No "new life attitude" in hometown university?

Many (or at least some) of us might be looking forward to finish secondary studies and start with an entirely fresh attitude at university.
New friends, new teachers, new location, new environment, new motivation... basically a new dimension that can help one to create a new life.

I was expecting that, and had prepared my mind and body to leave behind my earlier history to start again, to be independent in both negative and positive factors.
Unfortunately, inevitable events forced me to stay in my hometown, where I lived almost my entire life.

Although there are thousands of new people, new opportunities to make new ties... seeing again at your same university the few 2-3 individuals who marked bad experiences during your earlier years (early teens) somehow mark the environment, blocking any possibility to grow out and foster this new, fresh attitude, I wanted.

Or maybe, this is what I'm expecting. And expectations can lead to self-fullfilling prophecy.

Nevertheless, I would like to hear your opinions on how you would behave if you had to go to university in an environment you are kinda "fed up" with, especially when you will see many old characters from your negative past, whose very presence might sometimes demotivate you.

The trees, the roads, the buildings... ahh, everything is the same as before.

Reply 1

hixey101

thats a shame but you have to just make the best out of it. you can still make a fresh start, it is possible.

Reply 2

myrtille

15

Hopefully you won't have to see those people much, just because they're at your university. Most universities are pretty big places...

I don't know, I found it a big change just going to a college a few miles away from where I went to secondary school. I met new people, grew up a lot, and changed a lot. As far as I'm concerned, I did have a completely new life once I started college and didn't have to mix with all the people from my old school, although many of them did come to my college. So hopefully staying in the same place and seeing the odd person you know around shouldn't stop you from making new friends and being who you want to be a bit more.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

I read some cases in which students moved out of their house although going to a uni nearby. That's not my case. Will I become a "momma's boy"? :biggrin:

I live 15 minutes walk away from my future uni, so the only "advantage" I might have will be more responsibility in organizing parties, "tour guiding" etc. for the newcomers to the city (as if I have never done that earlier...)

Woe is me. I went to do some registration stuff and a friend I hadn't seen for more than 5 years, who turned out to be in second year, looked at me as if I was the last person he wanted to see that day. lol. Wonderful start!

Reply 4

Rainbow_Chick

1

You will become a "Momma boy" if you let her do everything. Im going to a uni in my hometown and im kind of fed up of the environment too. Im just hoping for the best i would have like to have made a new life somewhere else but i was not able too. Even tho im in my hometown i am thinking of it as a new start instead because there will be people that dont know you .

No "new life attitude" in hometown university?

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