How do Muslims fall inlove?

Reply 100

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Anonymous

Arranged marriages are an option, not compulsory. You cannot say you are never allowed to speak to a member of the opposite sex - it is ridiculous. Islam teaches that you shouldn't try to make things difficult for yourself or stand out unnecessarily in society - so you should be sociable and interact with people.

Men and women are separated in many Christian churches as well, yet free-mixing is encouraged.

Well I suppose it comes down to interpretation.

I have known A LOT of muslims that believe the contray (including imams); and it shows as there are a hell of a lot of arranged marriages in the muslim community. Why? because there are a lot of Muslims that cannot meet their partners any other way, due to the reasons I have stated earlier.

Reply 101

The Green Manalishi

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Anonymous

How do they fall in love? Erm, like any other person!

All this 'you can't have friends of the opposite sex' is ridiculous. Basically, the big rule you have to abide by is no sex before marriage. So long as you stick to that, you're fine. A Muslim girl can have male friends, who may be Muslim or non-Muslim, a Muslim boy can have female friends, who may be Muslim or non-Muslim.

I think some people are confusing culture with religion - for 'Muslim,' they read 'Asian'! As some people have said, you can be friends with someone of the opposite sex, if you fall in love with them and your parents approve, you can marry. I'd say we're a religious family and my brother has a girlfriend, who is fairly devout and comes from a religious family too - I'm sure her family and mine wouldn't allow it if it was forbidden.

Pre-marital relationships and intimacy is forbidden. Free-mixing is generally disallowed or disliked. I've read that it's permissible for pure and just cause e.g. health and education perhaps. Otherwise there are specific rules to govern mixing and relations of opposite genders :smile:

Reply 102

fat_hobbit

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xyz2k6

Well I suppose it comes down to interpretation.

I have known A LOT of muslims that believe the contray (including imams); and it shows as there are a hell of a lot of arranged marriages in the muslim community. Why? because there are a lot of Muslims that cannot meet their partners any other way, due to the reasons I have stated earlier.

I googled this issue, found this:

http://www.lutonmuslims.co.uk/freemixing.htm

In the law book entitled al-Fawâkih al-Dawânî, there is a discussion of when it is permissible to refuse an invitation to a wedding party. It says: “An invitation may be refused if there is any clear wrongdoing at the party, like the mixing of men and women.”

When scholars warn against the free mixing of men and women, they are not talking about the mere presence of men and women together in the same place. This is something that is definitely not prohibited by Islamic Law. Men and women gathered in the same place at the time of the Prophet (SAW) in the mosque and in the marketplace. They walked down the same roads and public thoroughfares.

At the same time, some circumstances are indisputably cases of unlawful mixing. This would include situations where women and men are crowded together so that there is a danger of their making physical contact. Equally unlawful would be any occasion where unrelated women and men are seated next to one another. Under these circumstances, desires are kindled and temptations are greater and regrettable things happen, as is seen time and again in co-ed schools and mixed social events.

The same can be said for any repeated acquaintance between men and women. Repeated meetings break down the barriers between men and women and allow a relationship to develop between them.

A woman is commanded in Islam not to come too close to men. She is not, however, prohibited from going to places where men are present as long as she does not approach them or place herself in a position where she is alone with them.

Exactly what I discribed in previous threads. Give it a read.

Reply 103

fat_hobbit

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The Green Manalishi

Pre-marital relationships and intimacy is forbidden. Free-mixing is generally disallowed or disliked. I've read that it's permissible for pure and just cause e.g. health and education perhaps. Otherwise there are specific rules to govern mixing and relations of opposite genders :smile:

...likewise.

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