Why wont society allow us to marry? :(

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My relationship is far from conventional, but very much real.

I am bisexual and I am in a relationship with a man who I love dearly and a woman who I love equally dearly. The woman is also bisexual and loves me and our man. Everything about our relationship is perfect, except the way people react when they find out about us can be quite upsetting sometimes.

All three of us really want to get married one day and have a family, but the current laws don't allow us to. Why are people so concerned about what we do when it doesn't affect them at all? Should the laws be changed to allow us to be a happily married family?
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Inazuma
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Too much room for abuse. I agree with polygamous marriages not being legal because of the aspect from other countries of men having many wives / harem - and I don't support those relationships as there is not the same equality as what you describe, however legally they cannot be differentiated.
Anyway, you can still have a family - being married is no prerequisite to having one.
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I don't know why people are so worried about what happens in other people's relationships. I've got a thread up talking about mine (http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=2867139) and less than a page in I'm already being called a slut and having my relationships questioned. I was expecting it, but it's still a bit of a *****.

I would support a change in the law to allow group marriages, but in the mean time, you can always get married, just without the legal bit. Big party, white dresses, honeymoon, just without signing that one piece of paper. Nothing stopping you having a family either. Good luck with it.
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People like to dictate how others should live their lives.
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I have nothing against polygamous relationships but think polygamous marriage would just create more legal problems.
What If you got into a coma and your spouses disagree about whether to turn off life support. Who's wishes are followed? I'm sure there are other examples bit that's the first one off the top of my head.
Plus there are probably ways people could abuse it.
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I completely agree. You can be with one guy or a hundred guys, or a thousand girls, or a combination of all three, and it doesn't matter. As long as it is consensual, it shouldn't matter.

Unfortunately, laws and society don't think sensibly, and people like to choose how other people should live their lives.
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You are not the first in this situation and you won't be the last.

Polygamous marriage is likely to remain legally impossible for many years, if not forever, due to the difficulty of managing a fair division of property in the event of a total or partial break-up.
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It's just a certificate and paper.

I think people will obviously find it strange because it's not the norm, but I don't see anything wrong with it.
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(Original post by shakool2kool)
How the f**k do people actually get into these type of situations.
I was in a poly relationship with two other women and a MFF one. In both cases, we branched from an existing couple to a threesome.

We all broke it off because of the time and effort to maintain two people, but some couples stay like that all their lives.
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