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Friend stressing me out!
Not really sure what I want people to say to this, i'm just ranting really.
Basically, my friend is really starting to stress me out, and has been doing for a while now. This isn't to say I love her to bits, but shes very loud and confident, and wants everything done her way or no way at all, and goes in a mood if she doesn't get her own way, or people disagree with her.
We went on holiday together this summer, as everyone else in our group of friends was either away, or busy. We had a great time, but on two seperate days, she completely ignored me, and fell out with me over something really stupid. The first time was after she just expected me to carry this bottle of water all the way from our apartment, to the beach. I wouldn't have minded, but I had my own bottle of water, and literally everything she couldn't fit in her bag, and it took the piss a bit because it was quite a walk. I asked her why she wouldn't carry it and her response was something along the lines of; "it's to share", so that automatically meant she didn't take responsibility of it. All day she practically ignored me, and as it was only us two, we couldn't leave each other and do our own thing. This 'ignoring thing' happened on another day because I didn't wake up to her alarm and it was about 11oclock by the time we got to the beach, so she was mad at me, even though she had made no attempt to wake me up (and i'm a heavy sleeper). We spent the day in silence and it was just boring, and unnecessary.
Anyway, after the holiday we were fine, but didn't see each other for a while just so we could have some space from one another, but I had a free house so invited people round. It was just me, my friend and another friend in the end and I put a DVD on and because she didn't want to watch it *even though me and my other friend did*, she just sat there with a face like thunder until we changed it. It's starting to get really annoying seeing as shes 20, and should learn that she can't always get her own way, and needs to compromise.
For my birthday she got me some pyjamas *amongst other things*, but the bottoms didn't fit as they were tiny, and didn't stretch, so I told her so she could get me a bigger size, which she said she would. She's looked in the shop *as she got them from where she works*, and another shop, but no where has them. I asked her online earlier if she'd managed to find any, as i'm going back to uni in less than a week and she said "Did you not look in the Manchester store to see if they had any?", as I was up there last week, which I thought was pretty cheeky, seeing as it was her present to me. If she'd have asked me to look before I went up I wouldn't have minded at all, but just that she assumed I would have done. Agh, shes stressing me out so much!
Sorry for the length, and i'm not expecting anything, but just needed to rant
Basically, my friend is really starting to stress me out, and has been doing for a while now. This isn't to say I love her to bits, but shes very loud and confident, and wants everything done her way or no way at all, and goes in a mood if she doesn't get her own way, or people disagree with her.
We went on holiday together this summer, as everyone else in our group of friends was either away, or busy. We had a great time, but on two seperate days, she completely ignored me, and fell out with me over something really stupid. The first time was after she just expected me to carry this bottle of water all the way from our apartment, to the beach. I wouldn't have minded, but I had my own bottle of water, and literally everything she couldn't fit in her bag, and it took the piss a bit because it was quite a walk. I asked her why she wouldn't carry it and her response was something along the lines of; "it's to share", so that automatically meant she didn't take responsibility of it. All day she practically ignored me, and as it was only us two, we couldn't leave each other and do our own thing. This 'ignoring thing' happened on another day because I didn't wake up to her alarm and it was about 11oclock by the time we got to the beach, so she was mad at me, even though she had made no attempt to wake me up (and i'm a heavy sleeper). We spent the day in silence and it was just boring, and unnecessary.
Anyway, after the holiday we were fine, but didn't see each other for a while just so we could have some space from one another, but I had a free house so invited people round. It was just me, my friend and another friend in the end and I put a DVD on and because she didn't want to watch it *even though me and my other friend did*, she just sat there with a face like thunder until we changed it. It's starting to get really annoying seeing as shes 20, and should learn that she can't always get her own way, and needs to compromise.
For my birthday she got me some pyjamas *amongst other things*, but the bottoms didn't fit as they were tiny, and didn't stretch, so I told her so she could get me a bigger size, which she said she would. She's looked in the shop *as she got them from where she works*, and another shop, but no where has them. I asked her online earlier if she'd managed to find any, as i'm going back to uni in less than a week and she said "Did you not look in the Manchester store to see if they had any?", as I was up there last week, which I thought was pretty cheeky, seeing as it was her present to me. If she'd have asked me to look before I went up I wouldn't have minded at all, but just that she assumed I would have done. Agh, shes stressing me out so much!
Sorry for the length, and i'm not expecting anything, but just needed to rant
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Why can friends be so frustrating?!
She sounds very immature 2bh. As long as you've got other friends i'd give it a 'cooling-off' period for a bit; see if she appreciates your friendship when it isn't there so to speak.
Good luck
She sounds very immature 2bh. As long as you've got other friends i'd give it a 'cooling-off' period for a bit; see if she appreciates your friendship when it isn't there so to speak.
Good luck
Sounds annoying and kinda stuck-up. If she ignores you, just ignore her, it's not your fault! And you're right, being 20, she should know how to compromise and not act like a pratty little princess. I have a friend like her and she pisses me off too. Then again, they do have their nice moments...
Ask your other friends if they're getting annoyed.
Just start ignoring her, she won't be able to cope with not being centre of attention judging by the original post.
you both kinda sound like brats
weird thing is the similar thing happened to me this summer. went on hols with a friend, but i never got mad cause i thought would be **** to have an arguement on holiday. its not like i could escape her.
question , is she an only child, because i find it much more common with only children than ones with siblings?
question , is she an only child, because i find it much more common with only children than ones with siblings?
Peart
you both kinda sound like brats
Anonymous
question , is she an only child, because i find it much more common with only children than ones with siblings?
question , is she an only child, because i find it much more common with only children than ones with siblings?
Forgot the anon?
Anonymous
weird thing is the similar thing happened to me this summer. went on hols with a friend, but i never got mad cause i thought would be **** to have an arguement on holiday. its not like i could escape her.
question , is she an only child, because i find it much more common with only children than ones with siblings?
question , is she an only child, because i find it much more common with only children than ones with siblings?
ah dude, don't generalise. it can happen to anyone if they are spoilt as a child.
trust, not all only children are spoilt brats.
don't ignore her though, seriously.. communication is best.
matt@internet
Forgot the anon?
As I asked, do any of your friends say she is annoying as well?
Well, yeah. It's a general consensus that you have to take her with a pinch of salt, and shes a lot to handle.
im not generalising. like i dont assume that if they are an only child they will be spoilt, but my friend is
Kittennffc
Well, yeah. It's a general consensus that you have to take her with a pinch of salt, and shes a lot to handle.
Well then, you could all confront her, and tell her how sick of her recent behaviour you all are. You can tell her that you feel that, at 20, she should be able to accept that she wont always get her own way, and that it is childish to sulk, until you give her what she wants. You can tell her how disappointed you all are with her. I think many people always react to disappointing their friends and loved ones.
I know a few people like that.Perhaps she doesn't even realise she's being how she is anymore, as she's been so used to getting her own way. Maybe just try and have a subtle, quiet word. If that doesn't work,be a bit less subtle....and if all else fails, smack her in the mouth!
..ok, maybe not the last bit!
..ok, maybe not the last bit!
that sounds very like a friend of mine, espcially when u were talking about the water carrying. My friend done the same thing with alcohol, she made me carry it around this park because she didnt want to be caught with it. So she expected I did? grrrr And everytime we're out places she makes me go and order for her but of course when I ask 'why the heck can't u do it urself, I've already been up?' she says 'just.' it all accumulated basically and I haven't hung out with her 'properly' in quite a while. So my advice= cut ur stick
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