trouble in the bedroom

hi. iv been going out with a guy for a while now and we decided to have sex. during the foreplay he was very aroused the whole time but when it came to starting to have sex and him putting on the condom he got soft and couldnt continue. i no he didnt cum. so i dunno what was such a big turn off. was it the though of sex with me? was it the thought of putting on a condom?? luv 2 hear any thoughts or advice, thanx

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Reply 1

squigaletta

My ex used to get really turned off by condoms, would say that there was nothing more off putting than the smell of latex, it could be that.

Reply 2

lala*

maybe he just got a case of the nerves? nothing you did wrong

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

Exactly the same thing has happened to me (the guy). I'm sure it wasn't anything wrong with you, and I doubt it was the condom either. More likely just nerves about not pleasing you! No idea what is was for me :frown:

Reply 4

BobMob

Nothing to do with you, don't make him feel bad about it.

It happens to every guy at some point.

Reply 5

notts

is he a virgin?

im guaranteeing you it will be nerves.

Reply 6

mattyboi2k8

Maybe your just utter crap? hehe

Reply 7

OC_girl

i think all's not lost, it's possible to resume foreplay until he regains his erection and then attempt intercourse again.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

One other thing. I'd talk to him and try to make him feel better bout it. Find out if there is a reason. Better to talk to him in my opinion. I'm sure he won't mind if you're nice and make him feel its ok.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

iv never asked him but im fairly sure he is

Reply 10

notts

Anonymous

iv never asked him but im fairly sure he is

to be honest, even if he isnt the first time you do it with a new partner is still nerve wracking.

dont worry about it, just keep trying if you want too.

what did he say about it? i presume he was really embarassed

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

iv never asked him but im fairly sure he is

It's nerves. Tell the guy you don't mind and your looking forward to trying again if he wants to :smile:

Reply 12

The_Bear

Does he have a big un? Could be a tight johnny restricting the blood flow, i bought a load of this one kind once and they were crap, way too tight.

Reply 13

cutandpasteandtwisty

Anonymous

iv never asked him but im fairly sure he is

Well don't ask him. It'll make him even more nervous!

Reply 14

zav

Prob because when you are into foreplay he is not nervous but when he has to stop and put it on it hits him. Try and be really casual about it and it will be ok.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

i acted normal like nothing happened becuase i had to get ready for work. i cud tell he was trying to do the same but you cud see on his face that sumtin was on his mind

Reply 16

notts

Anonymous

i acted normal like nothing happened becuase i had to get ready for work. i cud tell he was trying to do the same but you cud see on his face that sumtin was on his mind

obviously something is on his mind, the idea of sexual performance- pleasing the girl, lasting a long time, etc etc is a worry for guys.

are you a virgin too?

does it bother you? or are you willing to try again

Reply 17

The_Bear

You tried in the morning?! Thats a bad time for me anyway

Reply 18

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

during the foreplay he was very aroused the whole time but when it came to starting to have sex and him putting on the condom he got soft and couldnt continue

Tip for next time: less foreplay; more intercourse.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

it was late afternoon and im not a virgin. i wud try again a few more times and in different ways but without sounding nasty i can only be patient for so long. sex is an important part of a relationship and without it theres no real future. though im thinking way 2 far ahead. maybe it was a 1 of.