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Mum keeps calling me fat

This is more me venting than anything, sorry!
Basically i'm 18 years old and am currently a size 10. what's really getting me down is that my mum keeps saying that i'm fat and have let myself go. I used to be a really small size 8 because i never ate anything and when i did eat i'd make myself sick. This was only a year ago, and since then i've worked really hard to get over it and not make myself sick. My mum knows that i was bulimic, and helped me through it, which i guess is why i'm finding it really hurtful that she keeps saying i'm fat and that i need to eat less.
Anyway, sorry for ranting!

Reply 1

Dutchess of Doncaster

What an awful thing to do, ask her why she doesn't feel she can support you?

Edit: And, seeing as your mother appears incapable of human compassion, can I just say well well well done for making the decision to beat your eating disorder.

Reply 2

Mr.God

7

Jesus Christ! If I were you I'd be having a real go at her!

What size is she, out of curiousity? If I were you I'd pick on something about her, like her haircut or something.

Reply 3

Tennessee

She really shouldn't be saying this especially because of what happened in the past. Bring this up with your mum, tell her it hurts you, or that you don't like it. As simple as this sounds, my mum does things like that to me, but when eventually after putting up with it for so long i tell her, it never happens again and she always feels really bad and does the whole i'm a really loving mother thing for a while lol so just bring it up when she next makes the comment, it might work...and at least you'd be letting her know how you feel

Reply 4

notts

to put it bluntly, your mum is a bitch.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

She's only a size 8, which i guess is why she thinks it's ok to say it to me. Makes me feel awful though, coz it's not like i think i'm fat, but when someone keeps telling you someting it makes u think its true.

Reply 6

Tractor-girlie

My mum says the same that im fat or got a big bum but she is on the large size so doesnt want me to get big. Im size 10 and just take it that she is worried. Talk to her if it bothers you.

Reply 7

Er00

I thought it was bad my mum does it (I'm somewhere between a 6 and an 8 and my mum's been saying for years I should eat less....usually when she buys me a bra several sizes too small and I complain *rolls her eyes*) but if you had an eating disorder and she knew that..god...that's really bad :/ Have you told her how much it hurts? She may think she's just joking around without knowing that it's affecting you and stuff

Reply 8

kam

10

How long has she been saying this?
She supported you before so what's changed?
Maybe she's trying a different approach by just being negative to force you to prove her wrong or something?!

EDIT: Not sure how you would!

Reply 9

Adarah

16

Anonymous

This is more me venting than anything, sorry!
Basically i'm 18 years old and am currently a size 10. what's really getting me down is that my mum keeps saying that i'm fat and have let myself go. I used to be a really small size 8 because i never ate anything and when i did eat i'd make myself sick. This was only a year ago, and since then i've worked really hard to get over it and not make myself sick. My mum knows that i was bulimic, and helped me through it, which i guess is why i'm finding it really hurtful that she keeps saying i'm fat and that i need to eat less.
Anyway, sorry for ranting!

that's horrible! maybe if you talk to her about this and tell her how you really feel when she tells you this and that she will feel as guilty as she should and rethink what she's saying.

I don't know what your situation is, but I have a feeling your mum might have been party responsible in some way for you getting that eating disorder in the first place? If she calls you fat when you are only a size 10, then she must have some kind of distorted picture in her mind about beauty, similar to an anorexic person's world view. that might somehow have come through in comments she used to make and might have somehow set you on the path to developing an eating disorder in the first place.

I think it's important you confront your mother about everything so that she can take a good look at her own behaviour and maybe do a lot of hard thinking about her world view.

Reply 10

Tennessee

Anonymous

She's only a size 8, which i guess is why she thinks it's ok to say it to me. Makes me feel awful though, coz it's not like i think i'm fat, but when someone keeps telling you someting it makes u think its true.

Hey, don't make excuses for someone being horrible to you, be it your mother, or anyone else. She shouldn't be saying it...like i said, just let her know you don't like it, she should respond to that, and if she doesn't, well i'd say pull a guilt trip but lol hmmm

Reply 11

Qsteve

Anonymous

This is more me venting than anything, sorry!
Basically i'm 18 years old and am currently a size 10. what's really getting me down is that my mum keeps saying that i'm fat and have let myself go. I used to be a really small size 8 because i never ate anything and when i did eat i'd make myself sick. This was only a year ago, and since then i've worked really hard to get over it and not make myself sick. My mum knows that i was bulimic, and helped me through it, which i guess is why i'm finding it really hurtful that she keeps saying i'm fat and that i need to eat less.
Anyway, sorry for ranting!

What your mum's really saying is...."I'm fat and i wish i hadn't let myself go"

Reply 12

OC_girl

My mother used to make negative comments about my weight also but she seems to have stopped going that in the last few years after i made it clear it wasn't acceptable.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

Well if she says it again i'll confront her about it. She maybe doesn't realise that it's hurtful, although she should really coz she is my mum. Last year was pretty awful for everyone when they found out i was bulimic, i don't think she would intentionally want to make me feel fat.

Reply 14

receipt

so basically your mum is a bitch?

Reply 15

bunthulhu

14

What a bitch, that is so irresponsible of her to call you fat after you have managed to overcome your ED. Congratulations, I'm sure you look absolutely wonderful, and she is just bitter.

Reply 16

FireDeuce

14

Size 10 is NOT fat for the record. Your mum has no right to say that stuff.

Reply 17

TKR

15

LOL

your mum is a biatch

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

kam

How long has she been saying this?
She supported you before so what's changed?
Maybe she's trying a different approach by just being negative to force you to prove her wrong or something?!

EDIT: Not sure how you would!

She's been saying it for most of the summer, and she used to do it when i was about 13 but then i started starving myself so she stopped.
I guess what's changed is my size, but i hardly think going up one size is a problem, she obviously does though.
I don't know what approach she would be trying, as i got over my eating disorder and have eaten quite normally for the past 6 months or so. :frown:

Reply 19

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

Your mum sounds like my mum. A bit of a nutter.

Move out. I would never put up with that ****.

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