Waiting

Hey,
I met a guy on fri nite, i went round to his to watch movie on sat. Now i had fun with him but didnt sleep with him. He tried but i wanted to keep my dignity so told him no, as im not that kind of girl that sleeps with anyone
Now he hasnt text me since, but he said i will have to meet you next sat,now i know im going to have to wait to see what happens but its just i feel so crap! i feel has he mayb used me?
To the guys: if you did things with a girl on 2nd night of meeting would you think less of her?
How long do you normally wait to do sexual things with each other?
Throughout the night, he kept complimenting me ( more than any of my exs) and he seemed a genuine nice guy, just a lil horny.
What do you think, have i jumped into things too soon? should i have waited a lil more?

Reply 1

Mr.God

7

To be honest, I WANT sex with a girl as soon as possible, but if she makes me wait then I like her more and respect her more.

Reply 2

username47781

20

Trouble is with this guy he could be complinmenting you so he can get in your underwear, if you are uncomfortable with him trying it on make him wait until your ready, you've just met him anyway so you might want to get to know him more before you even start dating him let alone start sleeping with him.

The other problem is now that you've told him no he may think oh i am not going to get any so he may move on, but that will be his loss not yours, if you do meet him again, spell it out to him you don't want to go all the way yet.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

So you wouldnt really think any less as long as she didnt go full way?

Reply 4

Dragon24

17

Mr.God

To be honest, I WANT sex with a girl as soon as possible, but if she makes me wait then I like her more and respect her more.

Your honest! The girl obviously know the guy was wrong and after one thing but still let him use her :confused:

Don't do it again, especially with someone you don't know that well - could get nasty next time your alone with him.

Reply 5

Mr.God

7

The more convincing you had to do to get her to do stuff, the better, as long as it's obvious the reason she's holding off is because she's respectable and not because you don't turn her on.

Reply 6

username47781

20

Anonymous

So you wouldnt really think any less as long as she didnt go full way?

No course not, I would respect a girl more if she waited and took it more slowly, no way would i jump into bed with a girl i just met in the same night, i'd wanna get to know her more first.

Reply 7

Mr.God

7

I think it's really sweet when guys are romantic like that. There are far too many manwhores around these days. Good on you!

i waited 3 months.

Carl1982

No course not, I would respect a girl more if she waited and took it more slowly, no way would i jump into bed with a girl i just met in the same night, i'd wanna get to know her more first.

There aren't many guys around like this anymore :frown:

Bring back decent blokes!

Reply 10

username47781

20

Angel83

There aren't many guys around like this anymore :frown:

Bring back decent blokes!

I know

even though i am a guy alot of guys i see around just wanna sweet talk some girl so he can worm his way into her bed, same though with some girls (not all) many of them don't wait no more, whatever happened to doing it the traditional way in getting to know the person first.

Reply 11

Dragon24

17

Carl1982

I know

even though i am a guy alot of guys i see around just wanna sweet talk some girl so he can worm his way into her bed, same though with some girls (not all) many of them don't wait no more, whatever happened to doing it the traditional way in getting to know the person first.

Explains the high divorce rates and single parents (not all) who live off the state. Get to know someone before breaking hearts and families up.

Reply 12

username47781

20

Angel83

Explains the high divorce rates and single parents (not all) who live off the state. Get to know someone before breaking hearts and families up.

Oh yeah divorce rates have never been higher, not just because it's easier to get a quickie divorce but also because so many rush into marriage after barely knowing the person.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

It seems i am always unlucky, most lads i meet just want to use me :s-smilie:

or it seems that way. I really hope this one is different, if not i will definitely be more wary as he worked quite hard for what he got although i wouldnt sleep with him ! How can you ever learn to see difference when someone seems genuinely interested?

Reply 14

Dragon24

17

They are prepared to wait and respect your feelings than pressurise you.

Reply 15

Aeris

15

Angel83

They are prepared to wait and respect your feelings than pressurise you.

Men know women like to be complimented and called "honey" and "sweetie" and things like that. Some of them try to use it against you. But there's something wrong with a guy who's moving in that fast so soon.

It sounds like you had your standards set. You shouldn't feel like you have to compromise for this guy you just met.

Reply 16

Shreerac1

10

Anonymous

It seems i am always unlucky, most lads i meet just want to use me :s-smilie:

or it seems that way. I really hope this one is different, if not i will definitely be more wary as he worked quite hard for what he got although i wouldnt sleep with him ! How can you ever learn to see difference when someone seems genuinely interested?

If you meet them in a club = they want you for sex.

Reply 17

username47781

20

Shreerac1

If you meet them in a club = they want you for sex.

Yeah a club isn't the best place to meet a guy, besides you can't have a conversation in there, try something a bit quieter like a social club, a pub or even say if you haven't found a job, maybe once you do find one for example you might find a guy there.

Reply 18

Mangaroo

12

Anonymous

Hey,
I met a guy on fri nite, i went round to his to watch movie on sat. Now i had fun with him but didnt sleep with him. He tried but i wanted to keep my dignity so told him no, as im not that kind of girl that sleeps with anyone
Now he hasnt text me since, but he said i will have to meet you next sat,now i know im going to have to wait to see what happens but its just i feel so crap! i feel has he mayb used me?
To the guys: if you did things with a girl on 2nd night of meeting would you think less of her?
How long do you normally wait to do sexual things with each other?
Throughout the night, he kept complimenting me ( more than any of my exs) and he seemed a genuine nice guy, just a lil horny.
What do you think, have i jumped into things too soon? should i have waited a lil more?

the longer i wait...the more id respect her, but theres a limit...2 dates is no were near that limit for me, next time he tries it (unless you want it) slapthe****outofhim

Reply 19

G4ry

1

Anonymous

It seems i am always unlucky, most lads i meet just want to use me :s-smilie:

or it seems that way. I really hope this one is different, if not i will definitely be more wary as he worked quite hard for what he got although i wouldnt sleep with him ! How can you ever learn to see difference when someone seems genuinely interested?

Firstly, perhaps it's something you do to make guys want to use you. Maybe it's your approach or you're just too soon to get physical with people and perhaps you need to show some restraint.

Secondly, he doesn't seem very different if he tried to sleep with you - but this comes back to the first point.

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