aaargh

aaargh i dont understand my feelings...im feeling so confused and frustrated.
ive just started 6th form and im trying to be mature. i had a bad ending to yr11 when i made a fool of myself and this teacher found out i liked him. i no longer like him and i want to be mature. i however turned into a nervous wreck over the hols. now am back at school, i blush bright red whenever i see him and also when im walking to the department he is in, my tummy goes tight and i feel sick and well i dont like him anymore, im trying to be mature. if i no longer like him why am i acting like this? i want things to get back to normal but i cant cos i cant help blushing and feeling sick.

also is being shy immature? cos im quite a shy person and i dont want it to come out as immature.

Reply 1

OC_girl

You're perhaps just embarrased which is understandable. But pretending you're not concerned with the issue and hardly give it the time of day will help other people to forget. If you make a big deal of how mortified you feel about it then other people will make more of a big deal of it also.

Reply 2

khil

15

Lol it's not immature to be shy dear! That's just who you are and there's no need to be ashamed of it. What shows how mature you are is how you handle situations, problems and people and your views/mindset.

It's ok being concerned about the issue. And you're only like, 16 - there's lots of time to grow up yet and just give yourself time to learn, mature and grow. It's ok to take time - people don't expect you to be mature as a 40-year-old with her own children. Just be yourself. You can't "hurry" growing up.

Reply 3

Shreerac1

10

Hendrix was shy, don't say hes not cool.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

ok so its best to be myself...no matter what people may think even if they percieve it to be immature?

well i feel so bad over what i did, i dont know how to get back to normal. i know it was immature to fancy him but why do i feel all sick whenever i see him and i get a shock...i really want to be able to act normal. i want to show him ive grown up.

Reply 5

Shreerac1

10

Anonymous

ok so its best to be myself...no matter what people may think even if they percieve it to be immature?

well i feel so bad over what i did, i dont know how to get back to normal. i know it was immature to fancy him but why do i feel all sick whenever i see him and i get a shock...i really want to be able to act normal. i want to show him ive grown up.

Look you can't help how you feel, you can't help how mature you are. Things mature over time. You can't show him you're grown up if you're not grown up. You need to grow to grow up. Relax, everyone matures at a different rate.

Reply 6

pbrown

On the other hand, don't accept being immature and see yourself that way, or you might take longer to grow out of it. It might help just not to think about it, though that's hard in your situation. You've started your A level studies now, so try to focus on those, meeting new people, and you'll stop thinking about it.