biting the bullet?

I go away to university very soon and I've been looking forward to the change of pace and a new life for most of the summer, but there is a boy I've liked for over a year and he's going to be at a university in another part of the country so I'm not going to see him as frequently. I've never told him how I feel about him properly, but lately he's told my friends and me one night that he likes me. I've had a bit of a bad run with men in the past and because of this I've always found it hard to open up and tell someone how I feel about them.

My friends have all told me to do the same thing - that being to bite the bullet and just tell him how I really feel about him before I go in a couple of weeks. I'm a very shy person naturally and sometimes I wonder whether saying nothing is better than having a serious talk with him that could get uncomfortable. He's been a wonderful friend to me for the past two years or so and I wouldn't want to risk losing that and face the possibility of being miserable in my first couple of months of university.

I don't know if it's worth the risk.

Reply 1

mipmapped

13

What's the point? You're going to be gone in a couple of weeks, and if you act on it, you're going to end up more hurt, when you've got to leave.

Reply 2

User69701

10

That's up to you. If you want a short term relationship then it migiht be worth it.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

I'd say go for it! you only live once and knowing once and for all how he feels is better than regretting it whilst you're at uni....
I had to make that decision a few days ago (not quite the same situation, I met him on a night out, he's a friend of a friend. anyway we got kinda close that night, just dancing, hugging, holding hands etc and i really liked him, never been like that for anyone else. He got my number at the end of the night but five days later he hadnt phoned or texted...:-(. i decided to bite the bullet and get in touch, so i got his number from our mutual friend, and spent the whole of yesterday agonising over whether to call him or not. i did eventually, and he explained he'd dropped his phone in a river and it hadnt been working, he was in town at the time and had literally just gotten his phone replaced! so he was glad i called and we have a date on wednesday!)

in the end its all working out, and even if it doesnt, you get to run away to uni in a couple of weeks and may never have to see him again (knowing that was the only reason i was able to do it!) so all good. Go for it!

Reply 4

mipmapped

13

A couple of weeks isn't really enough to get something out of it though, is it?

Reply 5

hanadeka2002

I'd say tell him.At least that way there won't be any 'what ifs?'

If you don't tell him it will just do your head in about what he might have said back etc...you might not get a relationship or whatever out of it but it will be a huge weight off your chest.

Reply 6

kazap

its sad to say but relationships rarely last once you head to Uni, you'll meet loads of new and exciting people and you'll change. In three years time you will be a very different person.

That said, you should still go for it! Good luck!

Reply 7

cat_meiow

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kazap

its sad to say but relationships rarely last once you head to Uni, you'll meet loads of new and exciting people and you'll change. In three years time you will be a very different person.

To a certain extent i agree wif that, coz my mate's bf just split up with her coz he's going to uni soon.

On the other hand I'm at uni and my bf isn't and it works fine but totally different situation.

Just follow your heart if you're going to regret not saying anything then do it, what have you go to lose honestly?

Reply 8

username47781

20

kazap

its sad to say but relationships rarely last once you head to Uni, you'll meet loads of new and exciting people and you'll change. In three years time you will be a very different person.

That said, you should still go for it! Good luck!

That's where your wrong my Girlfriend went away to uni for alot of our relationship, but we are still together, she is going to Birmingham nearly 2 hours away next year but we have no intention of splitting.

Reply 9

mipmapped

13

That's where your wrong my Girlfriend went away to uni for alot of our relationship, but we are still together, she is going to Birmingham nearly 2 hours away next year but we have no intention of splitting.

I think the point was not that they can't survive, but that most don't.

Reply 10

username47781

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mipmapped

I think the point was not that they can't survive, but that most don't.

Just saying i know alot who have survived or who are making a go of it.

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