Wanting friends to break up

I've only felt like that when the guy my friend was dating was a creep. If he's a nice guy, I don't have a problem with it. Do you feel like she's not spending enough time with you anymore or do you not like the guy or something?

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OP

Thanks for the super fast reply!

I would never try to break them up, and yes, of course i care for them both and want their happiness. I just want him to be mine :frown:

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Catalan Midget

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its normal, especially if the girl is a bitch (which happened in my case) its up to them to choose their future but you are entitled to an opinion

Reply 5

matt@internet

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Anonymous

I just want him to be mine

Ah, that explains it.

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Anonymous

I just want him to be mine :frown:

Ooooh. Now we're getting to the bottom of it.

:jerry:

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username47781

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Anonymous

Thanks for the super fast reply!

I would never try to break them up, and yes, of course i care for them both and want their happiness. I just want him to be mine :frown:

Jealousy is normal, but there's not much you can really do i am afraid.

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Why do you like this guy so much? What's so great about him?

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OP

Aeris

Why do you like this guy so much? What's so great about him?

It's going to sound stupid, but we 'click'. There is just this weird thing between us where we can tell each other very personal things and it's not embarrassing or awkward. Even now, he has a girlfriend, but we have the same closeness that we did before. We still spend hours in each others company – we’ve told each other our hopes, dreams and plans for the future. He has the rare ability to make me laugh until I cry and my sides ache. He's even cried in front of me (!).

In short, he's my best friend.

It just hurts to know that he doesn't want me. I know that i'll get over it in time, and i would never let it ruin our friendship but it still hurts...

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Anonymous

It's going to sound stupid, but we 'click'. There is just this weird thing between us where we can tell each other very personal things and it's not embarrassing or awkward. Even now, he has a girlfriend, but we have the same closeness that we did before. We still spend hours in each others company – we’ve told each other our hopes, dreams and plans for the future. He has the rare ability to make me laugh until I cry and my sides ache. He's even cried in front of me (!).

In short, he's my best friend.

It just hurts to know that he doesn't want me. I know that i'll get over it in time, and i would never let it ruin our friendship but it still hurts...

Oh so your best friend was the guy, not the girl...? :stupido2:

How long have you known the girl? How long has he known her?

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OP

We met her together, about 6 months ago. Though obviously he knows her better then i do.

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Well it sounds like you like him for all the right reasons. :smile:

I hope things work out. Give it time maybe and just try to be a good friend.

If I finally found a guy I was best friends with, and he started dating some girl, I would be a bit upset too. :redface:

Reply 13

OP

Thanks Aeris. It means a lot that you've tried to understand :smile:

Thanks to all the others that have replied too.

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LadyEnglish

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I've been in exactly the same situation, i think part of it was wanting to protect my close boy-friend from this girl because she is a tad bitchy and fickle. I was kind of mean in my case, i kept pointing out bad points about this girl and bringing up issues they had had to make him angry at her :redface:

. Like you I think i wanted him and I thought by spending time with him and being there when they had a fight he would somehow like me more but seriously you have to get over any illusion you have that they will break up and he will be with you if you are expieriencing those kind of feelings. Let them run the course of their relationship. It does seem to me your're being protective of your friend and your channeling this into believing you want him. Maybe now someone has him, you've only just realised you want him. I hope he ends up with you lol you sound nice :smile:

Good luck with everything xxx

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LadyEnglish

I've been in exactly the same situation, i think part of it was wanting to protect my close boy-friend from this girl because she is a tad bitchy and fickle. I was kind of mean in my case, i kept pointing out bad points about this girl and bringing up issues they had had to make him angry at her :redface:

. Like you I think i wanted him and I thought by spending time with him and being there when they had a fight he would somehow like me more but seriously you have to get over any illusion you have that they will break up and he will be with you if you are expieriencing those kind of feelings. Let them run the course of their relationship. ...

;yes;

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hippieglitter

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I used to feel this way about acouple of my friends one of them being my best friend. I decided to seek oyt the exact individual reason why i was jealous and i targetted the problem from that root. Now i just try to repress any jealousy i have for them and am hapy that they make each other so happy. I'm still not completely comfortable with so aspects of their relationship, but i'm working on it.

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pukey

Anonymous

It's going to sound stupid, but we 'click'. There is just this weird thing between us where we can tell each other very personal things and it's not embarrassing or awkward. Even now, he has a girlfriend, but we have the same closeness that we did before. We still spend hours in each others company – we’ve told each other our hopes, dreams and plans for the future. He has the rare ability to make me laugh until I cry and my sides ache. He's even cried in front of me (!).

In short, he's my best friend.

It just hurts to know that he doesn't want me. I know that i'll get over it in time, and i would never let it ruin our friendship but it still hurts...

Sounds like he wants you as a friend as much as he ever did... Based on the rest of your post, I don't see how you can possibley come to the conclusion that I underlined... *shrug*

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OP

LadyEnglish

Maybe now someone has him, you've only just realised you want him.

I've wanted him for a long time... I just never had the guts to tell him. Partly for fear of rejection, partly because i thought it might ruin our friendship. I regret that decision now though...

pukey

Sounds like he wants you as a friend as much as he ever did... Based on the rest of your post, I don't see how you can possibley come to the conclusion that I underlined... *shrug*

I know he wants me as a friend. And i know that he always will. I meant that it hurts that he doesn't want me in the romantic sense. I keep trying to figure out what she has that i don't and every time i come up short. I just can't work it out :frown:

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