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Older man

Hi everyone.

I have worked with a guy all summer who is a lot older than me - we're talking ~20 years... Initially, I wasnt attracted to him, but merely loved working with him as a friend. However, as time has gone on, I've gotton to know him and begun to fnacy him. I'm pretty sure he fancies me too. Someone I work with knows I like him and says that just recently she has noticed the body lang. between us.. This isn't even particuarly intentional on my part.

However, I go to uni a week on Sunday, and am likely to see him once / twice in the meantime, and perhaps speak to him on the phone once. I don't know what i should do, if anything, before I go. Part of me thinks it is stupid for liking him, but the other part thinks that we are both free and single.

Any ideas? Anyone else been in this situation before?

Reply 1

El Scotto

how old are you? Isnt he old enough to be your father?

Reply 2

username47781

Well you are both at different stages in life so it would be difficult to have a relationship, there was a thread on this earlier only the guy concerned was married.

You'll be making alot of new friends at uni so this is probably just a crush.

Reply 3

OC_girl

I think that if you decide not to pursue anything with him then it should be because of the distance/uni thing, not because you feel it's unacceptable due to his age. If you're ok about the age gap then don't worry about what others think.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

El Scotto

how old are you? Isnt he old enough to be your father?

Erm, yes.

Reply 5

silverbolt

go for it the older lover has a lot to be said for (some of the best sex i ever had was from a woman twice my age)

Reply 6

Helenia

If you're about to go to uni, then don't do anything. Just a theory, but are there many other people working with you, or is it just him? If so, it's likely the attraction developed just because he was there rather than any stronger reasons. In all honesty, few relationships with that age gap are ever going to work and it's only too easy for you to end up getting used. You especially don't want something like this hanging over you and you trying to make up your mind while you're settling into uni.