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So theres a chance for me to go to a Uni where friends of mine are already going there, I like the sound of the course and from what ive been told is it is a very good uni to go to for it. Should i go off that, as it would mean i wouldnt be lonely there without knowing anyone. Also it is pretty close to home, which is what i would kind of need, due to having hospital appointments that i would need to get to and i wont want to be traveling 5 hours to get home for them, in which would be the case for another uni im considering.
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It's never a good idea to pick a Uni based on where your friends are going. You can still go to hospital appointments when you're at your new Uni.
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It's never a good idea to pick a Uni based on where your friends are going. You can still go to hospital appointments when you're at your new Uni.
But the thing is i need to go to where i am now, as they are specialist appointments, where i need to see a certain person, so it's kinda hard to go to somewhere near the uni i'll end up going to. But as i said the course sounds like what i want to study, am going to be going and looking at it when their open day come around so ill see then.
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People pick places for different reasons. Completely ignore the friends, but everything else is important.

a) if you like the course - this is good
b) if you like the city/area/general university - this is good

Those are the two default checks. Some people have other reasons though, and this might include you for something like that. So..

c) needs to be within a certain distance of X (family, specialist centre...)

If you can go elsewhere (hospital) / are willing to travel and you're just trying to find ways to make this fit better, then don't place so much importance on it. If you do like this place nearby then cool, but if you actually like somewhere else better then don't be afraid to go for it. You gotta step out of your comfort zone sometimes, because life won't wait for you.

I say forget the friends because a) they're older i'm guessing, which means they'll probably need to do a *bit* more work so they won't be there to hold your hand socially, and b) you'll make your own new friends, have your own new life, and your own new social path

There's so much happening at university people drift apart, it's so natural. This is why you should never pick based on where your boyfriend/girlfriend/friends are because people will change, and the situation changes.
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Sounds like you've already made your mind up and now you just need some reassurance, to which I say; go for it!
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(Original post by Nymthae)
People pick places for different reasons. Completely ignore the friends, but everything else is important.

a) if you like the course - this is good
b) if you like the city/area/general university - this is good

Those are the two default checks. Some people have other reasons though, and this might include you for something like that. So..

c) needs to be within a certain distance of X (family, specialist centre...)

If you can go elsewhere (hospital) / are willing to travel and you're just trying to find ways to make this fit better, then don't place so much importance on it. If you do like this place nearby then cool, but if you actually like somewhere else better then don't be afraid to go for it. You gotta step out of your comfort zone sometimes, because life won't wait for you.

I say forget the friends because a) they're older i'm guessing, which means they'll probably need to do a *bit* more work so they won't be there to hold your hand socially, and b) you'll make your own new friends, have your own new life, and your own new social path

There's so much happening at university people drift apart, it's so natural. This is why you should never pick based on where your boyfriend/girlfriend/friends are because people will change, and the situation changes.
The location and stuff like that i hear are very good, wanting to be around the country side ish as im bored of city living, which the 2 unis im deciding over are both situated near. But i completely understand where you are coming from. Also being close to family would be a nice thing, but isnt essential. (out of interest, where would you say is better, Gloustershire or Plymouth? As ive heard of good things about both) But going to uni will be stepping out of my comfort zone, as originally i had thought i would stay at home and study, but then thought nah, move out it'll be a good experience. But i'm unsure if i can actually change, but dont really want to do so, as right now, the guy im seeing at the hospital is very good, and am really pleased with the care i have had from him, and dont want to change and then get someone that isn't as good.

My friends are about the same age as me, im only behind them due to the fact i had to take a year out for an op, and so wasnt able to study during that time. But i know i'll make friends, but our thoughts behind it all are that we would be able to live together while there. But i wont go and pick the Uni where they are on that premise i'll give it full thought and decide what is best for me based on that.

Thanks for all the input has helped think things through a bit more.
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Sounds like you've already made your mind up and now you just need some reassurance, to which I say; go for it!
I haven't fully decided yet, as i havent gotten any offers yet, its just me trying to get my head around things first before diving into the daunting process of picking one.
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I had a better option for uni for which i would have to move out... but i take driving lessons and have dentist appointments so i decided to stay... these are the two things which i didnt want to disrupt.
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I had a better option for uni for which i would have to move out... but i take driving lessons and have dentist appointments so i decided to stay... these are the two things which i didnt want to disrupt.
Like with me, they are every 3 or so months, so that wouldnt be an issue, and i dont take driving lessons, but i might be able to when i move out to uni etc. but if i wanted to stay i would have about an hour on the train each way, which i dont want as they would be packed with people so i wouldnt be able to get work done, where as if i was to move out i would be able to live pretty close to the uni.
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You do know you can make new friends at uni.
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Like with me, they are every 3 or so months, so that wouldnt be an issue, and i dont take driving lessons, but i might be able to when i move out to uni etc. but if i wanted to stay i would have about an hour on the train each way, which i dont want as they would be packed with people so i wouldnt be able to get work done, where as if i was to move out i would be able to live pretty close to the uni.
haha your talkin an hou, my uni is 1hr 20mins and thats what google says. I know somebody who used to go and she said it could run upto 2hrs somedays.

but i have no other option.. my mum is over protective. Which uni are you going to go to?
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You do know you can make new friends at uni.
I know that, but i would feel more comfortable going somewhere, where i would know at least one person. I do intend on making more friends while im there as i wouldn't just hang around with them, as they would have friends there already and it would just be awkward for me to just turn up and just hang around with them. The whole friend aspect of it is just to live together while we are there and we would do our own thing while at uni etc
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haha your talkin an hou, my uni is 1hr 20mins and thats what google says. I know somebody who used to go and she said it could run upto 2hrs somedays.

but i have no other option.. my mum is over protective. Which uni are you going to go to?
It gets annoying, especially as seen as ive been traveling around 40-50 mins to get to school or college since year 7, so im wanting a break from all the long travelling times. And the main ones right now are Plymouth, Gloustershire and Winchester as they are the ones that sound the best to me so far.
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It gets annoying, especially as seen as ive been traveling around 40-50 mins to get to school or college since year 7, so im wanting a break from all the long travelling times. And the main ones right now are Plymouth, Gloustershire and Winchester as they are the ones that sound the best to me so far.
oh so you have the experience of travel quite a bit. my mum has been dropping me of all my life until college. so i have no idea what its going to be like. im sure for the second year ill try n move out. i should pass and get rid of my braces by then. what course?
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oh so you have the experience of travel quite a bit. my mum has been dropping me of all my life until college. so i have no idea what its going to be like. im sure for the second year ill try n move out. i should pass and get rid of my braces by then. what course?
Yep, its horrible, especially if you get a commuter trains, have fun playing sardines XD and im hoping to go Primary Teaching
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Yep, its horrible, especially if you get a commuter trains, have fun playing sardines XD and im hoping to go Primary Teaching
Wow you really like kids then?
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Wow you really like kids then?
Yep, and its not about liking them, its about how enjoyable it is, but liking them is needed really. Patience is also needed XD
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