The one in your head.

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How does a person begin to love, or love very quickly and is there such a thing as true love or love at first sight? There are tons of variables but I think this is one of the main ones which sparks that love... It is a subconcious thing.


Every person out there who desires a partner, at somepoint in their life usually early teens, or earlier or later, starts thinking about the opposite sex in romantic terms.

I have come to the conclusion that every person has an imaginary partner whether it is someone they think they would want to be with whether due to looks, interests, traits, personality etc. When you meet someone who has strong characteristics in relation to "the one if your head". Then that is where attraction and love comes from.

This is why, I think, some people believe in love at first sight. It is because the person is so close to your imaginary partner, that you believe the chances that you could deeply love the person are astronomically high.

I also believe that if you know someone who is close to that person in your head and you have a deep attraction to them, say a friend you have known for years but never told you have a deep attraction to, that person can actually mold and alter the imaginary one in your head. Due to that, it is entirely possible you can love someone even if you are not their partner!

What what really is true love? I believe true love to be when two people find a person they think is incredibly special to each other personally, when each person is so so close to the desired one in their heads, that it would be practicaly impossible to find someone else who matches so closely.
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I think I had love at first sight with my partner, purely in the sense that from the moment I met him my life changed course and would never be the same again - and the same for him.

He matches nothing from the 'boy in my head' except he has brown hair! He is niether tall, nor very slim. He's not posh, and he's not academic, he's certainly not rich!!

He doesnt do drugs which is good, but he loves cars which bore me. We dont have any hobbies in common really. All my imagination was wrong...but I realise now that image would have bored me to death. My partner keeps me constantly enthralled.

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(Original post by fredscarecrow)
I think I had love at first sight with my partner, purely in the sense that from the moment I met him my life changed course and would never be the same again - and the same for him.

He matches nothing from the 'boy in my head' except he has brown hair! He is niether tall, nor very slim. He's not posh, and he's not academic, he's certainly not rich!!

He doesnt do drugs which is good, but he loves cars which bore me. We dont have any hobbies in common really. All my imagination was wrong...but I realise now that image would have bored me to death. My partner keeps me constantly enthralled.

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Yeah, you can meet someone who is the complete opposite and it could work, you could spend your life with each other and be happy, some people in an abusive relationship would also say that........ That kind of relationship usually never begins with a wow factor though does it because you are not initially attracted due to the person not being someone you initially desire to be with. That kind of relationship is usually something you settle into, grow into. The person still may not actually be the best person for you though even if you love them.

All your imagination can't be wrong. If you think the guy in your head is one which is rich and such, then you miss my point of what I mean by the one in your head.

The one in your head does not necessarily have to be rich. You don't love someone because the person is rich. You don't love someone just because the person has all the same interests or vice versa. I am not talking about the one in your head like a fairy tale person who is bland under the skin. The fact is your true fairy tale guy could never ever be bland to you and you could never not be attracted to him. Apart from the things you can't choose due to everybody being a different person, this person is perfect for what you desire in a partner.

If you met a person like that... I think that is where love at first sight and true love stems from. Anyone who does meet someone who is close to that ideal, is an incredibly lucky person.
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