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    Do girls generally watch porn with their boyfriends or dress up naughty for them or pretend to be their celebrity fantasy?
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    Some do some don't. Simple as. I'm not sure how healthy pretending to be their celebrity fantasy or watching porn together is as it kind of detracts from the interaction and bond between you both. That's just my opinion though. Would be interested to see other responses
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    (Original post by Temporality)
    Some do some don't. Simple as. I'm not sure how healthy pretending to be their celebrity fantasy or watching porn together is as it kind of detracts from the interaction and bond between you both. That's just my opinion though. Would be interested to see other responses
    I'm pretty sure fantasies like that are healthy in relationship as they let out steam that might otherwise inspire cheating.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm pretty sure fantasies like that are healthy in relationship as they let out steam that might otherwise inspire cheating.
    That steam shouldn't really be there, in my opinion.
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    That steam shouldn't really be there, in my opinion.
    'Shouldn't' by what measure? It's perfectly natural to lust for others while in a relationship, wondering if the grass is greener on the other side. If you simply ignore those feelings they will probably cause feelings of resentment towards the other partner and even betrayal. Indulging in fantasies like porn or harmless roleplay with your partner is a way of defusing these curiosities in a great way that will only strengthen the relationship.
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    ...he asked, aggressively.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's perfectly natural to lust for others while in a relationship, wondering if the grass is greener on the other side.
    I dont agree it's natural or right to lust for other people while one is in a relationship. I've not lusted for someone else in a relationship and I'd be quite upset if I did so.

    If you simply ignore those feelings they will probably cause feelings of resentment towards the other partner and even betrayal. Indulging in fantasies like porn or harmless roleplay with your partner is a way of defusing these curiosities in a great way that will only strengthen the relationship
    It's not about ignoring the feelings if they don't exist in the first place.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    'Shouldn't' by what measure? It's perfectly natural to lust for others while in a relationship, wondering if the grass is greener on the other side. If you simply ignore those feelings they will probably cause feelings of resentment towards the other partner and even betrayal. Indulging in fantasies like porn or harmless roleplay with your partner is a way of defusing these curiosities in a great way that will only strengthen the relationship.

    Maybe because one should be satisfied enough, without having to "lust for others"?

    In this situation, it would only cause resentment if clearly, both partners are not entirely satisfied. "Wondering whether the grass is greener"...for goodness' sake.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Do girls generally watch porn with their boyfriends or dress up naughty for them or pretend to be their celebrity fantasy?
    Answering this question...it depends. Everyone has their different comfort zone, and each to their own, I guess.

    If a girl wants to watch pr0n with her guy, great. If not, great. But, I put to you this, should she have to? I mean pr0n isn't real and it's fantasy; I mean...if you have a gf, you have someone who could give you more satisfaction than someone on a computer screen could ever give you. As for pretending to be your celebrity fantasy...again, I struggle to see why? Surely the appeal is that she'd be anything but a celebrity? There's a real appeal about a nice down-to-earth, honest-to-goodness girl. But that's just me.
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    Maybe because one should be satisfied enough, without having to "lust for others"?

    In this situation, it would only cause resentment if clearly, both partners are not entirely satisfied. "Wondering whether the grass is greener"...for goodness' sake.
    If you sincerely believe that people in loving relationships will not and do not by the millions regularly experience lust for other people, especially as the years and decades go on and their sex lives begin to stale beneath priorities with careers and families, then I can only assume that you are naive or don't like the idea of your partner/future partner having flutters for others occasionally. It's perfectly human and I daresay it is also inevitable in the vast majority of relationships.

    (Original post by Temporality)
    I dont agree it's natural or right to lust for other people while one is in a relationship. I've not lusted for someone else in a relationship and I'd be quite upset if I did so.


    It's not about ignoring the feelings if they don't exist in the first place.
    You're a noble cookie. Other people are different to you, however, more human perhaps, and I daresay you will feel lust for others at some point even if it is no sooner than the late summer of marriage.
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    Answering this question...it depends. Everyone has their different comfort zone, and each to their own, I guess.

    If a girl wants to watch pr0n with her guy, great. If not, great. But, I put to you this, should she have to? I mean pr0n isn't real and it's fantasy; I mean...if you have a gf, you have someone who could give you more satisfaction than someone on a computer screen could ever give you. As for pretending to be your celebrity fantasy...again, I struggle to see why? Surely the appeal is that she'd be anything but a celebrity? There's a real appeal about a nice down-to-earth, honest-to-goodness girl. But that's just me.
    Have you ever actually been in a long-term relatipnship? Things become incredibly boring with even the prettiest of girls if you don't spice things up every now and then.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Do girls generally watch porn with their boyfriends or dress up naughty for them or pretend to be their celebrity fantasy?
    Answering this question...it depends. Everyone has their different comfort zone, and each to their own, I guess.

    If a girl wants to watch pr0n with her guy, great. If not, great. But, I put to you this, should she have to? I mean pr0n isn't real and it's fantasy; I mean...if you have a gf, you have someone who could give you more satisfaction than someone on a computer screen could ever give you. As for pretending to be your celebrity fantasy...again, I struggle to see why? Surely the appeal is that she'd be anything but a celebrity? There's a real appeal about a nice down-to-earth, honest-to-goodness girl. But that's just me.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    If you sincerely believe that people in loving relationships will not and do not by the millions regularly experience lust for other people, especially as the years and decades go on and their sex lives begin to stale beneath priorities with careers and families, then I can only assume that you are naive or don't like the idea of your partner/future partner having flutters for others occasionally. It's perfectly human and I daresay it is also inevitable in the vast majority of relationships.



    You're a noble cookie. Other people are different to you, however, more human perhaps, and I daresay you will feel lust for others at some point even if it is no sooner than the late summer of marriage.
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    Have you ever actually been in a long-term relatipnship? Things become incredibly boring with even the prettiest of girls if you don't spice things up every now and then.
    Unfortunately, no. But I'm saying this. I'd like to think that I have a bit of self-respect, decency and above all, respect . Heck. If I was with a girl...I would never think the grass is greener on the other side. Pr0n warps, and it's so distant from reality, you might as well class it as fiction.

    And also, it's naive because...you don't know what you got, until it's gone: I mean, you can lust for another girl (ie. by thinking the grass is greener) to the point where you break up in your relationship. OK. But what if that relationship is worse? I'd guess it's not conducive to a fulfilling relationship.

    But you can try different things and spice things up. I mean, sure, don't have chicken for every meal, but mix things up every now and then. (If you so happen to want to watch pr0n with your gf, hat's off; if she agrees, great. But don't pretend it's a release to prevent cheating. It isn't)

    That's just my $0.02, though. :cool:
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    (Original post by jammy4041)
    Unfortunately, no. But I'm saying this. I'd like to think that I have a bit of self-respect, decency and above all, respect . Heck. If I was with a girl...I would never think the grass is greener on the other side. Pr0n warps, and it's so distant from reality, you might as well class it as fiction.

    And also, it's naive because...you don't know what you got, until it's gone: I mean, you can lust for another girl (ie. by thinking the grass is greener) to the point where you break up in your relationship. OK. But what if that relationship is worse? I'd guess it's not conducive to a fulfilling relationship.

    But you can try different things and spice things up. I mean, sure, don't have chicken for every meal, but mix things up every now and then. (If you so happen to want to watch pr0n with your gf, hat's off; if she agrees, great. But don't pretend it's a release to prevent cheating. It isn't)

    That's just my $0.02, though. :cool:
    WTF is pr0n... Why can't you just say porn?
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    (Original post by LavenderBlueSky88)
    WTF is pr0n... Why can't you just say porn?
    pr0n
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    I have watched porn with my bf. Its kinda fun, we swap videos sometimes of things we would like to try ect.
    As for dressing up, yes I have dressed up naughty, but not as a celebrity or anything. Not sure how common that is
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    I have done both, no harm in it at all. His biggest fantasy came true when I was pregnant.
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    (Original post by Temporality)
    I dont agree it's natural or right to lust for other people while one is in a relationship. I've not lusted for someone else in a relationship and I'd be quite upset if I did so.


    It's not about ignoring the feelings if they don't exist in the first place.
    I completely agree.

    As soon as I've signed the contract to be a in a relationship with someone I gauge my eyeballs out, to ensure I don't find others attractive in the least. Then I get get eye implants if they dump me.

    Doesn't everyone do that?:s
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    (Original post by jammy4041)
    Unfortunately, no. But I'm saying this. I'd like to think that I have a bit of self-respect, decency and above all, respect . Heck. If I was with a girl...I would never think the grass is greener on the other side. Pr0n warps, and it's so distant from reality, you might as well class it as fiction.

    And also, it's naive because...you don't know what you got, until it's gone: I mean, you can lust for another girl (ie. by thinking the grass is greener) to the point where you break up in your relationship. OK. But what if that relationship is worse? I'd guess it's not conducive to a fulfilling relationship.

    But you can try different things and spice things up. I mean, sure, don't have chicken for every meal, but mix things up every now and then. (If you so happen to want to watch pr0n with your gf, hat's off; if she agrees, great. But don't pretend it's a release to prevent cheating. It isn't)

    That's just my $0.02, though. :cool:
    I've never thought any porn was better than my girlfriend, I've never thought the grass is greener. But at the same time I use it.

    Sometimes I'm horny and she's not, I don't really like feeling incredibly pent up, and she can tell when I am (because I find it hard to hide my emotions, and she can read me anyway) so I use it. Surely masturbating to porn counts as lusting for others?


    What's interesting is that I don't tend to enjoy anything if we've had a fight. And I think if someone was lusting after another whilst in a serious relationship they'd be in a position where they'd surely end up having a fight (not that that's why I've had fights with my girlfriend) and then it would either ground them a bit and they'd go "everything feels like **** right now" or they wouldn't.

    It's the one's who wouldn't that I'd be worried about.
 
 
 
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