Are women aware of and have they ever used dread game against their SO?

Riku is mad as balls. They were going to spend time off TSR and sort out their unhealthy views on relationships, women, and masculinity. Instead they appear to have just gone on a sabbatical to a bunch of even worse forums and come back all the crazier for it.

yes thanks for that, 'mad as balls' lol, I believe you'll find there's a technical term for it

Also, TSR is now swarming with MRAs and their kind, as well as a few oppressive militant feminists, this place is kinda toxic

finally, 'they'? I'm a single person :/

TSR has always been swarming with those types. It's been a lot quieter lately than a few months ago when there was that massive spate of gender/anti-feminist type threads.

The singular they is a perfectly acceptable grammatical construct. I tend to default to it for anyone whose preferred pronoun I don't explicitly know - a symptom of lots of time spent around non-binary people.

This isn't unhealthy, Scrotgrot just said people manipulate each other 24/7. Everyone's a liar lol

TSR has always been swarming with those types. It's been a lot quieter lately than a few months ago when there was that massive spate of gender/anti-feminist type threads.

The singular they is a perfectly acceptable grammatical construct. I tend to default to it for anyone whose preferred pronoun I don't explicitly know - a symptom of lots of time spent around non-binary people.

It's incredibly unhealthy. And you're doing that thing of ignoring everyone who disagrees with you and taking the one person who does as proof that you're right.


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well, obviously I'm too honest for my own good, as I have never told interviewers about imaginary "other jobs on the table", and find the whole "gotta stay cool" thing annoying now

I would be more scared of losing a relationship, does that make me a woman? I'm so confused.

"not as harmonious as it should be" when are r'ships ever in harmony? Women love opportunistically, men idealistically

Don't be stupid, ideally you want a relaxed relationship without manipulation on either side, ain't nobody got time for that. However of course there are often disagreements in relationships and a lot of establishing boundaries in the early parts, so it's good to know how to respond to unreasonable behaviour.

No it doesn't make you a woman to be scared of losing a relationship, I was mainly making a point about how women do broadly equivalent things to manipulate their partners too, so it's not an exclusively male form of tyranny. Really the point is you probably are scared of losing the relationship (just as women actually do quite like having sex) but you do best by keeping your cards close to your chest.

You don't have to actually say it in that many words I don't suppose, and not sure it would work for a large company with a bureaucratic HR department, inflexible salary scheme etc. But for anyone else if you respond saying, "Ohmygod thanks so much I've been waiting for this my whole life" you are going to get fingered on the salary front.

Another example would be getting discounts on the phone. Insist to EE that you're a loyal customer who loves the latest tech but can't afford the new contract, and you're going to have to make the difficult decision to go to O2 instead. If you genuinely sound like you might carry through with the threat, they'll fall over themselves to offer discounts.

it's straight-up manipulation Odd. Nothing I've ever wanted to use on myself but my ex used on me a couple of times, intentionally or not...

This isn't unhealthy, Scrotgrot just said people manipulate each other 24/7. Everyone's a liar lol

I can understand doing this in business as capitalism has always been a game, but we are talking about people's hearts and self-concept here.

Having followed the progress and decline of your last relationship, I think you imagined these things.


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sorry if this is personal, if you are willing, can I ask what kinds of things she did to you? I'd like to now what to look out for, it's a big reason why I even look at TRP and its kind.

Riku is mad as balls. They were going to spend time off TSR and sort out their unhealthy views on relationships, women, and masculinity. Instead they appear to have just gone on a sabbatical to a bunch of even worse forums and come back all the crazier for it.

You spent the whole time imagining that she was cheating on you, you made threads every day analysing her actions, you obsessed over her friend 'superman' and even though she broke up with you over her family and religious pressures you wouldn't accept that as her reason


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Cancel plans at the last minute, avoid sex, run out the house in the middle of the night, stay overnight elsewhere, not communicate, self harm, refuse to talk to me, not put effort into the relationship, attempt suicide for attention, etc. It got pretty ridiculous. Due to her being judged a danger to herself she was sectioned at one point.

She had depression so for a while I was understanding, but you can't pin all of that to depression. I came to understand most of it stemmed from attention-seeking. I really did stick by her through a lot, but in the end of course I had to break up with her. Now she is dating some loser boy racer type, posting on Facebook about how happy she is. I deleted her. It sucks that I still have to see her three times a week at aikido (her boyfriend too), but I see it as a test of character.

I regret a lot of that now.she did make me feel uncomfortable re Superman though.

I should have told.her I was having intrusive thoughts about really unhealthy views on r ships and wanted her support. That it was about me my paranoia and trust issues after seeing my parents divorce, not her.

Idk whether that will go down with the next girl

I am not sure why you are singling me out for 'threads every day analysing her actions' though. I thought that is quite normal to query on the Relationships forum?