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Feeling Low
Recently I've really started to feel low. and even depressed at times. Its starnge because I've alsways been so happy and cheerful and I've always been one of those people who's always smiling.
A few events have happened recently, I got my AS grades and missed A's by a few marks which really hit me. But I thought it would be fine because teachers would predict me higher and I can always resit. I've now found out I can resit but my predicted grades wont budge which I think is reallly unfair - 6/7 marks off and I have worked hard through the year. This means that I'm on borderline grades for the course i wanted to do and everyone is telling me to apply for my second choice but I really dont want to. So i have had to rethink uni, course and location. But i know that i cant do my second choice because i knwo i will end up hating the course, preoffesion and myself if i do go through with it.
Further, things at work are really horrible right now - the new manager is really nasty and tends to use me as a dogsbody, probably because I'm the youngest and quite naive and he knows i need this job for financial reasons. other people see it and just ignore it. the worst thing is that it is in a big depart,ent store so communication with store managers. etc is a bit hard. I know for a fact that the t*** wont give me time off for my exams and stuff in jan so thats also really stressing me out. I also applyed for two other ideal jobs and narrowly missed out on them after interview and i keep thinking "what did i do wrong" and its driving me mad.
On top of that, i recently failed my driving test for the secong time and its really getting to me.
Worst of all is other peoples reactions. My parents keep saying "Dont worry, try harder nect time" but i know they are so dissappointed with me and it makes me so sad to knwo i am doing this to them. other people tend to be shocked/surprised i didnt get my grades/job/pass my driving test and it really gets me down.
i dont really know the point of this post but i just feel so unsupported and unloved and like a failure - whats the point of living when i'll end up on my second choice course which i know i'll hate and ending up doing a job i dont like. i feel like i have worked hard but it is never good enough. sorry for the long rant.
A few events have happened recently, I got my AS grades and missed A's by a few marks which really hit me. But I thought it would be fine because teachers would predict me higher and I can always resit. I've now found out I can resit but my predicted grades wont budge which I think is reallly unfair - 6/7 marks off and I have worked hard through the year. This means that I'm on borderline grades for the course i wanted to do and everyone is telling me to apply for my second choice but I really dont want to. So i have had to rethink uni, course and location. But i know that i cant do my second choice because i knwo i will end up hating the course, preoffesion and myself if i do go through with it.
Further, things at work are really horrible right now - the new manager is really nasty and tends to use me as a dogsbody, probably because I'm the youngest and quite naive and he knows i need this job for financial reasons. other people see it and just ignore it. the worst thing is that it is in a big depart,ent store so communication with store managers. etc is a bit hard. I know for a fact that the t*** wont give me time off for my exams and stuff in jan so thats also really stressing me out. I also applyed for two other ideal jobs and narrowly missed out on them after interview and i keep thinking "what did i do wrong" and its driving me mad.
On top of that, i recently failed my driving test for the secong time and its really getting to me.
Worst of all is other peoples reactions. My parents keep saying "Dont worry, try harder nect time" but i know they are so dissappointed with me and it makes me so sad to knwo i am doing this to them. other people tend to be shocked/surprised i didnt get my grades/job/pass my driving test and it really gets me down.
i dont really know the point of this post but i just feel so unsupported and unloved and like a failure - whats the point of living when i'll end up on my second choice course which i know i'll hate and ending up doing a job i dont like. i feel like i have worked hard but it is never good enough. sorry for the long rant.
Wow, there's a lot to cover from this post!!
Ok, firstly you are not a failure, you received B's in your AS levels, a lot of people would be very, very happy at this!!
If you don't want to go on your second choice course, don't! There is always the option of taking a gap year and reapplying for Uni the next year, doing resits if you don't get your grades, or simply travelling for a bit. I left school far too many years ago with three Bs and a C at Alevel, and had no Uni offers. I went through Clearing and found an excellent course, it is totlly doable, do not panic!!! Grades are not as important in the long run as you'd think!
As for work, I remember awful part time student work, and the best advice I can give you is to keep looking for something new, don't worry about not getting jobs, it happens, eventually you'll be find something better If it seems like you're being bullied at work, talk to someone above your manager!
Thirdly Driving tests, this is not a big deal, it took four attempts for me to pass, and while its expensive to do, remember its quite stressful, and lots of people fail a few times, especially if its late in the month when you take the test!!!
Maybe you should talk to someone, a friend or relative, who won't brush it away, tell them you're upset and want to talk things through, believe me, once someone realises you're upset they'll start to listen more!!
I hope I could be of some help, sorry this is a long reply!!!
Ok, firstly you are not a failure, you received B's in your AS levels, a lot of people would be very, very happy at this!!
If you don't want to go on your second choice course, don't! There is always the option of taking a gap year and reapplying for Uni the next year, doing resits if you don't get your grades, or simply travelling for a bit. I left school far too many years ago with three Bs and a C at Alevel, and had no Uni offers. I went through Clearing and found an excellent course, it is totlly doable, do not panic!!! Grades are not as important in the long run as you'd think!
As for work, I remember awful part time student work, and the best advice I can give you is to keep looking for something new, don't worry about not getting jobs, it happens, eventually you'll be find something better If it seems like you're being bullied at work, talk to someone above your manager!
Thirdly Driving tests, this is not a big deal, it took four attempts for me to pass, and while its expensive to do, remember its quite stressful, and lots of people fail a few times, especially if its late in the month when you take the test!!!
Maybe you should talk to someone, a friend or relative, who won't brush it away, tell them you're upset and want to talk things through, believe me, once someone realises you're upset they'll start to listen more!!
I hope I could be of some help, sorry this is a long reply!!!
Testing times - but remember you will get through them.
I had a similar situation with a couple of my ASs and the hardest thing was dealing with 'the other people'. Having now done the A2s I realise that at least part of the reason for the missed As at AS was that AS tests different things from where my strengths are (i.e. I prefer the reasoning and argument of A2 rather than learning x y z and repeating x y z at AS). So in short, don't worry unduly about next year's results. Which makes me, and doubtless others, wonder why on earth your school/college will not predict you the grade above your achieved AS grade (almost a given at my school). On this front I'd say organise a meeting with head of year / headmaster to a) find out why they won't predict one up, and b) encourage them to have confidence in you to achieve the As.
I don't really feel qualified to comment on your other issues, but at work it looks like the best option is to contact higher management - however hard that might seem.
Chin up.
I had a similar situation with a couple of my ASs and the hardest thing was dealing with 'the other people'. Having now done the A2s I realise that at least part of the reason for the missed As at AS was that AS tests different things from where my strengths are (i.e. I prefer the reasoning and argument of A2 rather than learning x y z and repeating x y z at AS). So in short, don't worry unduly about next year's results. Which makes me, and doubtless others, wonder why on earth your school/college will not predict you the grade above your achieved AS grade (almost a given at my school). On this front I'd say organise a meeting with head of year / headmaster to a) find out why they won't predict one up, and b) encourage them to have confidence in you to achieve the As.
I don't really feel qualified to comment on your other issues, but at work it looks like the best option is to contact higher management - however hard that might seem.
Chin up.
You shouldn't get so depressed... I had gone through 2 depressions and now I think it's stupid that I did so. Life will go on and you should always know positive things are coming up. You'll soon find out the job you want and maybe your second choice uni won't be as bad as you thought, love might find you on the way there and be sure it really gives you energy and reason to live! Cheer up and think about the future, you surely have lots of moments to live for! 
Heya, thanks for replying so quickly. The work thing is hard because the manager is so sarky and mean and its not what he directly does, just indirectly. none of the co managers/supervisors like him but no one says anything as they know they will end up losing their job. he'll like leave this list of stuff to do for me when he clocks off, or tells others to keep an "eye" on me. He has tended to do this a lot to the younger people but most of them have left as they were only temp but I'm still there.
Driving - I knwo isnt a major issue but it just adds to the misery and i hate saying "yep, i passed 3rd/4th/5th time or no not yet" because people just would not expect me to.
I know i should feel content with my grades but i just feel like they're not good enough. I hate feeling like this and everyone now keeps asking "what you going to do for uni", etc and I feel so stressed as i really dont know.
I just feel so tired and stressed and i'm not sleeping too well as all this things keep going in my head and i try to ignore thinking about things like that at night but somehow they just creep up.
Driving - I knwo isnt a major issue but it just adds to the misery and i hate saying "yep, i passed 3rd/4th/5th time or no not yet" because people just would not expect me to.
I know i should feel content with my grades but i just feel like they're not good enough. I hate feeling like this and everyone now keeps asking "what you going to do for uni", etc and I feel so stressed as i really dont know.
I just feel so tired and stressed and i'm not sleeping too well as all this things keep going in my head and i try to ignore thinking about things like that at night but somehow they just creep up.
Sometimes your life will get really ****ty, u will feel terrible and everything seems to go wrong for u and right for everyone else. This happened to me for about a year. I honestly think the only things u can do are to talk to someone like a close friend or relative or just sit it out; things hav finally started to go well for me! I majorly stuffed up my AS grades, i was predicted all A's but ended up with total rubbish, meaning plenty of retakes and more seriously tedious and dull work on subjects i couldnt give a ****e about and by this stage resented.
As for your boss, mine was nasty and everyone hated him. he would pick on me and humiliate me. however you may find he is either moved on or sacked bcos people like that do not last in managerial positions for long especially if they don't get on with the staff. otherwise just try and stay out of his way. he's obviously a total bastard and is not worth worrying over. and u will not b in this job forever right? again just time.....
as for ur driving, well done for even taking your test!!! i've had nearly a years worth of lessons (major financial damage) and am still totally useless and a hazard on the roads. all my friends have passed which is a bit embarrassing
s i nearly ran over a cat last week. i don't think its really for me. i wouldnt worry bcos i know plenty of people who have failed time and time again before passing so im sure u'll get it one day!
you sound like u need a holiday or something. if u really don't know what to do next year or at uni how about a gap year? loads of people do it and it might put everything into perspective? just an idea...
good luck with everything!
As for your boss, mine was nasty and everyone hated him. he would pick on me and humiliate me. however you may find he is either moved on or sacked bcos people like that do not last in managerial positions for long especially if they don't get on with the staff. otherwise just try and stay out of his way. he's obviously a total bastard and is not worth worrying over. and u will not b in this job forever right? again just time.....
as for ur driving, well done for even taking your test!!! i've had nearly a years worth of lessons (major financial damage) and am still totally useless and a hazard on the roads. all my friends have passed which is a bit embarrassing
s i nearly ran over a cat last week. i don't think its really for me. i wouldnt worry bcos i know plenty of people who have failed time and time again before passing so im sure u'll get it one day!you sound like u need a holiday or something. if u really don't know what to do next year or at uni how about a gap year? loads of people do it and it might put everything into perspective? just an idea...
good luck with everything!
Try to stay positive; I've just recovered from a massive fit of depression and God it's not worth falling into it, it turns into a downward spiral and everything looks pointless. I got depressed when I was about 17 too and it led to me chucking away my uni offers and working in a supermarket for two years (have JUST pulled myself together and dragged my miserable butt to uni, lol!).
The trouble is with part-time work when you're at school is that people do tend to take advantage because they know you have evenings free, for instance, and also that you need the money. My managers always took the piss, 'scuse my French of course
, and it does make you feel awful.
As for driving...well, I'm 20 and I still can't legally drive. I have several mates (one of whom is a manager now in that store!) who can't drive. I only know about half a dozen people who passed first time - it's really common to have to make several attempts. Don't put so much pressure on yourself PM me if you like and keep smiling!
The trouble is with part-time work when you're at school is that people do tend to take advantage because they know you have evenings free, for instance, and also that you need the money. My managers always took the piss, 'scuse my French of course
, and it does make you feel awful.As for driving...well, I'm 20 and I still can't legally drive. I have several mates (one of whom is a manager now in that store!) who can't drive. I only know about half a dozen people who passed first time - it's really common to have to make several attempts. Don't put so much pressure on yourself
PM me if you like and keep smiling!Giliwoo
Feeling low? Get high
Also valid.
OP here. Yesterday was a particularly low day and i just needed to get things out. I didnt go college becuase I just felt so low but one of my friends got really worried when i didnt turn up or answer her calls and she rang the house and i think her and my mum had a long convo on me.
Basically, my mum realises I'm not being me right now and so me, her and dad had a longgg talk and basically i'm feeling much better today. I've decided I will apply to my 1st choice uni course and if i get rejected then oh well. maybe the 2nd choice aint so bad after that.
Everything else work, driving, predicted grades worries are still there and if i think about them for too long i do feel like breaking down and crying at times but at least i have on e problem solved - communication and not feeling so lonely.
its strange what a good talk with your parents can do. it was weird at first because we dont do this all talking about your feelings, etc in my family but i think we should more.
thanks to everyone who replied.
Basically, my mum realises I'm not being me right now and so me, her and dad had a longgg talk and basically i'm feeling much better today. I've decided I will apply to my 1st choice uni course and if i get rejected then oh well. maybe the 2nd choice aint so bad after that.
Everything else work, driving, predicted grades worries are still there and if i think about them for too long i do feel like breaking down and crying at times but at least i have on e problem solved - communication and not feeling so lonely.
its strange what a good talk with your parents can do. it was weird at first because we dont do this all talking about your feelings, etc in my family but i think we should more.
thanks to everyone who replied.
Least you got the support of your family that is something in the trying times for you.
I think your manager is a right bastard, your education comes first, don't take that kind of crap, stand up for yourself.
I quit my job because my manager was like that and my uni work was suffering because of him.
Finally you have nothing to be ashamed about with your grades, its the sort of grades i could only dream about.
I think your manager is a right bastard, your education comes first, don't take that kind of crap, stand up for yourself.
I quit my job because my manager was like that and my uni work was suffering because of him.
Finally you have nothing to be ashamed about with your grades, its the sort of grades i could only dream about.
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