more cleavages), is that a sign of vanity and indirectly suggesting that the girl is materialistic?

What are your views?

Reply 1

Everdawn

13

Oh oh! Ask me!

I think there are 2 ways of getting to the bottom of this. Do you dress beautifully for men, or women. By that I mean do you dress to gain attention of males or do you dress to inspire women?

I suppose the ones who dress for women (like me) are probably more inept to vanity. I would suggest that i fall under this category, but I am a very nice person. I wouldnt say that being materialistic is bad, unless the person has a horrible heart.

Reply 2

riffraff

1

I never wear makeup so I would say that trying to make yourself look prettier than you actually are is vain. (btw- people do actually look nicer without make-up, having their hair died/ straightened/ curled etc. or having their skin tanned to a uniform shade of brown).

Reply 3

Zapsta

It depends. My sister stops every time we walk past a mirror to adjust her hair, then she'll notice she needs more blusher and gets that out, or puts some more lipstick on, etc. That's vain, as is spendin hours getting ready in the morning. However, just trying to make yourself look presentable and maybe highlight your natural beauty through a bit of make-up and some minor hair styling is not, it's just sensible.

Reply 4

Helenia

20

I think it depends. I had a friend at school who would not even come to the common room without make-up and perfume on if there was the slightest chance the boys might be there (the same boys who had seen her every day for the last 5 years and if they were going to be impressed, would have been by then. She would spend hours getting ready, doing her nails etc. I think that is quite vain.

On the other hand, there are lots of people like me, who don't usually wear make up or anything because I don't feel the need on a day to day basis. However, if I'm going out or something then I will, because it's nice to know you look nice and to feel good about yourself. I don't think that's particularly vain really; I mean it's not exactly necessary, but it's nice on occasion.

Riffraff - I have my hair highlighted and I like it a lot more than when it was plain brown. I don't go for the fake tan thing though, because I'm so pale it would just look wrong.

Reply 5

Everdawn

13

Zapsta

It depends. My sister stops every time we walk past a mirror to adjust her hair, then she'll notice she needs more blusher and gets that out, or puts some more lipstick on, etc. That's vain, as is spendin hours getting ready in the morning. However, just trying to make yourself look presentable and maybe highlight your natural beauty through a bit of make-up and some minor hair styling is not, it's just sensible.

Jeez, that must be the quality of the makeup if you have to keep applying it. I never use a lot at one time, not at all, I use as less as I can depending on the occasion.

Reply 6

riffraff

1

Helenia

Riffraff - I have my hair highlighted and I like it a lot more than when it was plain brown. I don't go for the fake tan thing though, because I'm so pale it would just look wrong.

If it works for you then that's great- but most of the ppl I know looked better before they dyed their hair etc. :smile:

Reply 7

Joey_Johns

10

Baby_Angelz

When girls are in the age of 18 to 22, they try to look more beautiful (i.e. rebonding / dying / highlighting of hair, make-ups, putting on perfumes, wearing clothes that exposed more cleavages), is that a sign of vanity and indirectly suggesting that the girl is materialistic?

What are your views?

I'd have to say that around that age most girls are looking for a partner, after all girls have a natural instinct to become a mother and you cannot do that without a man so that is why most girls do it subconsciously.

Reply 8

Everdawn

13

yeah, nowadays its like 12-36

Reply 9

username1170

I should think people who try to 'doll themselves' up for just going to school (especially an all-girls school) are definitely vain, although if they are just trying to make themselves presentable...maybe not.

Reply 10

Everdawn

13

Shaft

I should think people who try to 'doll themselves' up for just going to school (especially an all-girls school) are definitely vain, although if they are just trying to make themselves presentable...maybe not.

I would never go to an all girls school even if you paid me 8 million dollars!

Reply 11

TheWolf

15

Everdawn

I would never go to an all girls school even if you paid me 8 million dollars!

lol

Reply 12

Mysticmin

10

Meh, but the beauty of an all girls school is that you can turn up for classes looking like a total mess and not give a damn. Mind you I'd probably do that anyway but... :smile:

Reply 13

Babygal

Baby_Angelz

When girls are in the age of 18 to 22, they try to look more beautiful (i.e. rebonding / dying / highlighting of hair, make-ups, putting on perfumes, wearing clothes that exposed more cleavages), is that a sign of vanity and indirectly suggesting that the girl is materialistic?

What are your views?

well i thought that the dying, and straightening/makeup was more of a 14-16 range, at that age they're trying to impress guys

Reply 14

Babygal

Mysticmin

Meh, but the beauty of an all girls school is that you can turn up for classes looking like a total mess and not give a damn. Mind you I'd probably do that anyway but... :smile:

lol, bare in mind a girls school is near a guys school, then wat?

Reply 15

riffraff

1

Mysticmin

Meh, but the beauty of an all girls school is that you can turn up for classes looking like a total mess and not give a damn. Mind you I'd probably do that anyway but... :smile:

you can't at this one- then they bitch about you for years :frown:

Reply 16

GH

13

Everdawn

I would never go to an all girls school even if you paid me 8 million dollars!

I would. Just give me the money, and I'll go.

Reply 17

kokopops

10

Mysticmin

Meh, but the beauty of an all girls school is that you can turn up for classes looking like a total mess and not give a damn. Mind you I'd probably do that anyway but... :smile:

nah i dont think thats rite...ok...so i dont have the experience of an all girls school, but i no that the girls in my school judge the other girls way 2 much...i do it 2...im not saying i dont but the guys in my school dnt care, like if my hair is strate or wateva theyll be all ooo u going sumwhere... u no? n if u go in like looking a mess the guys are all finally uve realised school aint about dressing up

Reply 18

devilschild

2

I think it makes sense at that age to want to look attractive, if you are looking for a potential partner then it makes sense because you are supposedly more likely to get an attractive partner if you are attractive yourself (according to the matching hypothesis in psychology). when we first meet someone the only thing we have to judge them on is their appearance and if you make yourself look more attractive you are generally seen as being more warm, friendly and outgoing which will be an advantage when trying to make new friends etc. Obviously after getting to know someone how they look becomes almost irrelevant because you begin to like them more for their personality than anything but in the initial stages of attraction it does matter what you look like. I do think a lot of girls become obsessive about it though- having perfect hair and applying makeup every few hours certainly is vain but just making a bit of an effort each day to look nice isn't.

Reply 19

MrsSnufkin

Babygal

well i thought that the dying, and straightening/makeup was more of a 14-16 range, at that age they're trying to impress guys

he hem
10 plus more like
my friend (13) is coming with me on guide camp and taking her hair straighteners
she's mad!
also a girl in my class goes for all the crap there is
she died her hair so that it looked like yogurt
wears like 1 kg of make-up
and spends twenty quid on fake nails which broke the next day
i wear hardly any make- up 'cos i can't be bothered
and it's just not practical
but i suppose that some stuff is ok
like maybe a bit of eyeshadow and mascara on a special day
but you should see the mirror in the PE changing rooms
there's always around 10 girls crowded round it checking to see if their eyeliner is ok
girls that are trying to look nice for boys are just falling in to the human trap
and being manipulated by the human urge to have kids
so that they can plague the earth for longer
hair dye is ok as long as it is not blonde
blondes will die out soon in a couple of generations
THE TIME OF THE BRUNETTE IS UPON US!

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