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Hey there, this started last night when my cousin took me out to bars with 4 girl friends to show me a bit of university night life (he's at hertfordshire while I'll be goin to Nottingham not trent). I went to a grammar school for boys only so I had never ever really been with girls let alone been in a relationship. My friends at school were a bit nerdy (doesnt matter to me cause theyare my best friends) instead of clubbing we hung out at each others house where I had a great time. Over the summer I had a make over and ditched the long hair for shortish dyed hair and having my ears pierced and a wardrobe makeover. So when I met up for the evening I did get comments from the girls how fit you are etc. However mid way thorugh we decided to take a break in a more quiet bar and this is where I got a bit embarassed.....
3 of the girls went off and I was left with my cousin and one of the girls and she asked me if I was single and if I thought any of them were fit. The conversation continued and out of nowhere she asked if I ever had a g/f I honestly replied no and I was met with giggles. It wasn't so bad until all 3 girls came back and they questioned me and tell me how much I have missed out.... then soon the virgininty question came out and I again answered honestly and the response by the girls were again really embarasing usually on the lines of OMG you have missed out and all the fit girls have done it etc.... the conversation was fortunately ended by my cousin and for the rest of the evening it got me thinking.....
i didn't regret stayin at the grammar as I didn't want to potentially mess up and I needed AAA And I don't regret being with my friends for another 2 years becuase we had a great time. But I just can't help but think that I may have missed out because since the begining of a levels I wanted to a serious relationship with another girl and what the girls told me last night didn't help....... any replys would be great....
3 of the girls went off and I was left with my cousin and one of the girls and she asked me if I was single and if I thought any of them were fit. The conversation continued and out of nowhere she asked if I ever had a g/f I honestly replied no and I was met with giggles. It wasn't so bad until all 3 girls came back and they questioned me and tell me how much I have missed out.... then soon the virgininty question came out and I again answered honestly and the response by the girls were again really embarasing usually on the lines of OMG you have missed out and all the fit girls have done it etc.... the conversation was fortunately ended by my cousin and for the rest of the evening it got me thinking.....
i didn't regret stayin at the grammar as I didn't want to potentially mess up and I needed AAA And I don't regret being with my friends for another 2 years becuase we had a great time. But I just can't help but think that I may have missed out because since the begining of a levels I wanted to a serious relationship with another girl and what the girls told me last night didn't help....... any replys would be great....
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We are very scary in packs, us girls. But really, I don't think it'll matter to the right girl that you haven't had any relationships. Don't let it matter to you. In the long run you'll be more glad you stayed at the grammar to get the results you needed than had a serious relationship with a girl and didn't get good grades. I can think of many people from my year who haven't had any relationships, and we went to a mixed school.
And if you have to concentrate on anything they said, concentrate on the part where they said you were fit, and take it as a compliment that they couldn't believe you hadn't gone out with anyone. I bet that's more how they meant it, than 'you geek, you should have had a girl by now YOU SOCIAL RECLUSE'.
Because you aren't a social recluse becasue of it. The right girl will come along. You don't have to spend time wishing for it.
And if you have to concentrate on anything they said, concentrate on the part where they said you were fit, and take it as a compliment that they couldn't believe you hadn't gone out with anyone. I bet that's more how they meant it, than 'you geek, you should have had a girl by now YOU SOCIAL RECLUSE'.
Because you aren't a social recluse becasue of it. The right girl will come along. You don't have to spend time wishing for it.
"instead of clubbing we hung out at each others house where I had a great time"
Yeh i bet you did
Yeh i bet you did
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Hey there, this started last night when my cousin took me out to bars with 4 girl friends to show me a bit of university night life (he's at hertfordshire while I'll be goin to Nottingham not trent). I went to a grammar school for boys only so I had never ever really been with girls let alone been in a relationship. My friends at school were a bit nerdy (doesnt matter to me cause theyare my best friends) instead of clubbing we hung out at each others house where I had a great time. Over the summer I had a make over and ditched the long hair for shortish dyed hair and having my ears pierced and a wardrobe makeover. So when I met up for the evening I did get comments from the girls how fit you are etc. However mid way thorugh we decided to take a break in a more quiet bar and this is where I got a bit embarassed.....
3 of the girls went off and I was left with my cousin and one of the girls and she asked me if I was single and if I thought any of them were fit. The conversation continued and out of nowhere she asked if I ever had a g/f I honestly replied no and I was met with giggles. It wasn't so bad until all 3 girls came back and they questioned me and tell me how much I have missed out.... then soon the virgininty question came out and I again answered honestly and the response by the girls were again really embarasing usually on the lines of OMG you have missed out and all the fit girls have done it etc.... the conversation was fortunately ended by my cousin and for the rest of the evening it got me thinking.....
i didn't regret stayin at the grammar as I didn't want to potentially mess up and I needed AAA And I don't regret being with my friends for another 2 years becuase we had a great time. But I just can't help but think that I may have missed out because since the begining of a levels I wanted to a serious relationship with another girl and what the girls told me last night didn't help....... any replys would be great....
3 of the girls went off and I was left with my cousin and one of the girls and she asked me if I was single and if I thought any of them were fit. The conversation continued and out of nowhere she asked if I ever had a g/f I honestly replied no and I was met with giggles. It wasn't so bad until all 3 girls came back and they questioned me and tell me how much I have missed out.... then soon the virgininty question came out and I again answered honestly and the response by the girls were again really embarasing usually on the lines of OMG you have missed out and all the fit girls have done it etc.... the conversation was fortunately ended by my cousin and for the rest of the evening it got me thinking.....
i didn't regret stayin at the grammar as I didn't want to potentially mess up and I needed AAA And I don't regret being with my friends for another 2 years becuase we had a great time. But I just can't help but think that I may have missed out because since the begining of a levels I wanted to a serious relationship with another girl and what the girls told me last night didn't help....... any replys would be great....
nope i dont hink you have misseed out, most people want more to life than having a gf or bf, now dont get me wrong there is a time when we all want a partner, however if you have enjoyed the past few years then you havent missed out. Just think of all the things you could have missed if you werent with your friends, i mean girls expect a lot from their bfs, your mature enough now to handle all the crap... dont worry. x
I'm 18, been at a mixed school/college all my life and have never had a proper relationship (ie one that is official and lasted more than a week). Sometimes I feel like I've missed out a bit but, thinking about it, I've not missed out on a great deal - I've had just as much of a social life as all my friends who have had long term relationships - all I've missed out on is the closeness I guess. I sometimes feel a bit like there's something clearly wrong with me to mean that I've not had a boyfriend like everyone else seems to have but all it really is is that I'm far too picky for my own good. Simple. This could all change at uni, just as it's likely to for you. Don't stress matey
squirly
I'm 18, been at a mixed school/college all my life and have never had a proper relationship (ie one that is official and lasted more than a week). Sometimes I feel like I've missed out a bit but, thinking about it, I've not missed out on a great deal - I've had just as much of a social life as all my friends who have had long term relationships - all I've missed out on is the closeness I guess. I sometimes feel a bit like there's something clearly wrong with me to mean that I've not had a boyfriend like everyone else seems to have but all it really is is that I'm far too picky for my own good. Simple. This could all change at uni, just as it's likely to for you. Don't stress matey
same here squirly
im way too picky tooIt doesn't even matter.
sidi
You've got it all to come. You've enjoyed your life so far - long may it continue!
exactly
enjoy your life and dont regret, you only live once after all! 
Anonymous
Hey there, this started last night when my cousin took me out to bars with 4 girl friends to show me a bit of university night life (he's at hertfordshire while I'll be goin to Nottingham not trent). I went to a grammar school for boys only so I had never ever really been with girls let alone been in a relationship. My friends at school were a bit nerdy (doesnt matter to me cause theyare my best friends) instead of clubbing we hung out at each others house where I had a great time. Over the summer I had a make over and ditched the long hair for shortish dyed hair and having my ears pierced and a wardrobe makeover. So when I met up for the evening I did get comments from the girls how fit you are etc. However mid way thorugh we decided to take a break in a more quiet bar and this is where I got a bit embarassed.....
3 of the girls went off and I was left with my cousin and one of the girls and she asked me if I was single and if I thought any of them were fit. The conversation continued and out of nowhere she asked if I ever had a g/f I honestly replied no and I was met with giggles. It wasn't so bad until all 3 girls came back and they questioned me and tell me how much I have missed out.... then soon the virgininty question came out and I again answered honestly and the response by the girls were again really embarasing usually on the lines of OMG you have missed out and all the fit girls have done it etc.... the conversation was fortunately ended by my cousin and for the rest of the evening it got me thinking.....
i didn't regret stayin at the grammar as I didn't want to potentially mess up and I needed AAA And I don't regret being with my friends for another 2 years becuase we had a great time. But I just can't help but think that I may have missed out because since the begining of a levels I wanted to a serious relationship with another girl and what the girls told me last night didn't help....... any replys would be great....
3 of the girls went off and I was left with my cousin and one of the girls and she asked me if I was single and if I thought any of them were fit. The conversation continued and out of nowhere she asked if I ever had a g/f I honestly replied no and I was met with giggles. It wasn't so bad until all 3 girls came back and they questioned me and tell me how much I have missed out.... then soon the virgininty question came out and I again answered honestly and the response by the girls were again really embarasing usually on the lines of OMG you have missed out and all the fit girls have done it etc.... the conversation was fortunately ended by my cousin and for the rest of the evening it got me thinking.....
i didn't regret stayin at the grammar as I didn't want to potentially mess up and I needed AAA And I don't regret being with my friends for another 2 years becuase we had a great time. But I just can't help but think that I may have missed out because since the begining of a levels I wanted to a serious relationship with another girl and what the girls told me last night didn't help....... any replys would be great....
Remeber that girls are just people. Don't jump into a relationship with the first girl you see. Don't let anyone take advantage of your naivety.
You're sweet, I'd much rather go out with you than some other arrogant prick. But then again, I've never gone out with boys either...
Meh I went to a girls school 
Even with the boys school about 100 feet away, I still didnt actually have any kind of relationship with ANYONE from there.
Sure I felt a bit weird that everyone was coupling up and i was always the spare part.... But then I took a good long look at the kind of guys that went to the boys school and suddenly didnt feel quite so bad about it
hehehe no i'm kidding I had my crushes just like everyone else.
BUT..... you shouldnt feel like you've missed out on ANYTHING. Surely you'd rather wait until you find someone you can really connect with and have a wonderful relationship than just go out with the first girl who offers herself to try and make yourself feel better??
I reckon its better to wait for aaages for the right person cos then it will have seemed worth every second
You've missed out on nothing - trust me the best is yet to come.
Even with the boys school about 100 feet away, I still didnt actually have any kind of relationship with ANYONE from there.
Sure I felt a bit weird that everyone was coupling up and i was always the spare part.... But then I took a good long look at the kind of guys that went to the boys school and suddenly didnt feel quite so bad about it
hehehe no i'm kidding I had my crushes just like everyone else.
BUT..... you shouldnt feel like you've missed out on ANYTHING. Surely you'd rather wait until you find someone you can really connect with and have a wonderful relationship than just go out with the first girl who offers herself to try and make yourself feel better??
I reckon its better to wait for aaages for the right person cos then it will have seemed worth every second
You've missed out on nothing - trust me the best is yet to come.
those girls sound like slappers to me. sorry, but i think its a bit much asking for sex when they've only just met you.
relationships arent everything. i didnt have a bf until i was 18 and at uni, and in fact in my life i have only kissed 2 guys and i do not wish to have sex. if i met a guy like you, i would be glad to meet an educated guy with standards, std free and who is after more than just one thing. your inexperience makes your first gf very lucky and your relationship would be very special. in fact i wish i had waited to be in a serious relationship before i had first kissed a guy.
its a bit differnt for me as i am religious but still, im sure some decent girl will be glad you waited
relationships arent everything. i didnt have a bf until i was 18 and at uni, and in fact in my life i have only kissed 2 guys and i do not wish to have sex. if i met a guy like you, i would be glad to meet an educated guy with standards, std free and who is after more than just one thing. your inexperience makes your first gf very lucky and your relationship would be very special. in fact i wish i had waited to be in a serious relationship before i had first kissed a guy.
its a bit differnt for me as i am religious but still, im sure some decent girl will be glad you waited
I'm going to uni soon and I've never had a proper relationship either, just some messed up on/off confusing thing with the same girl for years and years, that never even amounted to anything but which kept me from seeing other people.
Gotta admit I'm a bit nervous too, but let's face it, going to uni is probably going to change all our lives immensely, and more likely than not you'll meet someone or some people (whatever floats your boat) there.
Gotta admit I'm a bit nervous too, but let's face it, going to uni is probably going to change all our lives immensely, and more likely than not you'll meet someone or some people (whatever floats your boat) there.
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