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I'm worried that I won't fit in at university

I'm not sure why but I keep having this feeling that I'll be left alone and miserable at university. I am quite sociable, and make friends pretty easily (in college I did anyway), but I don't drink or party, I'm fairly quiet and introverted and I am quite independent too I suppose. Sometimes, I get really shy in new situations and might isolate myself. I'm anxious that during freshers week, for example, all my flatmates could go drinking and clubbing, and ask me to come along and I'll have to decline and just stay inside and be depressed.

I've seen the societies at my university, and none of them really stand out to me to be honest, a few freshers events seem appealing, just like tours of the city etc, but I'm worried I'll end up doing it all alone. When I move away, I won't know anybody, none of my friends are coming to this university and I barely know my way round.
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In college, during my free periods, I'd go to the library mostly and catch up on homework or revise so there'd be less to do at home, I sacrificed my social life completely in favour of work, and I regret it because there are people I know who managed to have a social life and got the same or better grades than me, so I didn't have to be such a stressed out workaholic. I don't really want to do that again.
What do you enjoy? Ask your flatmates to do some of these things with you. And even if you hate clubbing, just go once or twice during the week; you can leave early if you want to. You don't really need to socialise much, just enough that your flatmates don't think you're boring.
I didn't think I'd enjoy drinking/partying/whatever but I went along & had a good time. :smile: You're only going to be a fresher once so you might as well go out with your flat at least once or twice even if it's just to see if it's for you or not. After freshers it isn't partying every night anyway so you should be able to bond over other things once the initial madness settles down.
Why don't you just drink and party? Is it that big of a deal to you? Why exclude yourself for trivial reasons?
Original post by Anonymous
I'm not sure why but I keep having this feeling that I'll be left alone and miserable at university. I am quite sociable, and make friends pretty easily (in college I did anyway), but I don't drink or party, I'm fairly quiet and introverted and I am quite independent too I suppose. Sometimes, I get really shy in new situations and might isolate myself. I'm anxious that during freshers week, for example, all my flatmates could go drinking and clubbing, and ask me to come along and I'll have to decline and just stay inside and be depressed.

I've seen the societies at my university, and none of them really stand out to me to be honest, a few freshers events seem appealing, just like tours of the city etc, but I'm worried I'll end up doing it all alone. When I move away, I won't know anybody, none of my friends are coming to this university and I barely know my way round.

hmm man how bout we skype and we do out a plan so this year wont be so bad:smile:
Original post by Anonymous
In college, during my free periods, I'd go to the library mostly and catch up on homework or revise so there'd be less to do at home, I sacrificed my social life completely in favour of work, and I regret it because there are people I know who managed to have a social life and got the same or better grades than me, so I didn't have to be such a stressed out workaholic. I don't really want to do that again.

yee guys should talk...

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