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    Moved in saturday,

    flat mates are nice people but they all seem to get on more with each other a lot more than me

    most of them are all very much into drinking and clubbing which i don't mind now and then but they want to do it everyday

    the official start of freshers was yesterday, and there's not something on everyday but they're filling those gaps with other clubs outside of uni etc

    pre drinks are very awkward, cant drink due to medical reasons, which the accepted but feel very left out (as you can imagine not drinking)

    I've had two introductory lecture kinda things, and most people arrived in groups and I did talk to quite a few people but it was very plain and basic hi's, no numbers were exchanged

    I'm planning on joining society's but do people go to these in groups?

    It just feels likes everyone gets on with their flat great and have already formed their group of friends and I'm just very lost
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    (Original post by jesscann1)
    Moved in saturday,

    flat mates are nice people but they all seem to get on more with each other a lot more than me

    most of them are all very much into drinking and clubbing which i don't mind now and then but they want to do it everyday

    the official start of freshers was yesterday, and there's not something on everyday but they're filling those gaps with other clubs outside of uni etc

    pre drinks are very awkward, cant drink due to medical reasons, which the accepted but feel very left out (as you can imagine not drinking)

    I've had two introductory lecture kinda things, and most people arrived in groups and I did talk to quite a few people but it was very plain and basic hi's, no numbers were exchanged

    I'm planning on joining society's but do people go to these in groups?

    It just feels likes everyone gets on with their flat great and have already formed their group of friends and I'm just very lost
    what uni are u at and what do u study?
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    (Original post by jacksonmeg)
    what uni are u at and what do u study?
    leeds beckett, psychology you?
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    (Original post by jesscann1)
    leeds beckett, psychology you?
    I'm leeds beckett doing criminology with psychology, halls you in?
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    sugarwell you?
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    opal 1/2, party halls!
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    how are you finding it?


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    It's too soon to worry, it takes many weeks for some people to settle into uni. I never got along with my first year flatmates. I had already had a year between uni and school so wasn't as much in the new found freedom mode as them. And the two of them just have more in common. I made friends through societies but it took a few weeks to start really hanging out with them.

    Societies vary a lot so at first go to as many as you can that you think might be interesting then you'll naturally settle into the ones you like best.

    I think you should also consider your own position in drinking things. One of my best friends from uni doesn't drink, never had a drop in her life and has no desire to. She always came out with us because she still enjoyed the chat and dancing. If you feel awkward then that's your feeling to deal with- assuming nobody was being an arse about it. Don't go if you don't want, there's no point if you don't see anyway to enjoy it but you can still enjoy it.
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    It always looks like everyone has already made friends. They haven't. They don't know each other. They are literally walking around with a group of strangers and it is a massive effort for all of them.

    People go to societies individually and in groups, it really doesn't matter. And don't worry if conversation is a bit superficial at the moment with people on your course, that's to be expected. You've met them twice, you're not going to form friendships immediately, and it would be pretty rapid to exchange numbers at that point as well. Just try and relax, ride the tide, look after yourself and try and be yourself. You will find people you can be with - give it a month.
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    (Original post by BKS)
    It's too soon to worry, it takes many weeks for some people to settle into uni. I never got along with my first year flatmates. I had already had a year between uni and school so wasn't as much in the new found freedom mode as them. And the two of them just have more in common. I made friends through societies but it took a few weeks to start really hanging out with them.

    Societies vary a lot so at first go to as many as you can that you think might be interesting then you'll naturally settle into the ones you like best.

    I think you should also consider your own position in drinking things. One of my best friends from uni doesn't drink, never had a drop in her life and has no desire to. She always came out with us because she still enjoyed the chat and dancing. If you feel awkward then that's your feeling to deal with- assuming nobody was being an arse about it. Don't go if you don't want, there's no point if you don't see anyway to enjoy it but you can still enjoy it.
    I actually like going to clubs but since i dont drink everyone kinda just ignores me at pre drinks etc and it can get very awkward, which is the main reason why I don't go with them when they do go out


    (Original post by Reord)
    It always looks like everyone has already made friends. They haven't. They don't know each other. They are literally walking around with a group of strangers and it is a massive effort for all of them.

    People go to societies individually and in groups, it really doesn't matter. And don't worry if conversation is a bit superficial at the moment with people on your course, that's to be expected. You've met them twice, you're not going to form friendships immediately, and it would be pretty rapid to exchange numbers at that point as well. Just try and relax, ride the tide, look after yourself and try and be yourself. You will find people you can be with - give it a month.
    I met someone on my course and we exchanged numbers and went to the freshers fair together, it's early days but still a (good?) start I think. I signed up for some societys and I think what you said about people just walking in groups as strangers is true



    I think it's more of a time thing, it is still the first week, just gonna stay positive and see what happens, thanks guys
 
 
 
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