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how am i gonna cope?

im going to uni TOMORROW! im kinda excited, but mainly scared and i seem to be crying a lot for some reason. its a big change, and im absolutely dreading having to leave my boyfriend. we are practically inseperable, and i really dont know how im going to cope being away from him. hes said hes gonna visit, n im gonna b coing home every so often but its just not going to be the same. i dont wanna ruin my uni experience just wishing i was with him all the time. x

Reply 1

Mr.God

Maybe it would've been a good idea for him to move with you or for you to go to uni closer to home.

Reply 2

Becca28

I know how you feel, I go to uni sunday, and am leaving my bf, but im moving to America for a year! I feel so guilty for leaving him and wish I could stay but my parents would actually kill me lol for staying here and missing out on an opportunity to study abroad. I'll be back at xmas but part of me thinks im gonna do a runner at the airport hehe...

Reply 3

in_vogue

You'll be fine. It's normal to be nervous, I'm ****ting myself! Moving uni to be closer to home/your boyfriend is not a good idea - you can't sacrifice your college choice for the sake of someone who might only be temporary (who knows? he could be out of your life this time next year).

Going to uni without him, and away from him, will be a good test of your relationship. It'll show how much you both want to stay in touch, how much effort the both of you make, etc. Try to keep him out of your mind at least for Fresher's week. Although it'll be hard, if you're moping around, sitting in a corner in your room with a photo of him in your hand, rocking back and forth and sobbing your little heart out, you';re not going to be making the most of it, and will probably regret it. Try and fill up all of your time on the first week, do as much stuff as you can fit into a day, and meet as many new people as possible.

It'll definitely be hard, but remember - you're still in the same country! Think about the people who are leaving boyfriends and family behind in India, in Australia, in Sweden, wherever it is they're coming from. At the end of the day, you;'re only a train ride away from him. Maybe you could fix a date already to travel home at the weekend - give yourself 2 weeks apart, and then travel home for a day or two. It could be that living apart from him makes you realize that you're still young, and you have a lot of growing to do yet. You're going to be meeting so many different people, and doing a load of different things that you might not have ever tried before. Go with the flow, and remember that if he loves you, and you love him as much as you think, your time apart won't matter.

I know it's really hard, but you have to hang in there and make the best of a bad situation. You don't mention if he's your first serious boyfriend, but if he is.... first relationships are rarely the Ones. Just really go for it, don't hold back, and make the most of this. You've got a great opportunity to both test your relationship and to have a great experience, so feel lucky! Hope this helped.xx :smile:

Reply 4

Schroedinger's Pandora

Your first year is a BLAST!!

You'll wonder why you ever fretted, believe me.. As soon as you settle in you'll forget you were ever worried at all. :smile:

Reply 5

username47781

It's natural to have fears and be upset, but once you settle in you will have the opportunities to meet new people and to enjoy social nights out, and regards to your boyfriend, there is plenty of time for him to come up and visit.

Reply 6

squigaletta

I'm in the same situation but I ahve two weeks left, I think you cope because you have to, it'll just go by day by day and it will all become narmal soon enough!

Reply 7

matt@internet

OP, you sound scary to me. No offense, but you need to chill. If your b/f knew you were on here telling us how you're not going to be able to cope without him, I think he'd be a bit scared. Believe me, it's going to be alright.

Reply 8

XxFilthyGorgeousxX

thanx matt! i feel fine actually now, excited bout going to uni :smile:

obv still a bit worried bout leaving him - after all it is my first proper relationship and ive fallen pretty hard for him. i mite sound stupid but i cant help the way i feel! x

Reply 9

Reue

You'll be fine! As im sure you can tell from our uni sub-forum, theres tonnes of awesome people you'll meet at uni, and for the first few dasy especially you'll porb be so busy you wont have time to get too upset about missing someone!