Do you think this is dodgy?

Ok, well I have a good mate that i've known for about 4 years. Hes 21 and I'm 18 (female). We've always been a bit flirty with each other but nothings ever happened (and i'm not sure I want it to as i like us being just good mates). I know he fancies me though as hes told me.
Anyway, his parents are going away for the weekend soon and hes invited me round to watch films etc but also to stay the night. He says he just wants us to cuddle in bed but do you think this is a bit dodgy and would lead to something else? Hes naturally very suggestive and i'm a bit worried about it but I also really want to spend this time with him as we dont see eachother that much anymore with his new job and im going to uni etc.
I dont know what to do...any advice?

Reply 1

pink_lucie

14

nothing has to happen unless you want it to. He probably will try it on with you, but its up to you towether you want to carry on or not.

Reply 2

mipmapped

13

just wants us to cuddle in bed

He wants sex.

Reply 3

silverbolt

19

mipmapped

He wants sex.

agreed but as gossip_girl said nothing has to happen that you dont want it to

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

"I know he fancies me, he wants us to cuddle in bed and lead to something else"

I took out some words to make it more understandable for you.

Reply 5

username47781

20

It's most likely he does want sex with you, but again as people are saying you can just say no if he tries to advance on you, i would suggest start going out with him if you want to do that sort of stuff or least talk about what you both want first as well.

Reply 6

Helenia

20

It's true both that he probably wants sex, and that you don't have to do anything. But I think really it would be inappropriate to share a bed with him if you know he wants more. Not that he'll force you into anything, but letting him go to bed with you and cuddle you is not exactly giving off the right signals.

Reply 7

generalebriety

16

Helenia

It's true both that he probably wants sex, and that you don't have to do anything. But I think really it would be inappropriate to share a bed with him if you know he wants more. Not that he'll force you into anything, but letting him go to bed with you and cuddle you is not exactly giving off the right signals.

Agreed. You would be giving him the impression you wanted it, then telling him you didn't, which, if anything, is going to confuse him. What you should be doing is saying no. At least that way he knows what you think.

Reply 8

OC_girl

If you would view having sex with him as being 'dodgy' then i think it's best if youavoid the situation as it is likely he will try it on and if you're feeling at all weak you might give in to his desires and later regret it.

Do you think this is dodgy?

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